Please feel free to introduce yourself and your blog in the comments. What brought you to Big Fat Deal? How long have you been reading? What are your hopes and dreams? What kind of pudding do you enjoy? What’s your favorite humming noise? Let’s share.
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Have you been tested for PCOS, Kelli? Contrary to what the doctors are saying nowadays, obesity in itself does not make you infertile…
Just wanted to pop in & say “hi”. You guys make me feel at home. :)
Kelli – I was 36 years old & a size 32 when I got pregnant. It *can* happen, and I sincerely hope it does for you, too. I know how heartbreaking it is to want a baby so bad you can barely function. It took us 7 years to have our little guy; but after all that time, my pregnancy was pretty uneventful (except for a cranky cervix & a bout with kidney stones early on – blech!).
Come on over & say hi! I’m at http://www.ChubbyMummy.com.
Hugs & positive thoughts for you, sweetie.
Hi everyone, my name is Sherly you can pronounce it like Shirley. I used to be size 6 or 8 before I got married and come to U.S to live. Since I got pregnant and gave birth, my weight has been going up to the roof. I am 4’10” and 145 lbs. I have been trying hard to diet and exercise. Joined weight watchers, yes they helped me to go down about 5 lbs from 150 lbs. However, after constant hunger that I feel all the time throughout my days and nights, I quit. I tried to exercise on elliptical only to find that I injuring both of my feet. Tried the exercise plan of walking at least 10,000 steps a day also didn’t work out so well. I got tired and not losing any weight.
I feel so depressed whenever I go anywhere because anytime I look into my closet, nothing seems to fit me. My jeans don’t serve me well on a fluctuating weight (sometimes I weight 140 then the next few days back on 145 again).
I dreaded the moments I go shopping for clothes. When I am there (department stores) I find some nice clothing, either it is way to expensive, no size for me or just simply ugly designs.
I came across this site by accident (searching for tips to dress for chubby women like me).
Nice to be in a place where I don’t feel like the only person “different” in the room. I am very conscious of my weight and come to a point where I realize I probably would never go back to size 8 again.
Hey I’m Bliss….weird name I know! But I actually stumbled across BFD looking for ideas on how to dress for pear shaped bodies. This website is just super fantastic!!!! I absolutely love it!!!!! There are so many great topics and I love reading all of the comments and getting everyones perspective. This summer I’m going to try and drop hopefully 7 pant sizes. I wanna be like a 7/8 and right now I’m at 20, gross. I just know this site will help.
Peace, Love & Bliss ^_^
Hi, I’m anne from australia. I just found this site today when I was looking for songs for big girls. It looks like a lovely place and I will definitely be popping back here!
I’ve gotten bigger over the past years with lots of negative comments, especially from my family. I have some big friends though, and a lovely chubby hubby who loves my body just as it is. I’m working on being healthier, but I have given up on trying to conform to anyone else’s ideas of beauty. I really love how big girls (and guys) look now and I am enjoying being a bbw.
Hi! I just stumbled across this site after searching for Gabourey Sidibe (who I think is awesome!). I am a big girl, and I always have been. I currently weigh around 400lbs, but I would like to lose a little as I have just been diagnosed with pre-diabetes.
Sometimes I feel like I am the most beautiful girl in the world, others I think that I am not. I have been married a year, and my husband loves me just the way I am (he can’t seem to get enough!). It is good to see a blog that inspires girls like me. I am going to keep visiting and read what you all have to say.
I would like to compliment you for the attempts you have hit in releasing this read. I am anticipating the same nice work from you again too.
Hi there – Michele Coppola from Portland, Oregon, here. Just found your blog on Blogher, and I’m impressed – great design!
I also write about big fat issues in pop culture, and am currently writing a semi-autobiographical novel about an unashamed fat woman working in the radio business, called Fat Girl DJ.
I’ll pass along things I find (and I’m finding quite a bit these days – thanks to Kevin Smith, fat is the new black) and I’ll check back often!
Oh – and choclate pudding is my favorite – combine that with a kazoo and you’ve got a full night’s entertainment as far as I’m concerned!
Hi.. love the site. I found it through a google search of the Kevin Smith SW issue and I love what you ladies are doing here. Just wish there was something like this when I was younger, would have helped me not be so bitter before I met my husband. But then trading insults with the low brow, fat haters in high school did help sharpen the wit a bit. Looking forward to reading all the great things here.*smiles*
I have been reading for awhile, but this morning, when catching up on my backlog of unread blogs, thought I should finally introduce myself. I’ve spent most of my life dealing with body image issues, both my own and those of my students.
I illustrate and write with the purpose of creating a positive, light-hearted approach to the difficult topics of negative body image and size acceptance.
hopes & dreams that all of the different voices and ways women are expressing our misery/anger/rebellion against this image-driven, body-hating culture will someday result in a healthier, happier emotional life for girls & women.
Favorite pudding? real banana custard pudding (made with whole milk & eggs) with vanilla wafers lining the bowl, topped with baked meringue. served warm of course!
I have been overweight my entire life.
I’m 18 years old and I recently grew sick of the struggle of trying to stay steady with my self control. I began taking diet pills in December and I have lost 40 pounds thus far; this is the first time I have been under 200 pounds since I can even remember.
It is so nice to look at the scale and see that I’m not as ..blessed.. as I used to be. I am very proud of myself, and my body feels great. I feel healthier, I feel the change.
And I finally feel beautiful.
I’m still around 185 pounds, yet I have finally obtained the confidence that I’ve deserved to have my teenage years.
Weight loss is definitely worth the struggle; it is a cleansing experience, both physically and mentally.
I am definitely not shooting down overweight people! I’m just proud of myself and want to express it.
No one will probably read this, but thanks for the listening.
:)
I used to be quite thin in school. I was always curvier than the other girls, though. One time this kid said about me, “She’s hot, but she has a big butt.” Which I guess wasn’t that great of a thing then, in boy’s opinions. I gained some weight after high school, lost it, and got in the best shape of my life. Healthy. Not starving myself like an idiot. I started dating someone who fed me well, and gained a bit back… I wasn’t working out regularly. He proceeded to tell me I was too fat and needed to work out. He said my cellulite bothered him. My self-esteem plummeted. We ended up breaking up (thankfully).
I met and married my husband, gained more weight… He’s very loving, and not at all like the ex. So he makes me feel good. I guess my only problem with being nearly 200 pounds is that I’m uncomfortable. ALL the time. My knees have always been bad. They’re horrible now. I can’t sleep well because my back hurts more. As for loving myself… Yeah, I’m working on that. I need to get to a healthier weight for my body, I guess. I know 5’9″ and 200lbs doesn’t sound that bad, but I must have bones made out of cardboard or something. I take my darned vitamins and eat well!
Anyway, the slim girl in me gets pissed off when people make “she needs to eat a damned cheeseburger” comments, because, DAMNIT!! Cheeseburgers are not heart healthy, and if the girl is too thin, she needs to eat healthy still to gain weight. The bigger girl on the outside is hurt constantly by comments. I’ve never been treated so poorly in my life. I’ve received “fat f-ing b****” comments, and “move your big ass” comments… It’s heartbreaking. And the two people inside me are tearing me apart. That is the reality of it. I have never been rude to ANYONE about weight, because I don’t think it’s fair. My mom has thyroid issues and has always been overweight. When people made comments about bigger women when I was younger, I mean… Those were fighting words.
I like some things about this site. The only things I don’t like are the negative things about thin people. It’s hurtful on both ends, and I’ve been there. And as for those “annoying” people who don’t have to diet or exercise to stay thin, one of my best friends is one of them. We used to wear the same size jeans. Okay, hers were a size smaller, but I could squeeze my booty into them. I just had to work a lot harder to stay fit. She could sit around and eat every single one of those cheeseburgers that people tell her to eat, and she’d probably just get bloated from all the darned salt and grease. As aggravating as her fast metabolism is to me, I love her and when people call her a skinny b****, or say she’s anorexic, it hurts me deeply for her.
Thanks for listening. I just wanted to say my piece.
Thanks, TM. I just wanted to say that I make every effort not to make negative comments about skinny people on this site; could you tell me what comments you’re talking about? Thanks, and welcome!
I love this site. I used to be a size 26, and now I am down to a 14/16 on top and an 18 on the bottom (sometimes my hips/booty are a blessing AND a curse!)
I’m glad to see a community of larger women who can be themselves. I’m definitely a new fan! <3
Hi, everyone. My name is Natalie. I’ve been a plus-sized girl for years and the funny thing is, when I stopped dieting (as I did for years) and threw away my scale, I stopped gaining weight… ha ha. Anyway, I’m happy with who I am, and find it hilarious when thinner, fatphobe people just don’t get that. I’m dating a real man who loves real women. He’s a breathtaking police officer, who doesn’t hide his affection for me and my body. I’ve known him for years and he knew me as a smaller girl and says I was hot then but I’m hotter now… ha ha.
Anyway, I love reading here, and thought I’d introduce myself.
hello! i’m brand spanking new here, and so far it looks awesome! great conversations, that’s for sure! i stumbled upon the website through a list that said “100 best blogs for healthy, home cooked meals.” (uh, haven’t found the correlation yet, but that’s neither here nor there.:)
about me? well, i just started blogging about my own diet experiment. i’ve been fairly health conscious for a few years now, trying to take care of this bod (i fancy myself a runner too!)but i always knew i could be better (i.e. more protein, less chocolate.) when i decided to do my first 1/2 marathon, i knew i needed to smarten up: eat better, not just run so i can treat myself to a snickers or two. so now i’m on the look out for a healthy diet plan, but considering the bagillion opinions out there, how do you know who to listen to? so i’m giving a few a-go, seeing not only how they work, but how they work – in real life. i mean, do they take into account the husband, your social life, your wallet? i guess we shall see…
as far as puddings, do you mean in the Bill Cosby sense, or in the traditional English? here in Australia, pudding can be almost any dessert. in that case, being a brownie connoisseur myself, i highly recommend the Guylian cafe. (yes, as in Guylian chocolate.) if you’re on the other side of the Pacific, Quiznos used to have an excellent version. do they still?
Hi guys, your blog makes you SO HAPPY. You don’t even know. I happen to run a newish blog called Fuck Yeah Skinny Chicks and I am trying to get in touch with other body acceptance bloggers. I’m really happy to find a fat acceptance blog that doesn’t hate skinny people! As I’m sure you’re aware skinny people have their own little set of problems, and I’m working to combat that because it’s currently an unfilled niche! Anyhow, I invite your to make a visit and get in touch. I hope we can be friends! :D
Hello everyone.
I have been reading for a while now and I absolutely love your website. I wanted to thank you all for helping me get through quite a few times of sadness.
Also I wanted to share a link to a video I stumbled across on you tube a while back. The song is so catchy and the woman in this video are absolutely beautiful. I hope you all enjoy.
How silly am I? I should probably post the link I was talking about.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKUGltGwN3U
Enjoy
Wonderful site and wonderful content! Really enjoyed the reading(which I normally have little time to do)and felt very connected to what many plus size women are sharing here as i have always been on the large side and been bullied scorned shamed and treated like a second class citizen for it.I own a portal for plus size women http://www.proudplus.com a place to celebrate our bounty and rejoice in who we are. Maybe we can exchange links? I found you through Twitter. Congrats again and many many thanks!
I found you while searching about thigh chafing and then started reading. Great site! I am trying to become more accepting of my body and stop torturing myself for not being a supermodel; my body pretty much decided at puberty that it wanted to weigh what it does despite what family and boyfriends may have wished. I think that being a bigger girl doesn’t mean that I have to lack style or be unfit — I work out every day — but I am happy to have found a place that is accepting of my desire to accept myself as I am.
Hi, wonderful blog and wonderful entries! I’m just working on building my website http://www.proudplus.com , a portal for curvy beauties while working full time as a community worker with marginalised people and commuting to work (2 hours through bendy pothole filled irish roads
)Stumbled upon this blog and we have some link exchange so im very thankful…enjoyed all entries. In roudlus.com we’re all for celebrating our bodies at any size, being proud of it and appreciating what it does for us(walks, dances cuddles babies, comforts friends, makes love,eats chocolate…)
Love funky clothes, chocolate and deep connections. If my body was a temple,(which it is) it would be an open air oak grove in the forest or a sandy beach in the Mediterranean Sea. There is where i worship and celebrate by playing with my doggie swimming and having a walk to clear my busy head.Thanks for reading and for sharing!
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This is my favorite fat-activism site. The articles are great. Thank you so much for putting your time into this. I appreciate my body so much more because of your efforts.
Sincerely,
Amber
hi there:) im cat:) iv been over weight all my life and am just sick of it! i weigh 84kg and i am only 15. iv been on diets all my life as well. i was looking on the internet on google for “how fat girls cope” and came across this fantastic website. it so nice to finally get some comments which are so true that i feel none of my friends feel. (they are all size 6, 7 or 8 and have the most amazing bodies and of corse all the guys love them) so its hard to go out with them and shop or even go to movies, because i constantley compare myself to them. but this website makes me feel so welcome and it is just so unbeliveably true! its so nice to finally hear what i feel from somebody else!
such and awesome webiste.xx
Hi I’m Nikki. 5’6″. 125. You are going to think this is more than a little weird. I’m not overweight. I’ve never been. However, I’m very curious about what it feels like to have some padding. Enough to actually put on a couple of pounds over the last few weeks and I kind of like it. It has been so fun eating things that I have denied myself, like a second slice of pizza, or a second bowl of ice cream. On top of that I now have a little belly and butt starting to peak out and it feels kind of sexy and comfortable. This seems wrong because so many try so hard to lose weight while I’m thinking about going the opposite. Not unhealthy, just pleasantly more plump. Most of my friends are athletic and they will notice. I care what they think, but not enough to stop the experiment.
Hi there, everyone.
My name is Melinda. I’ve been very thin all my life until recently. I was never bigger than a size 6. Now I’m a size 10-12. I weigh 160 lbs.
I gained weight because of depression and unresolved issues. Now I’m trying to motivate myself to be healthy.
Love the blog! Follow my journey to recover from Binge Eating Disorder at http://thebingediary.blogspot.com! xoxo
Love the blog …for the record it is not just woman ….men have some of the same problems :)
Please take a look at my new site
Welcome to the Fat Guys Rule (FGR) Website. This site is dedicated to all of the guys out there that know who they are and are happy with themselves. The ones that blow the BMI curve, know it, and accept it. We encourage you to be “Fat But Fit”. What does this mean? It’s OK to carry a few extra pounds as long as you stay fit enough to be healthy and happy. Chubby guys are more fun anyways.
Hey I’m Tina. I’m a big girl and I like it. I’ve always been put down because of my weight and where I live (florida if you’re wondering). Took me a long time to accept my body for what it is. The way I look at it is this, “I’m big, you’re ugly. Atleast I can change mine!”
Favorite pudding is chocolate swirl. Cecily brought me her. Been a reader as of today. My hope is to one day be a mother and teach them/him/her about respect for people, tolerance, and accpetance.
Oh and my favorite humming noise is sleeping. The pattern of breathe is amazing!
I’ve been reading this blog for the past few weeks, and it’s really hit home for me. I’m 20 years old and have been heavy all my life. It seems as I’ve transitioned from high school to college my weight has shifted to “fit” my body better, which makes me feel a little more comfortable in my own skin. I had major issues with self-esteem and self-worth during adolescence, and though I still have problems these days, I’m learning to love who I am, which in turn allows me to love others for who they are. I don’t plan on trying to get down to an “acceptable” weight (I wear a size 18/20 now), I’d just like to remain at my size. If I get bigger or smaller, that’s okay, because I know I’m loved and accepted by the people that really matter, and as long as I am healthy (and I am), I am happy.
I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me for who I am not only on the inside, but the outside as well (he says he is most attracted to me at my current size). We grew up together. He used to be pretty heavy but lost 100 lb by sheer willpower. I had a crush on him even at his heaviest, when we were in high school, and I love him just as much at this size. We got together a year after high school graduation. His pick-up line? “Sam, you have a big booty!” In the cutest, most dorky guy way ever, of course.
I’m in college pursuing a career in Public Health Education, and let me tell you: it is hard to be a fat girl in that profession! Being overweight is seen as smoking is seen–as a death wish. In fact, in my state if you have a BMI of over 40, you must pay much more in order to keep the state’s health insurance as an employee of the state. While wellness is the key to success in public health, there are still so many stigmas attached to having excess weight, whether you exercise every day or sit on your butt eating Cheetos. I’m hoping to bridge that gap someday, somehow.
I believe that “those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter, don’t mind.” I like coffee, cheese, and bitter vegetables (think cabbage, brussels sprouts & rutabagas). I keep tarantulas as a hobby. And I think bearded men are sexy.
See you all around the site! :)
Hi,
I am a 5’2″ 165lbs person. I used to weigh 185 but lost weight over the summer due to dental problems and other things.
I used to be real skinny when I was little but gained weight rapidly when from 7 grade to graduation, when I graduated I was 173lbs. I became diagnosed in 1998 with bi-polar disorder and was put on meds that made me gain up to 210 pounds. My weight then fluctuated from 195 to 185 over the next 12 years. I am on different meds for my bi-polar and it will cause weight gain.
I have never felt so good about myself and looking at magazine covers and tv shows featuring rail thin women doesn’t do good for my self esteem
Which is why I like celebrities such as Raven-Symone (though she has lost weight) and Gabourey Sidibe because they look like real women. I actually hope that in the future we will start to see more plus sized females, not just those that are size 12 but those that are size 20 or so. I think it’s time that people recognize us “fatties” as human beings and that the cause of being fat is not because of an “unhealthy lifestyle” or whatever. I am also getting sick of hearing about the “obesity epidemic”
About myself, I am a 30 year old college student and working for a BA in graphic communications. I have Asperger’s Disorder and I love to use Photoshop for making little things like mock album covers.
I’m Lissy. 24 year old grad student and retail worker with a passion for autism research, teaching and reading. I’m also 5’6 and about 250, size 18 (and the dreaded apple shape that often makes people ask me
when I’m due…to which i grimace and say “not pregnant asshole, just FAT)
I’ve been told my whole life by my family (and a few friends) that if i just lost 20 pounds I might have a shot a looking almost pretty. Guess what? about 2 years ago I lost around 50, bringing me down to just under 200. And I still got the same reaction – a few pounds off, and i might be pretty.
Surprise, surprise – when I graduated college, I gained it all back. And I’ve been miserable since. But I’ve realized something – I have to want to lose weight for ME and not so I can look pretty. And that’s what I struggle with (I’ve even screwed up more than one great relationship because I laugh/argue at/with a boyfriend when he calls me beautiful. And I stayed in a relationship that was terrible because the boyfriend agreed with me because he never called me beautiful…or pretty…or anything of that nature.) But I’m going to change that negative self view. Even if it involves standing naked in front of a mirror every day saying “YOU ARE NOT UGLY DAMN IT.” :)
Hi, I’m Cece, 26 years old and 5’11”-6’0″ depending on the day, and nearly 300 lbs. I wear a size 22-24 and I carry most of my weight in my hips, thighs and butt.
I have always been tall and always been big. I used to have serious self hate issues with it and would be very depressed about it, so much so that I’d become very antisocial (which is totally NOT me) and avoided going out and having fun or voicing my opinions to others because, why would anyone care what I have to say?
I’ve never really had an aversion to exercise, I actually like it if it’s something I like to do, and if I have a friend who does it with me it’s even better. I realize too that very often I was exercising for the wrong reasons and ended up giving up because the “results” didn’t happen quickly enough for me. However, this is me, and if people don’t like me then I don’t have to like them either! I like me, and I’m slowly coming out of my rut, embracing my rump, and feeling good about myself. Here’s hoping for a good, healthy mental and physical journey for all of us :)
“I’m big, you’re ugly. At least I can change mine!”
This is one of my favorite quotes, and I use it often.
Hi. I’m Cindy. I’m 16 years old at 5’2″ weighing around 108-110lbs. It seems like I am small, doesn’t it? I’m not. Unlike other girls at my school, I’m not all muscle. My weight is carried around my thighs, stomach, and arms. I also have wide shoulders which makes me feel awkward about my body even more.
I came across this website when I was looking for ways on feeling beautiful about myself.
When I was 15, I got stressed out a lot and mistakenly turned to food to make me feel better, I chose an extreme amount of junk food as well. I would always eat when I was doing something. I don’t think my body was able to catch up to how fast my skin was stretching and weight that I was gaining. I went from 93 to 108 in just a few months. I have many stretch marks on my legs and they are very noticeable. With that being said, I wear long pants, jeans, and leggings 24/7 unless I’m at home with just my small family.
I’m afraid someone will make fun of me and keep on bullying me for it. Or they would try to be my friend because they feel sorry for me and etc. My school has a good amount of immature bullies, which doesn’t help me at all.
I don’t even think that I will ever be able to find my ‘soul-mate’ (if he’s even out there) because I have stretch marks and a odd body shape. I don’t think that I can ever feel beautiful with my body. I don’t want to be a skinny anorexic model, I just want to even out my body to be able to feel beautiful and comfortable in my own skin around other people and find a guy who will accept me with all my imperfections..
I wish I could but I don’t feel like anyone will accept me if I did…
What brought you to Big Fat Deal?
I joined a BBW group on Facebook and they had linked to a Fat Rant video. This led to other searchings and led me here :)
How long have you been reading?
a few hours..
What are your hopes and dreams?
I am 25, married to a thin man lol–sometimes I’m not sure he appreciates me the way I am…I’m not skinny, never will be but I used to be thinner. However, genetics and age play a lot into that and the truth of the matter is…I’m happy! Of course it pisses me off that I can’t find my size in the adorable top at _______. BUT I can find my size in this similar top at (name of store that I LOVE and visit often both in person and online) and until ______ store carries my size they will not get ANY of my money–no matter how cute that accessory is. He loves me and I figure that if he loves ME then he loves me at a size 18/20 just as much as he’d love me at a size 12. Where I live there is NOTHING for BBW’s to do in public as a group whereas there are cities with entire clubs/bars etc dedicated to BBW and BHM. BUT I have started a local group of BBW to hang out and I’m hoping that this will be the start of a ripple effect resulting in more BBW/BHM establishments locally.
What kind of pudding do you enjoy?
Vanilla all the way! :)
What’s your favorite humming noise?
I don’t really know that I like humming noises…my ears are rather sensitive to certain frequencies and it makes me shiver…and not in a good way LOL
I would just like to say that I think it is MARVELOUS that you have started this blog and Fat Rant is amazing! :) I’m looking forward to following this blog!
Hi, I’m Jen. I came across this blog while procrastinating on editing my final paper for grad school. I’m about 5’5″ and between 110-115 lbs. I struggled a lot with body image problems as a teenager and that’s a battle that never really ends. I still find myself measuring my waist every so often and feeling inexplicably happy when the number is smaller than the last time. I quickly tell myself that is a really unhealthy and self-destructive thing to do, though, and put those thoughts in check.
I hate that the majority of media directed at women is centered around fixing or hiding flaws; it sends the message that, no matter what, there is always something wrong with you; your hair is the wrong color, the wrong texture, your clothes are ugly, you’re too fat, your skin is blotchy, you’re too short, wear these heels, the list is endless. I think it’s really destructive and sick that these articles are pushed on young girls. So that’s what inspired me to write here.
And now back to grad school land I go…
Hi, my name is Shelley.
I’m a 55 year-old fat and happy transsexual.
At six feet two inches tall and 260 pounds, I tend to rock the world.
It doesn’t bother me. As a matter of fact, I enjoy it.
My health is excellent (well, except for non-diabetic related peripheral neuropathy) and I’ve been weight stable to within 20 pounds for the past 20 years.
I was happy to hear that my “surgery” will not require weight loss, as, frankly the thought of going on a major weight loss roller coaster is one of the scariest things I can think of.
I don’t think I have ever been happier in my life.
I guess that’s it.
Beth Ditto brought me here. I was marvelling at her and thinking ‘boy, is it ever great to see someone with my particular body type, rockin’ out naked.’ It is so refreshing to see this reflected in the mainstream…
But once I started reading, I could not stop – references to Buffy, a holla at Sassy and so many quips and asides that I seriously started to question whether I’d written this whole blog in an adjacent dimension!
I love it here; welcoming, bold, balanced. Intelligence that reminds folks that fat does not equal stupid or out of control.
I applaud you and hope that more of is find each other… ‘Cause I think it is high time we’re seen and heard :)
What brought you to Big Fat Deal?
Your blog popped up on my google page! I was searching for nikki blonsky because I love her in the Hairspray Movie and wanted to see if she had more songs…. and this blog popped up!
How long have you been reading?
I’ve been reading for about an hour, and I am intrigued and kind of nervous… my body issues are a little different!
What are your hopes and dreams?
I’m only 17 years old but I’ve always been so self conscious of my scrawny “boyish” body. Boyish is what my mom “affectionately” calls my figure, but I’ve been called dike, transvestite, “he-she” and have been told i look like a 12 year old boy! I am the latest bloomer I know. All of my friends got their curves (and got every and ALL the boys they wanted) but i never went through that phase… the ideal woman in our society has huge boobs, a Kim kardashian butt and a tiny waist! It is such an unfair thing to try to live up to, whether one feels bigger and wishes to be smaller or if someone is like me and wants to feel sexy for once! I’ve never been called “hot” by a boy, or beautiful, and I have to think that it is because of my unappealing body. I eat like a horse… my friends call me a vacuum… but i can’t seem to gain weight in any of the right places (aka boobs and buttocks). Is there something wrong with me?! I deem myself the curveless wonder as a joke, but it is a sort of personal stab at myself. I am finally starting to come to terms that perhaps being voluptuous and sexy is just not in the genetic cards for me, and I’m finally starting to be more self confident with what mini-assets i have been endowed with. I hope and dream that someday I will find someone who will love me, boobs or no boobs! and will think that my body is fine the way it is, because then maybe I will be able to accept it and stop obsession over getting the “Kim Kardashian” or “J-Lo” or “Beyonce” body. I want to love MY body!!!
I also hope and dream to get into Vanderbilt next year… oh my!
What kind of pudding do you enjoy?
Dirt pudding, hands down. It is the best: a layer of banana pudding, a layer of crushed up oreos THEN a layer of gummy worms, a layer of whipped cream, and another layer of crushed oreos on top!!! if you haven’t tried it, you’re missing out.
What’s your favorite humming noise?
I prefer “la di da” or singing! Humming is too restricting :) lalalalalaaa
I am 24 weeks pregnant and about a size 20. I was an 18 when I first got pregnant!! I have a question for u all though, are you stomachs still squishy when u touch them? I am 24 weeks pregnant and I have a little bit of a bump but its also soft to the touch
Hi, I am Charlotte. My blog is http://www.life3dblog.com I blog about love, relationships, body image, food, pop culture and society, and how it is hard being a fabulous fat girl. I happened upon this blog b/c I was looking for blogs about positive images for women of size. I hope for my blog to go big and maybe end up on Oprah or the Oprah replacement. My fav pudding is mint chocolate. Favorite humming noise is my “Dream machine” that makes ocean sounds that help me sleep.
Hi! I’m a fat artist finishing my BFA in illustration. I’m doing my thesis on body acceptance and spend a lot of time in the good old blogosphere. I’ve come across this site more and more in my research and glad it exists!
I’m severely skeptical about the media, especially weight-related advertisements. When I heard a radio ad about the requirements for lap band surgery being lowered to 180 pounds I almost drove off the road. Literally.
I recently overcame a milestone by photographing myself in my underwear for part of my thesis art project. I can’t believe how liberated I feel. The next step is to overcome the fear of hundreds of other people seeing the result in my blog and at my art show.
Thank you for existing.
So i am an overweight ballet dancer and i am a male….many people look down on me for being bigger but is truggled with weight problems and eating disorders for far to long and i decided to ignore everyone and do what i wanted to pursue i am so glad to know that there is an outlet for us hefty dancers!
I found Big Fat Deal while suring the ‘Net on sites that arew Weight Watchers friendly. This site sounds like a good support group in between my Weight watchers meetings.
As a short person with years of weight issues, I can relate to the yo-yo diets and the usual stigma that goes with years of being overweight.
Hi, I am Cloud and I am a BBW and have been since I was 16. At 5’11 size 14 is my skinny size so despite the fact I wear a size 28, there is no running away from stares.
I have a Master’s Degree in Education and BA too. But ive never found a safe haven as a workplace because I feel I am self-hating and discriminationg against myself as much as others treating me like I am less intelligent and not what I really am.
I work way below my education for that reason alone, that and I suffer from Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome which is mainly why im 100 pounds overweight. It causes android obesity, acne, facial hair, hair loss, increased testosterone, infertility, hypo/hyperglycemia, depression, insulin resistance, and overwhelming hunger among other things. I most list this so others will understand it and get treated early on.
I love fashion, designing video game environments, computers, learning, FA issues, teaching tolerance, and helping others.
(btw blog is currently beign updated)
Hey. I’ve been overweight since the age of 9. I can pin point it exactly. I always knew i was different as your classmates and strangers always seem the need to tell you that you’re fat. Like you don’t know already! I came to terms with my curves when i was about 16 – i had my first boyfriend and started a job soon after where i found that quite a few men (older men) seemed to be interested in me, and this really gave my confidence a boost. That relationship past and a few years later i found my current partner. He confessed i was the biggest girl he’d ever been with, but was embracing the difference. at this point i was a UK size 16-18. As the relatioship developed, i gained weight. I developed a mental illness and gained even more weight through the medication i was given. I’ve been struggling with my size since and it doesn’t help being mentally ill either (my weight did not lead to my mental illness) I am currently a UK jean size 26, and a dress size 20/22. Being only 23 and wanting to keep up with the current trends is difficult as a lot of clothes shops out there seem to think that fat people don’t deserve or want to be fashionable and this makes me angry. Society needs to wake up! Fat can be beautiful if you dress it right. I’ll keep fighting my demons and i hope to lose the weight in time, until then all i can do is fight discrimination and try and be proud of myself.
Hi! I think that the BFD blog is fantastic! I am probably not your “normal” reader because I am very fit personal trainer, but at the same time, I AM the same as any other plus-size readers. I fought an eating disorder for ten years of my life which has brought me to devoting my life and time to helping others ACCEPT themselves and their bodies, no matter the shape or size. The most beautiful bodies are the ones worn with confidence — no matter the size. My favorite definition for “confidence” is the French equivalent — “bien dans sa peau,” which means “well in one’s skin.” So beautiful. We are all beautiful and the world needs to know. I grew up watching my father struggle with obesity and witnessed firsthand the terrible discrimination that society treated him with — I am determined as a personal trainer to impart a differnt message, a sense of self-love and self-worth, and an appreciation for all kinds of beauty with every person I encounter at the gym. I write a daily inspiration blog on body acceptance and on seeing the beauty in ourselves in our lives called Beautiful Body Bistro http://www.beautifulbodybistro.com ; please come join me in preaching and encouraging one another to find the real beauty that already exists in our current bodies.
Be yourself, you are already beautiful.
Love,
Trish
http://www.beautifulbodybistro.com
http://www.trishblackwell.com