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Have you been tested for PCOS, Kelli? Contrary to what the doctors are saying nowadays, obesity in itself does not make you infertile…
Just wanted to pop in & say “hi”. You guys make me feel at home. :)
Kelli – I was 36 years old & a size 32 when I got pregnant. It *can* happen, and I sincerely hope it does for you, too. I know how heartbreaking it is to want a baby so bad you can barely function. It took us 7 years to have our little guy; but after all that time, my pregnancy was pretty uneventful (except for a cranky cervix & a bout with kidney stones early on – blech!).
Come on over & say hi! I’m at http://www.ChubbyMummy.com.
Hugs & positive thoughts for you, sweetie.
Hi everyone, my name is Sherly you can pronounce it like Shirley. I used to be size 6 or 8 before I got married and come to U.S to live. Since I got pregnant and gave birth, my weight has been going up to the roof. I am 4’10″ and 145 lbs. I have been trying hard to diet and exercise. Joined weight watchers, yes they helped me to go down about 5 lbs from 150 lbs. However, after constant hunger that I feel all the time throughout my days and nights, I quit. I tried to exercise on elliptical only to find that I injuring both of my feet. Tried the exercise plan of walking at least 10,000 steps a day also didn’t work out so well. I got tired and not losing any weight.
I feel so depressed whenever I go anywhere because anytime I look into my closet, nothing seems to fit me. My jeans don’t serve me well on a fluctuating weight (sometimes I weight 140 then the next few days back on 145 again).
I dreaded the moments I go shopping for clothes. When I am there (department stores) I find some nice clothing, either it is way to expensive, no size for me or just simply ugly designs.
I came across this site by accident (searching for tips to dress for chubby women like me).
Nice to be in a place where I don’t feel like the only person “different” in the room. I am very conscious of my weight and come to a point where I realize I probably would never go back to size 8 again.
Hey I’m Bliss….weird name I know! But I actually stumbled across BFD looking for ideas on how to dress for pear shaped bodies. This website is just super fantastic!!!! I absolutely love it!!!!! There are so many great topics and I love reading all of the comments and getting everyones perspective. This summer I’m going to try and drop hopefully 7 pant sizes. I wanna be like a 7/8 and right now I’m at 20, gross. I just know this site will help.
Peace, Love & Bliss ^_^
Hi, I’m anne from australia. I just found this site today when I was looking for songs for big girls. It looks like a lovely place and I will definitely be popping back here!
I’ve gotten bigger over the past years with lots of negative comments, especially from my family. I have some big friends though, and a lovely chubby hubby who loves my body just as it is. I’m working on being healthier, but I have given up on trying to conform to anyone else’s ideas of beauty. I really love how big girls (and guys) look now and I am enjoying being a bbw.
Hi! I just stumbled across this site after searching for Gabourey Sidibe (who I think is awesome!). I am a big girl, and I always have been. I currently weigh around 400lbs, but I would like to lose a little as I have just been diagnosed with pre-diabetes.
Sometimes I feel like I am the most beautiful girl in the world, others I think that I am not. I have been married a year, and my husband loves me just the way I am (he can’t seem to get enough!). It is good to see a blog that inspires girls like me. I am going to keep visiting and read what you all have to say.
I would like to compliment you for the attempts you have hit in releasing this read. I am anticipating the same nice work from you again too.
Hi there – Michele Coppola from Portland, Oregon, here. Just found your blog on Blogher, and I’m impressed – great design!
I also write about big fat issues in pop culture, and am currently writing a semi-autobiographical novel about an unashamed fat woman working in the radio business, called Fat Girl DJ.
I’ll pass along things I find (and I’m finding quite a bit these days – thanks to Kevin Smith, fat is the new black) and I’ll check back often!
Oh – and choclate pudding is my favorite – combine that with a kazoo and you’ve got a full night’s entertainment as far as I’m concerned!
Hi.. love the site. I found it through a google search of the Kevin Smith SW issue and I love what you ladies are doing here. Just wish there was something like this when I was younger, would have helped me not be so bitter before I met my husband. But then trading insults with the low brow, fat haters in high school did help sharpen the wit a bit. Looking forward to reading all the great things here.*smiles*
I have been reading for awhile, but this morning, when catching up on my backlog of unread blogs, thought I should finally introduce myself. I’ve spent most of my life dealing with body image issues, both my own and those of my students.
I illustrate and write with the purpose of creating a positive, light-hearted approach to the difficult topics of negative body image and size acceptance.
hopes & dreams that all of the different voices and ways women are expressing our misery/anger/rebellion against this image-driven, body-hating culture will someday result in a healthier, happier emotional life for girls & women.
Favorite pudding? real banana custard pudding (made with whole milk & eggs) with vanilla wafers lining the bowl, topped with baked meringue. served warm of course!
I have been overweight my entire life.
I’m 18 years old and I recently grew sick of the struggle of trying to stay steady with my self control. I began taking diet pills in December and I have lost 40 pounds thus far; this is the first time I have been under 200 pounds since I can even remember.
It is so nice to look at the scale and see that I’m not as ..blessed.. as I used to be. I am very proud of myself, and my body feels great. I feel healthier, I feel the change.
And I finally feel beautiful.
I’m still around 185 pounds, yet I have finally obtained the confidence that I’ve deserved to have my teenage years.
Weight loss is definitely worth the struggle; it is a cleansing experience, both physically and mentally.
I am definitely not shooting down overweight people! I’m just proud of myself and want to express it.
No one will probably read this, but thanks for the listening.
:)
I used to be quite thin in school. I was always curvier than the other girls, though. One time this kid said about me, “She’s hot, but she has a big butt.” Which I guess wasn’t that great of a thing then, in boy’s opinions. I gained some weight after high school, lost it, and got in the best shape of my life. Healthy. Not starving myself like an idiot. I started dating someone who fed me well, and gained a bit back… I wasn’t working out regularly. He proceeded to tell me I was too fat and needed to work out. He said my cellulite bothered him. My self-esteem plummeted. We ended up breaking up (thankfully).
I met and married my husband, gained more weight… He’s very loving, and not at all like the ex. So he makes me feel good. I guess my only problem with being nearly 200 pounds is that I’m uncomfortable. ALL the time. My knees have always been bad. They’re horrible now. I can’t sleep well because my back hurts more. As for loving myself… Yeah, I’m working on that. I need to get to a healthier weight for my body, I guess. I know 5’9″ and 200lbs doesn’t sound that bad, but I must have bones made out of cardboard or something. I take my darned vitamins and eat well!
Anyway, the slim girl in me gets pissed off when people make “she needs to eat a damned cheeseburger” comments, because, DAMNIT!! Cheeseburgers are not heart healthy, and if the girl is too thin, she needs to eat healthy still to gain weight. The bigger girl on the outside is hurt constantly by comments. I’ve never been treated so poorly in my life. I’ve received “fat f-ing b****” comments, and “move your big ass” comments… It’s heartbreaking. And the two people inside me are tearing me apart. That is the reality of it. I have never been rude to ANYONE about weight, because I don’t think it’s fair. My mom has thyroid issues and has always been overweight. When people made comments about bigger women when I was younger, I mean… Those were fighting words.
I like some things about this site. The only things I don’t like are the negative things about thin people. It’s hurtful on both ends, and I’ve been there. And as for those “annoying” people who don’t have to diet or exercise to stay thin, one of my best friends is one of them. We used to wear the same size jeans. Okay, hers were a size smaller, but I could squeeze my booty into them. I just had to work a lot harder to stay fit. She could sit around and eat every single one of those cheeseburgers that people tell her to eat, and she’d probably just get bloated from all the darned salt and grease. As aggravating as her fast metabolism is to me, I love her and when people call her a skinny b****, or say she’s anorexic, it hurts me deeply for her.
Thanks for listening. I just wanted to say my piece.
Thanks, TM. I just wanted to say that I make every effort not to make negative comments about skinny people on this site; could you tell me what comments you’re talking about? Thanks, and welcome!
I love this site. I used to be a size 26, and now I am down to a 14/16 on top and an 18 on the bottom (sometimes my hips/booty are a blessing AND a curse!)
I’m glad to see a community of larger women who can be themselves. I’m definitely a new fan! <3
Hi, everyone. My name is Natalie. I’ve been a plus-sized girl for years and the funny thing is, when I stopped dieting (as I did for years) and threw away my scale, I stopped gaining weight… ha ha. Anyway, I’m happy with who I am, and find it hilarious when thinner, fatphobe people just don’t get that. I’m dating a real man who loves real women. He’s a breathtaking police officer, who doesn’t hide his affection for me and my body. I’ve known him for years and he knew me as a smaller girl and says I was hot then but I’m hotter now… ha ha.
Anyway, I love reading here, and thought I’d introduce myself.
hello! i’m brand spanking new here, and so far it looks awesome! great conversations, that’s for sure! i stumbled upon the website through a list that said “100 best blogs for healthy, home cooked meals.” (uh, haven’t found the correlation yet, but that’s neither here nor there.:)
about me? well, i just started blogging about my own diet experiment. i’ve been fairly health conscious for a few years now, trying to take care of this bod (i fancy myself a runner too!)but i always knew i could be better (i.e. more protein, less chocolate.) when i decided to do my first 1/2 marathon, i knew i needed to smarten up: eat better, not just run so i can treat myself to a snickers or two. so now i’m on the look out for a healthy diet plan, but considering the bagillion opinions out there, how do you know who to listen to? so i’m giving a few a-go, seeing not only how they work, but how they work – in real life. i mean, do they take into account the husband, your social life, your wallet? i guess we shall see…
as far as puddings, do you mean in the Bill Cosby sense, or in the traditional English? here in Australia, pudding can be almost any dessert. in that case, being a brownie connoisseur myself, i highly recommend the Guylian cafe. (yes, as in Guylian chocolate.) if you’re on the other side of the Pacific, Quiznos used to have an excellent version. do they still?
Hi guys, your blog makes you SO HAPPY. You don’t even know. I happen to run a newish blog called Fuck Yeah Skinny Chicks and I am trying to get in touch with other body acceptance bloggers. I’m really happy to find a fat acceptance blog that doesn’t hate skinny people! As I’m sure you’re aware skinny people have their own little set of problems, and I’m working to combat that because it’s currently an unfilled niche! Anyhow, I invite your to make a visit and get in touch. I hope we can be friends! :D
Hello everyone.
I have been reading for a while now and I absolutely love your website. I wanted to thank you all for helping me get through quite a few times of sadness.
Also I wanted to share a link to a video I stumbled across on you tube a while back. The song is so catchy and the woman in this video are absolutely beautiful. I hope you all enjoy.
How silly am I? I should probably post the link I was talking about.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKUGltGwN3U
Enjoy
Wonderful site and wonderful content! Really enjoyed the reading(which I normally have little time to do)and felt very connected to what many plus size women are sharing here as i have always been on the large side and been bullied scorned shamed and treated like a second class citizen for it.I own a portal for plus size women http://www.proudplus.com a place to celebrate our bounty and rejoice in who we are. Maybe we can exchange links? I found you through Twitter. Congrats again and many many thanks!
I found you while searching about thigh chafing and then started reading. Great site! I am trying to become more accepting of my body and stop torturing myself for not being a supermodel; my body pretty much decided at puberty that it wanted to weigh what it does despite what family and boyfriends may have wished. I think that being a bigger girl doesn’t mean that I have to lack style or be unfit — I work out every day — but I am happy to have found a place that is accepting of my desire to accept myself as I am.
Hi, wonderful blog and wonderful entries! I’m just working on building my website http://www.proudplus.com , a portal for curvy beauties while working full time as a community worker with marginalised people and commuting to work (2 hours through bendy pothole filled irish roads
)Stumbled upon this blog and we have some link exchange so im very thankful…enjoyed all entries. In roudlus.com we’re all for celebrating our bodies at any size, being proud of it and appreciating what it does for us(walks, dances cuddles babies, comforts friends, makes love,eats chocolate…)
Love funky clothes, chocolate and deep connections. If my body was a temple,(which it is) it would be an open air oak grove in the forest or a sandy beach in the Mediterranean Sea. There is where i worship and celebrate by playing with my doggie swimming and having a walk to clear my busy head.Thanks for reading and for sharing!
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