Hi!
Please feel free to introduce yourself and your blog in the comments. What brought you to Big Fat Deal? How long have you been reading? What are your hopes and dreams? What kind of pudding do you enjoy? What’s your favorite humming noise? Let’s share.
Ladies, the page looks delicious! Congratulations on the new design. :)
The new place is Nice! I started reading Weet almost three years ago (!!) and Weet took me to Mo and Mo to Big Fat Blog and Anne.
I really like what you write but the greatest thing of all is the comments section: smart funny ladies.
I write and delete blogs with astonishing frequency but the latest incarnation is a blog about me dealing with binge eatind disorder. I used to say that I was dealing with it on my own but the reality is I have books and blogs and message boards and I’m really not alone. So now I say that I’m dealing with it without a shrink.
And that’s it, sorry for the long comment but I just had to write my autobiography in third person as a test for a job and it let me feeling all wordy.
I don’t remember how I found BFD, perhaps through a Weetabix link back in ought four? However it happened, BFD had me at hello. I dream of being my current weight, but six feet tall. I enjoy rice pudding, and my favorite humming noise comes from my espresso machine.
My name is Heather. I stumbled upon the blog by doing a google search on….blogs for fat people! And I’m glad that I did b/c it’s made for some enjoyable reading and debates. I do read some other blogs but most of those get very nasty b/c the comments section get swarmed by trolls. Sure, you have a few here every now and a again but for the most part, everyone is respectful of everyone else.
My blog is http://3dayorbust.blogspot.com. I registered for the Breast Cancer 3 Day Walk and set up the blog mid-March in order to track my journey as I train for the event.
I also have a page set up for the event at: http://www.the3day.org/philadelphia07/heatherlee
Not sure why, but the link to my blog isn’t working. It’s http://3dayorbust.blogspot.com/
I don’t recall how I found BFD either. Maybe I was searching for Star Jones information like 50% of your audience :)
I enjoy cook and serve sugar-free, fat-free chocolate pudding with 1/4 a teaspoon of mint extract. Yum! And my favorite humming noise is when you hum with a kazoo in your mouth.
I think I found your through Weetabix, too, but I can’t remember. I think there are a lot of interesting discussions taking place on this blog, plus I like the shopping tips. I had gastic bypass a year ago - best decision I have ever made - and I have lost 130 pounds, but I have more to lose and I am trying to be ok with that.
The new layout is pretty!
I have been friends in real life with Mo, Anne and Weet for many years now, and this blog is of special interest to me because I am an obesity researcher. But I work with mice rather than humans, so it’s interesting to come here and read about some of the issues that don’t get considered in the lab.
Congratulations on the new digs, guys!
Hi! I found BFD through the Beauty Plus Power Blog. I don’t have my own blog, I just write confessional, obsessive comments on other people’s blogs! Thanks, ladies, for giving me a lot to think about!
Mongo like new blog. Fantastic color choices, and love me some big curves mud flap girl! Mama like.
I like pudding. Pudding has been a little to good to me. The Persians make a rice pudding with rose water and cardamon that is oddly wonderful and delicate.
You know how little kids hum/talk to themselves when they are alone and think nobody is around? I like that humming sound because it is interspersed with some of the funniest commentary ever.
Thanks for making, maintaining, and upgrading Big Fat Deal. It’s lovely.
I have been reading since BFD started because I will read anything that Mo and Weetabix write, when I am not dreaming of kissing them lustily right on the mouth. (I’ve only been reading Anne recently but preliminary data indicate that I will read anything she writes as well. I can only hope that kissing her right on the mouth may be an option).
I’ve done some work on the non-physical benefits of exercise so I am always interested when that subject comes up here. I am also obsessed with Kate Winslet so that works out well for me too.
My favorite pudding is super-sour Greek yogurt, either FAGE 0% or homemade EasiYo natural flavor. Sometimes I mix in some hot chocolate mix in there and ooh, girl. I like rice pudding and bread pudding as well.
My favorite humming noise comes from an appliance that rhymes with Smitachi Schmagic Swand.
Surfed onto Mopie’s other site…wow…years ago, when she was thinking of going to graduate school….maybe via Poundy? (Whatever happened to your parakeets, Mopie??)
I love BFD–and was thrilled when Weet and Anne began to contribute. Thanks, chicas!
Fantastic new site design!
I write about similar issues surrounding food, fat and feminism at my blog, http://www.the-f-word.org.
Oops, period messed up the link. Here’s a clickable link: http://www.the-f-word.org
Oh, you all know who I am. I read BFD because I like smart people.
What I would like to know is what’s up with all the sweet-as-yes-pie talk collecting a little demographic data, hmmm, Mo? Do I smell a potential book deal ? … Come on, you can tell meeeeeeeeeeee ….
Book deal! Wow, don’t I wish? Nope, it’s just curiosity… and wanting people to have a place to put their links!
But if you own a publishing company, feel free to drop me a line.
Okay, this is an email from a real person/photographer/artist.
You can click on the link below to see my real work/website.
I am working on an art project that is titled “The Edge of Excess.”
I am interpreting this theme regarding of how we form our bodies - often to excess in one manner or
another.
I have photographed a very muscular person (excessive fitness)
I have photographed a woman in a very risk-a pose (sexualization of our body)
I have photographed a man who looks anorexic (excessive thin/dieting)
and now… I need one more image…. of an excessively large person.
I am not asking you specifically. I don’t even know where you are located.
However, are you or do you know anyone who is in the Columbia, MO area who might be interested in modeling?
I don’t know if there is anyone in Missouri
who reads this site, but I am finding it hard to know what venue to look
for my model. (I have put up a crags List lists and a myspace request).
If anyone here might be interested, please email me at mm(at)costleyphotography(dot)com
Sincerely,
Martha
http://www.costleyphotography.com
Let’s see. Starting with the blog, I’ve been reading it for a couple of years now; who knows how I found it in the first place. I’m a runner, but I used to be about 80 pounds heavier with all sorts of problems (knees, etc) that kept me from being atheletic. Of course, they all went away when I lost the weight - funny, that. I enjoy the commentary, the camaraderie, and the downright cantakerousness of some of the other commenters here!
I believe that you can be happy at whatever weight you happen to be. I also believe - shockingly to some - that losing weight has opened a ton of doors for me and that I’m healthier and fitter because of it. I support anything that fights the fat person = bad person image that we have in this country … but I still feel that, by and large, we have a serious weight problem.
Feel free to disagree…
BTW, Martha (above): That’s “risque,” not “risk-a,” when you’re talking about an overtly sexual pose.
Love the new site! I have been reading for a few years; learned of the site through the wonderful Robyn of bitchypoo.com.
Hopes and dreams? I hope to muddle through this life and dream of finding happiness one day. Don’t like pudding much, but do enjoy coconut cream pudding on occasion! And my favorite humming noise is, of course, the one made by hummingbirds!
Richard,
I was obviously not an English major.
Buuut, thanks for the heads up.
Martha
I’ve just stumbled across this site while looking blogs similar to my own.
I’m a dietitian, and i’m just started with my own blog in the hope of proving no nonsense dietary advice for the masses!!
Fav pudding…definitely chocolate fudge cake!!!
Hi, I’m V’ron, and just noticed you moved! Nice new design (have to get used to it). My weightloss blog is called “This Time For Sure Rocky” because after years of yo-yoing, I decided I needed to go public with this, and have a bunch of anonymous people hold me accountable.
But I love this blog simply because once you’ve been really analyzing the whole weight thing, its not about points or calories, or scales, or such. It’s about how we look at ourselves, and for good or bad, how we look at ourselves is influenced by the media portrayal of fat vs. thin, the definitions of such, etc. BFD has been instrumental in my entire educational experience.
It’s also a great community of articulate people who have made me think hard, and that’s always a good thing.
I’m K, and I’ve been reading Mo for ages, firstly through Mr Ointy, which I probably got to from Lose The Buddha or Pound (my first blog, found by Googling “weight loss”). I’ve been reading since 2003 and blogging since 2005.
I read mostly for the body-image discussions, having been one of those teenage self-fulfilling prophecies. You know - you don’t exercise because you think you are fat and everyone will point and laugh?
A few years ago I got over this, became a lot fitter, and lost some weight in the process. But in general, when I exercise, I like my body. When I don’t, I don’t. The numbers on the scale don’t have much to do with it.
Pudding? I’ve rarely met a dessert I didn’t like, but if pressed I’d probably say chocolate brandy meringue.
Hi, I’m Eliza. I’ve known Mo for many moons, and I’ve also long been a faithful reader of the other sites of Anne & Weetabix. I’ve been reading BFD since its launch. My hopes and dreams largely center around no more Republicans in the White House and the renewal of “Friday Night Lights.” I’m not a huge fan of pudding, but I do enjoy ice cream, and I did once really love Jell-o Pudding Pops. My favorite humming noise is the white noisy waterfall sound on my nighttime sound machine.
just stumbled upon you guys during one of my many blog hunts. Great great blog.. have it linked to mine so I visit often
I have pretty much been reading BFD from the beginning. I think I found it through Lose the Buddha, but I’m not entirely sure. Not really sure on the hopes and dreams. Right now, it’s to lose the remaining 50 pounds on this stubborn, lazy body of mine (I’ve lost about 50 in the past 2.5 years), and to stop thinking, “I’ll [insert activity here] when I’m thin.”
As for my favorite pudding, it’d have to be my maternal great-grandmother’s homemade banana pudding with REAL banana slices, Nilla wafers, and Cool Whip on top. Yum.
And I don’t think I want to discuss my favorite humming sound. ;)
Hi, I’m Tart. I found your blog from Too Fat For Fashion. I’ve been reading for a couple of months and have read through all the archives. Made work go by alot faster. Unfortunately I can’t eat anything with sugar in it, so pudding is pretty much out.
My honey and I just started our own blog. It’s brand new so there aren’t alot of entries yet, but we’re working on that.
http://whowearsthepants.wordpress.com
Hi there -
I don’t remember how I found BFD - but I am glad I did!!! I love your new design- great, great graphic!!!
Bitchie
i’m not sure how i found y’all — probably the marathon day of googling that helped me fill out the weight/size/appearance politics part of my blogroll — but i know that i like. hurrah!
Hello there. I’ve been a long time reader lurker type. I always enjoy.
I found BFD about 9 minutes ago … and I’m more than a little stunned that I’ve never seen it before.
I think I just bookmarked the site 9 times … and I like pudding in the morning, preferably with cookies to dip. But only once a year, otherwise it spoils the mystery.
Peace people
We love you
I don’t even know how I found you gals, but I’m glad I did. I’ve enjoyed reading the entries and posting some replies.
Favorite pudding…a rich chocolate pudding that’s cold-room temperature. Also does anyone know if Jell-o still makes pudding pops? Cause they were so yummy.
I just landed here, not sure how. But I will be back.
Pudding: Rice.
That was easy!
I can’t believe I’ve never seen this blog before! You lovelies have a great thing going! I will most definitely be back.
I found this blog yesterday by following a link to a link to a link at least six times. I cheered what I read (yes, I really did cheer!) and added it to the list of blogs I absolutely must read. I love, love, love the wit and wisdom!
Favourite pudding: plain old chocolate - with coconut shavings in it!
Favourite buzzing sound: the milk frother. It makes me giggle. And I know there’s tasty froofy coffee drinks on the way, sort of the way cats recognise the sound of the can opener. Pavlov’s coffee?
Hi,
I found this site through a link on PastaQueen’s blog and the notice about Old Navy “changing their marketing strategy to take plus sizes ‘exclusively global’ by being online only. (Just a note on that - their stuff was hard enough to size, I sure as sh#t am not going to order it to have it not fit when I get it home and have to play the return game. Or maybe I will just to mess with them.)
I just started reading this today.
My favorite pudding is a nice homemade rice pudding with some cinnamon on top.
My dream is a that a philanthropist discovers me for my potential, decides to fund my lifestyle and I can become an artist and writer and historian.
Oh, and I keep Sea Monkeys as pets.
Hello!
My name is Marcy and I work for hipsandcurves.com I’ve been reading your blog for some time now. I absolutely LOVE the new design. Keep the new posts coming - and if you are ever in the need for some plus size lingerie send me an email! marcy@hipsandcurves.com :)
Hello there,
I stumbled on this site a while back when I googled the words “fat girl beautiful” when I needed some encouragement and promptly got hooked into reading the blog regularly.
Love the new site btw…
And for ladies looking for better things then OldNavy can offer…
go to bandlu.com
I found them through BUST magazine and fell in LOVE with their product line.
Continue the good work Ladies!
Hi. I’m Dagny. I’m a bad lady.
I found your site while surfing for other plus size websites. Great place you have here! Thank you! Rebecca
I just found this through my bloglines -I’m a plus fashion blogger. This blog looks and reads really well, I’m enjoying it!
hello! How does one sign up for this site? Let me know and thanks.
Joanna
I’m pretty sure you’re already signed up, Joanna! Comment away.
I like your blog, I have one that is along the same lines but with a more urban feel.
Keep up the good work, I’ll add you to my blogroll
http://thick.thumblogger.com/
Hey there–
Stumbled across your site and think it’s a great idea to address portrayals of weight in the media and how it relates to body image.
I’m a dance-fitness instructor / celebrity choreographer in Los Angeles. I’d love to contribute to your blog in some way — perhaps my take on the celebrity diet-isms here in L.A. or how to combat that poor body image that plagues many of us. Check out my site!
Love it. Love the shoes, love the bag, love everything.
I found this site through BlogHer. It has been a great encouragement to me as I continue to deal with the post-bulimia me. Thanks for the love ladies!!!
This is my first time here, but certainly won’t be my last! Glad I stumbled upon your site.
Hi, I just came across your site and it rocks, so I’m going to add the link to my site so I can remember to look on a regular basis.
Thnaks
Keep dreaming, Fatties
Wha-huh? I’m sorry, but there must be some way to take a bit of an internetz eraser to this maroon’s comment, eh? I mean, seriously yo.
found this blog on the rotund blog site links…I love your entries! It’s like reading my own thoughts and observations. Thank you for sharing your views. Keep singing out loud and proud!
I’m new here. As in, I’ve been here all of ten seconds new. But I wanted to say hello and that this is so awesome and I can’t wait to dig deeper into this blog! :)
I found this blog via Hello I Am Fat. I started a weight loss group called Future MILFs on my blog cause I need to lose 120 pounds and don’t want to do it alone. So far lots of funny ladies are losing with me. I’m only down 20..but heck it’s a start. I like this site and will be back for sure!
I found you guys through a google search that’s slightly embarrassing… either way, I’m glad I did, because it’s so, so nice to find people who are accepting of fatness. I wish I could feel that way about my 100 pounds overweight self. I especially wish my husband could feel that way.
Hi! I’ve been lurking around this blog for the past few months. It’s one of my favorites. I love the way you guys write and thought you might like to know about a great local artist in my area (who’s a lovely “full figured” lady) Desdamona.
http://minnesota.publicradio.org/display/web/2006/06/29/desdamonaprofile/
Towards the end of this interview she has a great poem called “Too Big for My Skin” that, I thought, totally encapsulated the positive messages of this site. I am not “too fat, too skinny, too white, too black” but “I am too big for my skin.”
I love your site, I have been reading it for several months now. I’m 51, and focusing on my health (yes it means losing weight - but I am not obssessed with the final scale number). My doctor and heart doctor recommended I loose 153 lbs - I’ll be happy when I feel my best — already I can breathe better and do more. So the number isn’t my goal.
My favorite pastime is spending time with my daughter and hubby, my favorite color is purple, and I love dragons.
Early this year I started The Diet Pulpit blog
http://thedietpulpit.wordpress.com/
I started it as a way to keep myself motivated to getting healthy and then got inspired to network with more and more folks, help others keep on tract to getting healthy - by focusing on health, happiness, humor. Even though there are tips for eating healthy, some diet, the main message is Health First, not size!
Incredible Shrinking Ladies is the blog my friend and I keep together about our journey back to health (started May 2006)
http://shrinkingladies.wordpress.com/
Lady Rose
Howdy, I’m E. Black. I found you guys through the Too Fat For Fashion blog. Just started reading today . My blog is just a vat of personal stuff with tons of commentary on society’s views of everything from weight to beauty to childbearing. It’s friends only but I’m open about who adds me on LJ (as long as you aren’t a fat hater or a stalker or just a hater in general).
http://enchanted-black.livejournal.com is where to find me.
E. Black
hey, i just found this site, and i’m pretty sure i’m going to keep checking back. i’m searching for a way to make myself believe that i’m beautiful. so, i’ll keep checking back.
I have read this blog for a while and just wanted to pop in and introduce myself. This place is a great resource to have.
Just started my writing down some of my own little rants and raves thanks to you all. You ladies are all very inspiring.
Hey girlie bugs! Love, double love, your site! I appreciate the humor, and the snark and the focus on health and losing weight the RIGHT way. ;)
way to go.
I am new to this site. I recently attained 375 pounds with a 60″ waist for a large 6-2 man. As soon as I can figure out to attach a picture, I will do so. Over the last two years I moved up from 280 to 375 and am looking forward to growing larger and rounder. My goal is to be around 600 or as large as I can be and still be able to walk. Traveling has been interesting - the last flight I spilled over in to the other seat after putting on my second seat belt. Finding pants sizes over 60 in stores is also becoming a challenge. On I go. I hope this blog is a positive one for me as a fat man who likes being large and wants to get bigger.
I’ve been reading you for a little while… I found you from Miss Elizalou (http://www.elizalou.com/blog/) and I thought I’d introduce myself.
I’m 30 (ack!), recently married and my husband and I both have battled with our weight our entire lives. We do what we can to love ourselves and attempt to be healthy.
Anyway, I love this blog! Keep up the amazing work.
ps
These girls rock: http://glamazongirls.com/index.html
I’ve been quietly lurking for about a month. I don’t recall how, but I’m very happy I found you! I love the witt and the debates, it all makes for fun reading and motivation.
I have hopes of sticking with a healthy, active lifestyle for the rest of my life. I dream of fitting comfortably into a kayak and kayaking around on a crystal clear lake in Alaska with Eagles flying over head.
My favorite pudding is fat free / sugar free chocolate. mmmm! My favorite humming noise is probably my grandbaby learning to blow bubbles. She sounds like a little motor about ready to start.
Great blog! I love it! Thanks,
Kaye
Hi! I’m spacedcowgirl. I’m pretty sure I found this site through PastaQueen’s blog, which in turn I found when I turned 30 and started Weight Watchers. I’m trying to lose a total of 118 (WW goal) to 138 (personal goal) pounds and am currently 64 pounds into that. My hopes and dreams include getting the compulsive eating monkey off my back and being healthy. I’m very interested in political, social, and gender issues related to fat, and I’m thrilled that people like you guys and Kate Harding are out there, not to mention all of the great, smart diet bloggers like PastaQueen, Dietgirl, and NicoleW who also put thought into these issues and always give me something new to think about. I’m trying to get healthy, not turn into an insane calorie-counting obsessive who has forgotten everything I once knew about all the complicated factors that have gone into making me fat.
My favorite pudding doesn’t seem to exist anymore. :( It was called Cloud 10 and came in delicious chocolate, vanilla bean, rice, and dulce de leche flavors. Absolutely heavenly.
Favorite humming sound… hmm. I’m not sure I have one. Most humming noises are annoying.
Thanks for the great site!
What brought you to Big Fat Deal?
I stumbled here from somewhere….have done it a few times now. i love the fresh voice and the take charge attitude. i love the way you guys embrace the bodies you’re in…..nice for a change.
How long have you been reading? not really sure since each time has been a “stumble”
What are your hopes and dreams? oh, i have several…the ones most relevant on my blog currently are getting healthier…fitter. this includes losing “sum” weight but not all of it. i hope and dream to find a beter job..though i dont blog about that much…currently in a serious relationship with a guy who jsut finished up his PhD. nowhere to go but marriage now…..i’ve been posting more and more and bout that lately too.
What kind of pudding do you enjoy? oh! i love the Chocolate Lover’s one by…….is is Duncan Hines? thats sooo good. that pudding must have put at least 20lbs on me…(giggle)
What’s your favorite humming noise? uh….i am not sure about this…………but i do love the sound of the car alarm honk when my bf comes over….its how i know he’s only steps away from walking in my door…….
Actually, I never knew there were such things as fat activists or an official movement against size discrimination. But I’m right there with you all with my virtual picket sign. “Amen, Sistahs!” I am struggling to lose the weight, but also doing my share of occasional rants when the world deserves them.
My blog can be found at http://nataliesotherblog.blogspot.com.
what brought me here? I googled “i’m fat and it’s okay’ because this year I got sick of not wearing skirts and shorts in the summer. I was ashamed of my legs and considered myself subhuman because I’m plus size. And I’m not!!
I just got off on Youtube. This guy and girl posted a video on YouTube saying that guys should not date fat women but should be allowed to F&@K them!
This is an outrage!
Here’s the link:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=OUzvmJUNQSY
The guy can be emailed at:
skyy@skyyjohn.com
He’s an unemployed actor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and pardon my french, a foreigner!
I found my way here through a random, self-hating Google search on fat people. I immediately fell in love with the blog. I only just got here, but I’ll probably keep coming back. :)
Me? I’m, uh… Well. I don’t eat pudding of any kind, and my favourite humming noise is probably that of my trusty laptop. I dream of happiness, being able to afford Playstation 3, strange crimes and downhill skiing (for some reason), losing weight and, currently, Hatake Kakashi of the Naruto animation series. And I feel it’s relevant to add that I’m approaching 30 years of age. :D
I found this blog after searching for fat positvie information. I was so sick and tired of feeling subhuman, and I was frozen in my life for years, I have always been “fat” and teased and harrassed about it even when I was a fit and very active child. What happened was that I kept internalizing all the negative bullshit that was being pushed on me, and finally one very low and late night I punched fat positive into the search engine, I found the NAAFA site which led me over here and I have been a loyal fan ever since, that was over a year ago. I love this site, the discussions, the links, and it is a part of my day that I enjoy and set aside for myself, it is a neccessary tool in trying to erase the negative self talk that has plauged me for so long, and replace it with positive thoughts. My self-worth is no longer about “losing” or “gaining” weight for me anymore, my body is part of me, it is about caring for it, loving and nurturing myself in healthy ways. So it is true BFD is part of a nutritious breakfast :). My favorite pudding is no-name brand chocolate fudge, and my favourite humming noise is when you put a blade of grass between your thumbs and blow, it’s kind of more like a whistle I guess, but it’s fun either way. Thanks a lot, for this site, all of you beautiful people have really been a postive influence in my life, hugs and kisses for all :).
Hola! I found you from one of my fav mag’s sites, Bust. Somebody there thought we should know about you and I’m glad they did.
I’m here and I’m addicted because body image has been something that has defined me since I was about 12. Can’t stand the fact that my being a larger gal causes people to think that they can comment on it.
I love rock and roll, dirty restaurants with good food, conversation, my husband, (who’s a cook;) snappin’ photos, plantin’ flowers, manners, anything retro.
Oh yeah…I talk too much.
Hey, I just found this site and am sad that I didn’t find it sooner! I’m a beautiful fat chick and am proud of it.
Hi guys…I am a flabuless diva…ok so I am on a diet but I love my curves so wont be losing them anytime soon. I am all about getting healthy and experiencing life to the fullest. Come by my cyber home for a coffee…anytime..you might have to make it yourself though!
Finding Flabuless
:) Flabuless
I found this site by accident but then again nothing is really accident I am a fat fablous femme. I really get irritated by the thin obessed world and the nonsense us plus size divas experience but then i think about all those negative people and someday they will stand before our maker and have to give an account of how they treat others and I dont want to be those people. That makes life a bit bearable….
I found this page through a link, I think it was the Red3 blog. I’ve only really read the body positivity tips, which were really good btw. I’m just finding the fat acceptance community online, tho I’ve had my own blog for some months. It feels good to find some likeminded people, though I have a great girlfriend who loves me the way I am AND is into fat acceptance, which is more than I had hoped. If you wish to get to know me, my MySpace is http://www.myspace.com/jokerswan. I’m from Finland, Deniselle is not my real name, and I weigh about 195 lb, in case anyone cares. Hi everyone!
I’m Angelina and I stumbled on this last night in a fit of sadness and depression over my ongoing struggle with my body, shape, life and whatnot. It was a totally salve. I used to be one of those badass Queen Latifah types of fat black girls, with all the sass and smarts and snark, but then I got a little weight off me, discovered the cruelties of men and not being true to yourself (where’s that Oprah shame music when you need it???) and got fat again! I’ve spent the last couple of years feeling shame about busting out of my size 20s and isolating myself because of it. I’ve been suicidal at several points and now i’m clawing my way back to fabulousness, one well manicured nail at a time. I love this blog. I really respect the writers and message. I’m trying to think of anything else. Um, I’m a writer. I wrote an article for bitch magazine and that was fun. I just got my MFA a month ago and I still feel like a fraud, but a least I’m a fraud with an MFA. I’m shopping my novel around and I really like cupcakes.
Congrats on the MFA, Angelina! And I just saw Hairspray yesterday and it ruled. Speaking of Queen Latifah!
Hey. I found this site through a blog directory. I love to bake, my favourites are peanut butter and chocolate chip cookies. I love going to the gym so feel like a fake on a site like this but baking still comes tops.
hey yell i to found this site through ablog directry and ove it i is a great place to talk! i love to cook it is my favouite passtime though i find i hard to find healthy recipies any suggestions??
Howdy.
I found this blog because I subscribed to the Notes from the Fatosphere blogs on Kate Harding’s blog. I am learning to love myself, jiggles and all, and want all women to love themselves. I think blogs like these are great.
a google on “fat person kayak” got me here — to the woman in alaska — fat people can kayak !
just got back from a week in algonquin park kayaking in the interior — tired and bruised (getting in an out of kayak a challenge when 5 ft 6 and 235 lbs) — that stated kayaking is doable for fat girls !!! yipee!!! recommend the experience to anyone who wants to kayak but thinks they can’t because of poundage — fav humming noise is the sound of critters in the marshes and lily pads beside the shoreline and outside the tent — slainte, Lyn
My name is Jess Im a 21 year old Aussie and I weigh 144kg (312lb) and 5′11. The reason Im leaving a message is that I had a bad experiance with a doctors ignorance today (apparantly I live on fast food) although I told him over and over when I was trying to loose weight I ate mostly grilled chicken and salad or veg. (of course doctor diddnt beleive me) I feel lika an outcast of society already and this doctor made me feel like a lyer and greedy. I left that surgery Intendng to drive the car off a cliff, but I have two babies 16mnths and 4mnths and a husband and I couldnt bring myself to do it although I think about it every day, Australia is worse than america when it comes to “hating fat people”.
I have no health problems from being my size No high cholesterol no high blood pressure, no diabetes and I can walk, run, jump and mutch as a slim woman. The only health problems I had at all are fybromyalgia which I inherited from my mum and my sis has it too (my sis is very slim and a fitness instructer) and I had glandular fever a few yaers ago which still bothers me at times (I was given a LOT of steroids). My husband Eats a TON more fatty food than me (mcdonalds is heaven to him i hate it) and hes slim. I feel worthless and frumpy I dream of being a security guard but cant afford the course or the time (babies) and hubby works odd hours frm 3pm til 1am, so I couldnt get a shift that would fit our lifestyle I also used to go to the gym every second day (nope never helped me loose an ounce of weight) but the price makes that impossible these days too, as hubby has a gambling problem and has left all control of money in my hands (were in a LOT of debt so its very depressing) Im sorry this post is so long I just needed to let people know im on this earth,or id explode. you probably wont read it but thanks for letting me post it on your site.
jess
Jess, I am so sorry you had such a terrible experience with your doctor. I don’t know how the Australian health care system works, but you absolutely deserve better care than that and I hope you can believe that and seek out a new doctor. Do you have any plus-size friends who like their doctors? Also, if you’re really feeling suicidal, I would urge you to seek out a therapist immediately and get some help. It sounds like you could really use someone to talk to.
And Lil Cookie, I just wrote a whole post about going to the gym! (As in, I also go to the gym. It doesn’t disqualify you from being here. Quite the opposite.)
Hi! I just started writing a blog for work: http://www.shesheet.com and a blog for me: kristinbell.org in the last few months. I wasn’t really a blog reader until I started writing my own blog and noticing how many blogs there are out there! It is amazing! So, I’m a N00B. hehe. Love what you have going here. You are wonderful! Favorite pudding: chocolate…yumm. Favorite humming noise? hmm…The purr of my cat! :) Have a groovy day y’all! :)
Hi! ‘My name’s Sarah and I believe I got the link to this blog from Pasta Queen. I’ve been trying to lose weight over the past year using Dr. Phil’s book The Ultimate Weight Solutions as my bible-to-health-and-hotness. I’ve lost 60 pounds so far with another 40 to go to reach my first big goal and then probably another 20 from there. I’ve blogged about my entire journey so far.
I’ve only just found this blog so I’ve been reading for about one week.
My hopes and dreams are to become healthy and fit… oh and to win the lottery AND be a gameshow host… oh and an author… oh and a mom… oh and a public speaker… well I guess I have a lot of hopes and dreams.
What kind of pudding do I enjoy? I’m assuming this is British pudding meaning dessert in American english? If it’s not then I like chocolate, if it is then I am a huge fan of cheesecake but of course limit myself to one slice about every other year.
My favorite humming noise by far is the fan in my room. It puts me to sleep like no other. I also enjoy the following hums:
My car engine
My mom humming anything, it’s so much better than her singing!
my vibrator (for neck massages of course!)
So there you go. Whew that was a lot of questions!
I found your blog about a month ago and I f-ing love it.
Please check out my blog for some additional (perhaps thought provoking?) fun.
I love your blog! I relate to a lot of what you say. I am trying to escape from obesity after a decade of being HUGE. I have to get healthy for my kids sakes.
I just found the blog thru Wiki when I was doing some research on Sizeism. Seems like an interesting place, look forward to reading and on occasion, adding my 2 cents worth.
Hi Jess - I’m Australian too and I just wanted to let you know that not all doctors are idiots. I’m sure you’ll be able to find a good one if you ask around.
Adding to what Mo said about seeking out a therapist - or just talking to someone won’t judge you - you can ring Lifeline on 13 11 14. They are open 24 hours a day.
Good luck!
I found this through Weetabix/Elastic Waist. I have been reading for a couple of months. I prefer butterscotch pudding, but chocolate/vanilla swirl will do in a pinch. I do not like humming noises. Or beeping noises. Or any sort of “background” noises. Music and TV are good, though. :)
I hope and dream that I will one day win the lottery, so that I can become the creative and altruistic person I need to be without worrying about being, say, homeless…or having to depend on a man for it. Failing that, I hope to find some measure of contentment with who I am.
My blog doesn’t focus entirely on weight issues….but it does sometimes, depending on how much of a self-esteem crash I’m having. Otherwise, I rant about politics, work, and white trash.
:)
Dahlings - I can’t even REMEMBER how I found this wonderful blog, but it is a much needed pick-me-up when the rest of the world is bombarding one with negative messages about one’s body.
I’ve had this blog bookmarked for a month, when I did a little “research” to find blogs that addressed “fat” issues. My blog is a highly personal “confessional” that records my observations and experiences as a fat aging spinster.
HOORAY FOR BIG GIRLS
Hi, My name is Adrienne McCauley I love myself and when God created me he created the best. I have lost some weight but, I do it for myself. and i love chocolate pudding
HI,
My friend ( who I work with on women’s body image issues) told me about you and I am so glad she did. WOW cool site. I love the subliminal (maybe not!) chocolate color.
My name is Mary, come visit me at http://www.beautyandthebreast.org/>Beauty
I have battled with my weight since I was a teenager and was told I had hips…LIKE that was a BAD thing!!!
I has such a bad body image I thought I would be more attractive if I had bigger boobs. Unfortunately, I got implants and got VERY ill. They ruptured and I had them out, but my body is still processing 10 years of chemicals and the complications from the implants.
Now I speak out about body image as well as educate women about implants and health issues. intheknow.org
I don’t want anyone to feel the way I did.
Now I am healthier, happier with myself and my body, but it’s taken a while. I still deal with that little negative voice that gets to me sometimes.
I have 3 teenage daughters and I am horrified at what comes out of their mouths about their bodies sometimes.
Thanks for your site, and the work yor doing to unite women.
My fav. humming sound is my mate’s snoring….just kidding…he is loud and I try to pretend it’s a hum! But I DO love love LOVE warm vanilla pudding in a bowl with wax paper ( just like my Mom made) on the top. Then when it gets just a tiny layer on the top, take it out and eat it warm!!!! YUMMMMMMM!
Mary
Well, I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 months. The main reason? He said that I could never meet his parents because they would be ashamed of me and embarrassed by me. I am a tall, 5′11”, 275lb, size 22/24 redhead. I am pretty, intelligent, and smart. I can’t understand how someone that can love being in bed with me and can’t stand to be away from me can be so hurtful. He even calls our sex “hot”. I will remain his friend and have told him to find someone skinny to make him happy. He says he doubts he can find it and that I make him happy. He also said that if I was as skinny as my high school pictures (145 lbs), that he would want to have a long-term relationship and possibly marriage. Interesting how with the lights off bodies feel so good to each other, then the lights come on and egos and shallowness get in the way.
I found this site in some round-about way today. I doubt I will be thin anytime soon, so I am going to learn to love myself and celebrate my spirit. I love pudding, but I love ice cream better. Can anyone say Ben & Jerry’s “New York Super Fudge Chunk”? Yum.
Hiya, I’m Helen, and I think I came via Joy Nash’s Fat Rant Blog! I am a fat girl too.
I live in the UK, I’m 23, and I was a care worker until I moved to my current house, and I’ll be a care worker once all the agencies get back to me…
My size does occasionally upset me, (sigh) but usually I like being a fat girl; I especially love to defy culture by not dieting. Supposedly we must waste lots of time torturing ourselves with fake food just to get to that perfect weight, and I am just not interested. I have other things to be doing. I mean, I knitted a scarf today, and my housemate made us pancakes. It was a good day.
Hiya! I’m so glad I found this blog - I was actually thinking about starting a very similar one, but now I guess that would just be copycatting. :P
Thanks for having this!
Love this blog, it’s great! I’ve been reading for a couple weeks. I found it through a blogroll of another fat-blog but I’m not sure which one. My blog is http://inquisitivefattie.blogspot.com which I recently started.
I learned of your blog at the Beauty and Breast blog.
Yes, I think fat is a feminist issue. Every woman, big or small should be concerned about the images of women we see in the media. I have worked in the health and wellness field for nearly ten years and believe one of the major reasons so many women struggle with weight is because we are at odds with their bodies. It’s hard to love your body when you are bombarded by media messages that imply that you’re not enough –that you don’t fit the mold of today’s standard of beauty. I have written a book, The Heart of Living Well: Six Principles for a Life of Health, Beauty and Balance, in which I help women reclaim and redefine beauty on thier own terms. It is my hope that each and every woman will believe that she is worthy of love, health, peace and harmony. Beauty is in every cell of our being, regardless of our size, shape, or color. Beauty is within and all around us.
My blog is at http://www.heartandstylewoman.com
I look forward to reading more of your posts! Judy
I’ve created a blog, First Ourselves, to help women love their bodies, feel beautiful, and make self care a priority.
I hated my body for years, and had the history to go with it: I’ve been bulimic, a chronic dieter, an overeater, underweight, overweight, and at a normal weight.
Learning to love my body, and my body image issues, has been one of my greatest challenges, and greatest opportunities. I’m currently running a 30 days to body breakthrough experiment, culminating on Love Your Body Day (October 18) in which I use the law of attraction to transform my negative thoughts about my body:
http://www.firstourselves.com/first_ourselves/2007/09/join-me-the-thi.html
Want to join me?
Best,
Karly
I’ve been reading for a couple of months now, but for some reason, am just introducing myself. Like most of you, I’ve struggled with body image for most of my life, and I could open my own boutique with all the different sizes in my closet (6-18). I’m now back up at the larger end of that spectrum and have just discovered this whole fat acceptance movement. I have come to the point where I can no longer hate myself. I’m tired of waiting for my life to begin 50 pounds from now. I think this is a really great blog with lots of interesting discussions.
To answer the other questions, I found your blog on Bust’s website, and I like banana pudding. I’ll have to think about the humming noises.
I love this blog the concept and everything. I followed a referring link back to this blog from mine but couldn’t locate if my link was in a post or a reference. At any rate I’m hoping it doesn’t slip my mind to link you ladies!
I love this blog and being able to talk with others about these issues. I am not alone! Check out my blog on women’s issues, size acceptance issues and more. http://www.queenofviolets.com.
Wow! What an amazing and inspiring site! Kudos! What brought me here is that I am a large actress who was searching the web for roles and your site came up! So happy it did! Love your work. Hey- I also write a coumn for plusmodelmag.com called: “Adventures in Hollywood.” All about my experience as a big actress in la-la land. According to Hollywood’s standards I could lose more than TWO HUNDRED pounds and l would still be considered obese! I am trying to make it in Hollywood and not compromise my integrity. I loved your article on no large women characters on tv. It’s so true! If you get a chance please check out my website out at http://www.jenniferjonassen.com and my coulmn at http://www.plusmodelmag.com/General/plus-model-magazine-article-detail.asp?article-id=620029152
I could use all the support I can get! Thanks so much for your brilliant website-maybe one day I will have a t.v. character that I played listed on it!
:)
Found this blog about a month ago and I love it! I’m a fat Brit, my BMI’s somewhere over 30… Most of the time I am quite happy with this, though I occasionally have those scary moments when I see unflattering pictures of myself… eek!
The blog’s funny and friendly and makes me think :)
Just wanted to say hello and to state that there is no such thing as an ugly fat woman, just a lot of beauty by the pound,not just on the outside, but more importantly, on the inside also. This blog is really funny and full of insight at the same time.
I was looking for a size acceptance blog to feature on my blog, and this is it!
Best,
Rion
OMG I was having a total fat attack (you know, when suddenly the fact you’re fat hits you hard and you start to freak out a little) and, in a fit of dispare, typed ‘I’m tired of being fat, ugly, and pimply” on google and this came up. I LOVE IT!!! There’s hope, and you guys rock for prooving it.
Lots of Love, from Official Talented, Funny, and Beautiful (even if I sometimes forget it) Fat Girl,
Katheirne
I followed a link from the Figure Magazine website’s board to find you.
I’m 37, married to a man who loves curves (he’s a big guy, fearful that skinny girls break), with a daughter. I’ve had body image issues since puberty, so for most of the last 25 years, I’ve hated what I looked like. I’m tired of hating myself and trying to push myself into Madison Ave.’s mold.
My greatest source of pleasure/fun is belly dancing. Lotsa skinny girls there, too, but there’s a troupe of Black women in my area who are BBW and can out-dance a lot of those other ones. Dancing is teaching me more than just how to shimmy; I’m also learning that beauty is in all of us, and size is just another number. That said, my shimmy is still a whole lot better than my body-image. (sigh)
Its fine to accept your overweight but to stop there and think you’ve figured out how to be happy and that its the final answer I think is only part of it. It may be the starting point of accepting who you are but do you think you should stop there? Accepting the reality of being overweight and just stopping there and accepting it as being ok or normal is just another way to “feed” your addiction. It is an addiction that is trying to kill you. It is no different then a heroin addict saying ok guys I know the world has a bad view on heroin, but I am accepting the fact that I can’t quit successfully for any long period of time so I am just going to accept and flaunt my heroin addict self and be the best and happiest heroin addict I can be. Finding other heroin addicts to say hey its ok being a junkie or be ok with it, in my opinion will just keep you sick in your addiction. The only way to get through these addictions is to call the beast by its name and take the so called things that seem negative and be thankful that their out there telling us that its not cool to eat ourselves to death, its not cool to poison ourselves with chemicals that feel good. Even though you may claim that a beautiful piece of double chocolate cake would be so good, and a needle full of yellow poppy plant chemicals to the addict (recovering addict now) like myself may seem like the best things in the world, but the fact is, these things that seem oh so good are trying to kill us. If there wasen’t anything wrong with these things and other peoples families of the past who have watched their loved one die of heart disease or a heart attack, or of a drug overdose, then there would be no problem with these things. The fact is many people have died and if anything think of your family members who would be heart broken if you died because of your own doing. It is the work of evil and unless you call it by its name, you may not know that something is actually trying to kill you. Being aware is the first step to any recovery. As I see it, being overweight is a form of addiction. It is being lost in your mind. If you work on your mind, the rest will follow. I know because I was lost in my head doing the same things over and over again and once my mind was in control my body wasen’t going to take its legs and walk to my car to drive to the city to get drugs. Just as you won’t pick up a fork and start eating and eating if your mind is in control. The hard thing is stopping these same robotic patterns that we have always done. So if you want to change, work on your mind and healing the wounds, then anything is possible. I think its great to come together for support, but I think one should always ask themselves, could I be doing something better for myself? Is this what I truely want in my life? If not then go as a warrior into battle against something that wants you to have a life other then what you wish for. I wish everyone the best of luck in their seek of happiness. And if I can be clean from heroin (the other most addictive substance besides food) you too can do anything you put your mind to.
HI! I found this page while searching for sites dealing with fat activism. I just started my own blog and looking for others who are trying to make the world a little more accepting to fat men and women. I am also interested in fashion for all and art, culture, film, etc. I have enjoyed your page so far and look forward to reading it regularly!
Thanks!
anzilove
Randomly browsing through Wikipedia found me the article on Fat Acceptance. Being an insecure fat girl I read it, and at the bottom I found some wonderful links that lead me here. My entire life was full of “what beautiful hair you have,” referencing my naturally red locks, but nothing more. I recall my father, who has always been insecure about his own weight, a yo-yo dieter, commenting about how I couldn’t see my own feet when I looked down. I’ve only gained since then. I admit it. I am 20 years old, 5′9″ and 300 pounds. I am a size 24. Facts that no one knew until right now. For years I felt so ugly. Unworthy. But I’m not. I took this semester off of school to focus on myself, on bettering myself, on becoming more confident, on developing my friendships, and embracing myself. I want to give every single woman on here a hug. I read of the empowerment that you feel and know that I AM worthy. I freaking deserve to be happy. I SHOULD ask that guy out because I like him damn it. I don’t know why I’ve spent my life trying to fit into a smaller mold. Sure, I worry that the seatbelt won’t fit me on airplanes but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. Count me in ladies, I am here to stay!
hey yall trying to get a book out about dietisms that people have passed on to me I am up to 87 and am shooting for 101 can you help?????????
By the way, hi I am 7 of 9 kids hence the name. I was flitting through some research and fell upon you beautiful people with a mind set so much like my own. I love white chocolate pudding of late and my favorite humming noise is the whir that means the computer is working. lol. You know when you weigh more than 100 lbs everyone thinks they have the right and it is thier duty to tell you how to loose the weight and I have decided to put them all down and publish a book. any help you can give me is helpful.
Hello all! Aint it funny how a small click can lead you to amazing places? I found you by typing in, trying to feel sexy even when fat. I read a little story about a fat girl and couldnt believe how much it sounded like me. I am tired of being told “oh, honey, you still look good to me.” I am so excited to find you and will be back!!!!
Hi! My name is Des, I’m 19 years old and I live in Puerto Rico.
I discovered this blog one night that I was feeling really depressed about all the fat hate that was going around and one of my friends, in an effort to cheer me up, sent me a link to Joy Nash’s video “A Fat Rant”. Needless to say it made me feel much better and after clicking around the web I found this site.
I feel better about my body now than I have for a long time. I never knew that websites like this existed. It feels amazing to know that it’s ok to love my body. I’ve been on diets since I was 7(yes, 7 y/o believe it or not) and after not losing the weight my family wanted me to was left feeling miserable, alone and worthless.
You guys have helped me so much you have no idea.
hugs and kisses,
Des
I didnt know there where ppl out there feeling like me… wish i knew how to put it out as many of u…
being overweight kills me inside specially being raised in a culture suck like mine - brazil….
i use food to compensate the feelings i dont know how to feel…
i need help i know!!!
anyways just wanted to drop a line and say it is really nice to see that there ppl out there that are happy being the way they are…
maybe one day ill learn it!!!
loved the blog - dont know how to used it well though hahahaha… ill learn it eventually!!!
Hi, I’m Dawn. I’m a high school senior and I found BFD while rapidly clicking StumbleUpon for sites tagged with “body image.”
I have struggled with my weight and self-confidence since middle school. Even though now I’m the thinnest I can remember being since I hit puberty, I still have constant problems with my confidence. Over the summer, I had a huge crush on this guy who told my friends he would never go out with me because I was too insecure. I never talked to him. It was pretty ridiculous. There is an element of that situation in an uncomfortably large percentage of my relationships with people. My low confidence is visible and people think less of me because of it.
Since then I have been really trying to boost my self-esteem, because I know that no matter how much weight I lose or whatever, I will still feel “ugly” if I don’t change my attitude. BFD gives me a little boost that reminds me to like myself.
Hi there - I’m Dawn, a 37-year-old Philly gal who is a size 20-22. I don’t really care about the weight part, but I used to exercise regularly and I stopped doing anything when I got laid off last year.
I’m trying to get out and walk, but the last time I did, something threw a McDonald’s box at me. I kind of went back and hid ever since.
Of course, my boyfriend is a complete health freak/ weight lifter type. I would walk/exercise with him, but we work opposite schedules.
Anyway, it’s great to find this blog.. nice to be here..
I found your site through Woman’s Health newsletter and I love it!
Hi everyone - I’m a UK chubster who loves this blog and in fact I use it for inspiration - I wrote about that hideous Michael Karolchyk the other week. Yuk!
I also have a website called Relentlessly positive (www.relentlessly-positive.com) and I hope you’ll come and have a look, it’s not exclusively a fat acceptance type site but there are NO DIETS allowed!!!
Keep up the good work everyone, love from the UK :o)
Hi there!
I found this site in Women’s Health and am so ready to blog and chat and get busy losing weight! I had lap-band surgery 5/10/07 but do not let /anyone/ tell you that is the easy way out, it is not easy! This is a tool and its finally working for me! I’ve lost 35lb in 7mo and began exercising as of yesterday!
DId I mention i HATE exercising!? But I must! I’m going to Hawaii January ‘09 for my 40th and have 13 months to get to a size where they actually make a wetsuit that will fit me, I AM going to learn how to surf! =)
Oh, I’ve been reading and, once in a very dark blue moon, contributing to this marvelous, funky and fun website for a long time. Of course, being an older person, my memory isn’t always so terrific. So, since I’ve completely forgotten my previous info., and since I’ve bought this honking big new computer and signed up at last for DSL (yikes!), I’m just creating a totally new persona to go with my new email address. I’ve been losing this same 30 pounds for 5 years. I’ll lose a couple or five, become overwhelmed by my success, and reward myself with 3 pounds of Ghiradelli. Sigh. Never mind. My b.b. has got to lose a bit for health reasons and so this will force me to lose, as it will look pretty sad if this 5′8″ old lady eats more than the 6′4″ b.b. I do love this site and have been inspired by it many times.
I’d prefer reading in my native language, because my knowledge of your languange is no so well. But it was interesting! Look for some my links:
I found this site while googling “happy to be overweight”…I am forever reading about how depressed, sad, etc. fat people are. Well, I’m not! I do know I need to address my weight issue for certain health reasons, but I’ve never really been sad about my weight. I was underweight until about the age of 18, then normal weight until about 32….and then, the weight started coming on. I’m 48 now, and wear a size 18/20. So, I’ve seen both sides. If anything, I unfortunately still see myself as ’slim’ in the mirror, when I’m not… Dysmorphism in reverse!
As far as pudding….chocolate bread pudding with rum sauce. And I much prefer scatting to humming (think Louis Armstrong!)
hello ladies, and thank you for the reading pleasure…
Let’s see, what info did you want??
Oh yeah…You can thank your friends at Women’s Health for bringing me to you last month, I hope to someday have a job (I’m 2 years out of college and having the worst time finding a job…UGH!), husband and beautiful house somewhere in the lovely Oregon area, I prefer vanilla pudding, although I will take just about anything when it’s accompanied with cake or ice-cream and I’m not so hip on the humming, but give me a good Broadway tune or classic rock mainstay and I’ll be a happy little clam. Take care and Happy New Year.
Hey. Linked over from Ms. Nash’s blog. Oh, and I’m a guy…not too many have signed in…but that’s ok. Don’t ask me why the women’s fashion industry makes me crazy…it just does.
Favorite smell…the ocean
I’m trying to ignore the constant loud humming noise.
Keep on blogging!!!
Hey all! I am a PhD student in exercise nutrition and Baylor U in Texas. Check out my frequent blog posts including recipes, supplement reviews, and general nutrition and health tips!
Hello! My name is Cindy. I’m a professional opera singer and writer (among other things). My new blog is http://www.thenext100pounds.com. It chronicles my journey from Planet Plus (where I have resided all my life) to the unknown reaches of the Slendersphere using cognitive therapy and sound nutrition.
I found BFD while churning away on the elliptical at the gym — it was mentioned in a health mag — and have been checking in with you for several weeks now. Love BFD for sassy good sense. Keep up the good work!
Hi,
I blog over at http://www.thoughtracer.wordpress.com. I think the diet industry is a conspiracy to keep women oppressed.
The end.
Hi! I just found this blog (found the nomination for best blog at FigureMagazine.com, and I will be a regular reader from now on. I love the intelligent discussion of size issues.
What the hell, I’ll post, too! My name’s Kat, and way back when blogs were still journals, I met Mo and Weet at Journalcon in DC. Then I stopped writing online and gained back all of the weight I talked about losing. I’m getting tired of not quite fitting into my car, so I’m back reading and writing about fitness and cheese and whether the size of my ass (and my wanting to change it) means I can still be a feminist. Enjoying every letter of every word here at BFD.
What’s up all you fabulous chickies! I found this blog through Elastic Waist.
I have a blog. It’s boring. No really… it is. Well, OK, since you asked:
http://sea-hag.blogspot.com
I found this website from an email sent by a member of one of my Yahoo groups. I am a 630 pound 6′3″ 51 year old male who loves being fat and obviously I am very much that way. I was a very fat child and adolescent weighing over 200 in 4th grade and over 450 when I finished high school. After college, which I finished at about 350, I lost weight to fit in to the societal pressures and was in the mid to low 200s during my late 20s and 30s. In my early 40s I took a new job that allowed me to travel extensively for 9 years. At the same time I realized I was happiest when I was fat. The company I work for was very understanding of meal costs when I traveled since I was on the road all the time. I decided to gain weight and during the nine years added about 400 pounds by eating all my meals at all you can eat buffet restaurants. I loved gaining weight and each time I would come back to our main office I was larger than my last vist. I work for a director who was also heavy and did not mind that I was gaining. I put on about a pound a week. My last year on the road I spent in Iowa and put on about 100 pounds to reach just over 600. I was then promoted to a new role that does not require travel. My director had my work cube built for my size. She continues to be very accepting and that view is fairly well shared by our company. I enjoy eating a lot. I still walk, well really waddle, and am fairly healthy for my size.
Hello! Found your blog on abcnews.com this morning and wandered over. I have struggled with weight issues (up and down and up and down and up and . . .well, you get it) my whole life. Now I’m just working on devloping healthy habits. I’ve watched my daughters struggle with healthy self-image also and am trying to break the cycle! Love theyself! is my new battlecry and I’m digging for all information I can find to steer my girls into HEALTHY lifestyles instead of yo-yo, self-loathing lifestyles. Stay strong ladies, I’m off to read your site in full and follow some links to discover more! Katie
I also learned of your blog today on abcnews.com and decided to check it out this morning! I am a 43-year-old mom of 3 girls ranging in age from 3 years old to almost-22! I can honestly say that I’ve “been there” on both sides of this fat-acceptance issue and can understand why some skinny people are so prejudiced. I was not fat growing up, and I used to think that fat people were laughable. Thankfully I never laughed at anyone to their face (I’m not a bully) but I do remember making fun of one fat girl behind her back and writing a creative-writing story in 7th grade about a fat boy who was so fat his fat rolls filled up the hallway at school as he walked! (I can’t believe the teachers actually let me read that “children’s story” to the 1st graders, but that was the 70s, when there was even less sensitivity, I guess.) I used to think that if I ate “X” amount of food and was a normal size that people twice my size must be eating double of what I was eating! My attitude was, “How can they BE that way?!” Well, I ended up getting what was due to me as I started gaining weight in my late teens and 20s, much of it from pregnancies and that lovely birth control injection, Depo-Provera (terrible for weight gain). Some of it was overeating, but perhaps only 30%. The rest wasn’t, and I suspect that is the case for a lot of fat people, that things sort of “happened” to change their metabolism and they didn’t realize what was happening, continued to eat normally, and gained weight. Since gaining a lot, I have been up and down the scale a bit, but I find it incredibly hard to even lose it in the first place, as I get downright HUNGRY (as in actual hunger pangs, not just “cravings”) if I try to diet. It’s rough. On my 5′4-1/2″ frame I’ve been up to 235 in the past and at present I’m at 221. Now, I’m proud of my large-yet-hour-glass figure. I got remarried in my late 30s. I weigh almost as much as my husband, and he loves me the way I am - even met me and married me this way. Personally, I am physically more comfortable in the 165-185 pound range, but hey, that’s physical comfort for me that I’m talking about here, not trying to get others’ approval, and 165-185 is still not “skinny”! I don’t want to be like my sister, who lost a bunch on Atkins and now has to eat no more than 50 carbs/day to maintain (what is that? maybe two pieces of bread)? I try to eat more veggies and exercise when I can. What more should I expect? No starvation here, not going to do it. If I learned anything from the prior prejudice of my youth, then experiecning gaining weight myself, it’s that fat people are not all sitting around chowing down all the time, nor do they not care about themselves. I remember the Indian Prayer about not judging a person before walking a mile in that person’s moccasins. I think some never-been-fat people (the prejudiced ones) need to read that prayer and think about it. Glad to meet you all! (BTW, my “snickey” name does not refer to Snickers candy - it’s related to my middle daughter’s nickname. But hey, I like Snickers, too. :-) )
I should explain - I do like Snickers, but I rarely eat them. My saying I like them wasn’t a “giveaway” to the prejudiced-against-fat people. I bet many of them “like” Snickers too, LOL!
I’ve been lurking for about a month and the recent “news” about your site and other sites made me decide to de-lurk, mostly because you’ll be getting lots of trolls and I want to be a positive voice. I think what you’re doing is awesome! I’m 25 and have been self-described “chubby” my whole life, with all the self-hate and school-yard humiliation that comes with. It’s only recently that I’ve concetrated on taking care of myself and liking myself, and the FA movement blogs are a major part of me making that breakthrough. It’s nice to not be afraid to go to the gym and also not be ashamed if I order a pizza once in a while. It’s amazing what the decrease in self-loathing has done for me.
Interesting side effect,– when I embraced myself as is, I became less depressed. When I became less depressed, I stopped drinking so much. Lost about 15lbs of beer-weight and also 180lbs of raging bastard who took advantage of my low self-esteem for a long time. The FA movement has been way better for me than any diet!
this site is an enabler for fat people. creating yet another accepting society to a mass epidemic.
way to go, solidifying the no. 1 spot for the fattest country in the world.
I really enjoyed reading the blog entries. It is nice to find a site that is positive about being the size we are and not a site where one is pressured to become smaller.
More and more great entries as I keep reading. Are there other men or women on this site who are very large like me (quite a lot of me at 630) and enjoy their size or plan to remain that way?
more power to ya!
ok i am one of those not understood fat people. Me and my husband both weight about 270 since we married two years ago we do not eat any read meat at home or sweats. We do everything with chicken, turkey and fish. I am 5.8″ and he is 5′10″. We also do not use butter or salt at home. We are both paramedics and do get exericise on our jobs. Imagine four flights of stairs with 50 pounds of equipment and a 300 pound patient at the top. I also swim a lot and my husband walks alot. However I think everyone thinks we eat meat three times a day and never exerise. We get comments from family and friends about this. I have a blood pressure of 110/70 my blood sugar fasting is 92. My cholesterol in 190 and my triglcerides as 163, pretty good for a fat lady? I have never had health problems from my obesity, why does the world assume I do nothing but eat and not exerise all day?
Fuk you fat lazy ass people.. I.E 630 POUNDS?! and wants to stay that way?!?
I hope every one on this blog dies of a heart attack.
This is turning into a mental disease. Jesus H. Christ.
Poor american saps.
Snickey–
Thanks for sharing your story–it’s a really good example of how people’s opinions are not static and unchanging. I think that anyone interested in body positivity has held a number of opinions on fat at different times.
And for NOT a fat person–
My WEIGHT is doing less damage to my heart than your HATE is doing to yours.
Dear NOT a fat person,
Please shit in your fist and squeeze.
Love,
Everyone else
“this site is an enabler for fat people. creating yet another accepting society to a mass epidemic.
way to go, solidifying the no. 1 spot for the fattest country in the world.”
Tim,
Given that the rest of the world is content to treat larger people like second class citizens, I doubt one little blog is “enabling” fat people to stay that way. Genetics is more of an enabler than a blog committed to acknowledging that health at every size is a very real possibility.
And guess what? Being fat isn’t the worst thing you can be, so being the “no. 1 spot for the fattest country in the world” isn’t nearly as bad as being, in my estimation, the no. 1 spot for the most f-ed up ideas about food, sex, denial, reward, and power in the world.
Love,
not Tim
I’m so glad I stumbled upon your website. I’m a fat girl in a profession of whippet slim and pretty women. I raise money for a living and yes, the beautiful people gravitate towards this profession.
Being the only big gal at conferences makes me some what of an enigma. I’m am learning (yep, you can still learn in your 40’s) to be happy as I am. I love reading the positive comments (and the not so positive comments).
Great design, too. Love the color combo.
Hello,
I found this blog today when I was wondering why it was so bad to be just a little over-size? And this comes up, and thank you for having this site up! It has made me feel better.
For the past months, I’ve been trying to just slim myself down a bit, enough to get to a size 15. It’s funny that I consider a size 16-12 normal and the rest, “Damn, you’re a twig” (Not hating on the skinny people).
So thank you once again, if only this existed when I was in jr. high and so on. I hope every girl who feels out of place for being just a little “fat” will come upon this blog.
Love the colours and layout! :)
Hi there. I read the article on you guys in the NY Times and I felt like I needed to check it out. I’m so glad I did, because it felt so nice to read about accepting our bodies as they are and not always feeling like we need to change. I have been struggling with my weight ever since I was a little girl, and I’ve finally come to the realization (not that long ago, either) that I’m just not ever going to be a size 0. It’s not the way I’m built. This thought didn’t give me any comfort, though, because I felt like I’d always be living in a society that made me feel like crap because I wasn’t thin and therefore not “pretty.” Reading through some of the blogs I’ve come to the realization that maybe things are looking up for the plus-size image, and that slowly but surely those of us who aren’t skinny are being recognized for who we are: wonderful, voluptuous women with worth. And it doesn’t matter that we aren’t teeny. We are still amazing. So I guess what I’m trying to say is thanks for the breath of fresh air.
Hi! I just wanted to congratulate you on the wonderful interview on MandJ today!! I had to write immediately! You said everything that needed to be said. Because of you guys, the doctor on the panel was much more careful about being extreme like the extreme lady sitting next to her (against obesity). Most extreme people against obesity have not suffered weight issues as children and adults. It’s easy for them to say..it’s dangerous, lose weight, stop eating. The epidemic was created by such things as the sedentary lifestyle and processed foods ~issues we didn’t become attuned to until it was too late. This is not happening because we are fat pigs who don’t give a shit. Should we trash computers, go back to the potatoe fields and live on farms? Folks against obesity aren’t asking for that of course. They wish to segregate the “problem” people. It is much easier to attack individuals than big corporations producing processed foods (with MSG) or businesses that drain the heck out of the worker. So, I think you guys did a great job of demonstrating that we will continue to take good care of ourselves even if we don’t fit onto the BMI chart perfectl