Please feel free to introduce yourself and your blog in the comments. What brought you to Big Fat Deal? How long have you been reading? What are your hopes and dreams? What kind of pudding do you enjoy? What’s your favorite humming noise? Let’s share.
Ladies, the page looks delicious! Congratulations on the new design. :)
The new place is Nice! I started reading Weet almost three years ago (!!) and Weet took me to Mo and Mo to Big Fat Blog and Anne.
I really like what you write but the greatest thing of all is the comments section: smart funny ladies.
I write and delete blogs with astonishing frequency but the latest incarnation is a blog about me dealing with binge eatind disorder. I used to say that I was dealing with it on my own but the reality is I have books and blogs and message boards and I’m really not alone. So now I say that I’m dealing with it without a shrink.
And that’s it, sorry for the long comment but I just had to write my autobiography in third person as a test for a job and it let me feeling all wordy.
I don’t remember how I found BFD, perhaps through a Weetabix link back in ought four? However it happened, BFD had me at hello. I dream of being my current weight, but six feet tall. I enjoy rice pudding, and my favorite humming noise comes from my espresso machine.
My name is Heather. I stumbled upon the blog by doing a google search on….blogs for fat people! And I’m glad that I did b/c it’s made for some enjoyable reading and debates. I do read some other blogs but most of those get very nasty b/c the comments section get swarmed by trolls. Sure, you have a few here every now and a again but for the most part, everyone is respectful of everyone else.
My blog is http://3dayorbust.blogspot.com. I registered for the Breast Cancer 3 Day Walk and set up the blog mid-March in order to track my journey as I train for the event.
I also have a page set up for the event at: http://www.the3day.org/philadelphia07/heatherlee
Not sure why, but the link to my blog isn’t working. It’s http://3dayorbust.blogspot.com/
I don’t recall how I found BFD either. Maybe I was searching for Star Jones information like 50% of your audience :)
I enjoy cook and serve sugar-free, fat-free chocolate pudding with 1/4 a teaspoon of mint extract. Yum! And my favorite humming noise is when you hum with a kazoo in your mouth.
I think I found your through Weetabix, too, but I can’t remember. I think there are a lot of interesting discussions taking place on this blog, plus I like the shopping tips. I had gastic bypass a year ago – best decision I have ever made – and I have lost 130 pounds, but I have more to lose and I am trying to be ok with that.
The new layout is pretty!
I have been friends in real life with Mo, Anne and Weet for many years now, and this blog is of special interest to me because I am an obesity researcher. But I work with mice rather than humans, so it’s interesting to come here and read about some of the issues that don’t get considered in the lab.
Congratulations on the new digs, guys!
Hi! I found BFD through the Beauty Plus Power Blog. I don’t have my own blog, I just write confessional, obsessive comments on other people’s blogs! Thanks, ladies, for giving me a lot to think about!
Mongo like new blog. Fantastic color choices, and love me some big curves mud flap girl! Mama like.
I like pudding. Pudding has been a little to good to me. The Persians make a rice pudding with rose water and cardamon that is oddly wonderful and delicate.
You know how little kids hum/talk to themselves when they are alone and think nobody is around? I like that humming sound because it is interspersed with some of the funniest commentary ever.
Thanks for making, maintaining, and upgrading Big Fat Deal. It’s lovely.
I have been reading since BFD started because I will read anything that Mo and Weetabix write, when I am not dreaming of kissing them lustily right on the mouth. (I’ve only been reading Anne recently but preliminary data indicate that I will read anything she writes as well. I can only hope that kissing her right on the mouth may be an option).
I’ve done some work on the non-physical benefits of exercise so I am always interested when that subject comes up here. I am also obsessed with Kate Winslet so that works out well for me too.
My favorite pudding is super-sour Greek yogurt, either FAGE 0% or homemade EasiYo natural flavor. Sometimes I mix in some hot chocolate mix in there and ooh, girl. I like rice pudding and bread pudding as well.
My favorite humming noise comes from an appliance that rhymes with Smitachi Schmagic Swand.
Surfed onto Mopie’s other site…wow…years ago, when she was thinking of going to graduate school….maybe via Poundy? (Whatever happened to your parakeets, Mopie??)
I love BFD–and was thrilled when Weet and Anne began to contribute. Thanks, chicas!
Fantastic new site design!
I write about similar issues surrounding food, fat and feminism at my blog, http://www.the-f-word.org.
Oops, period messed up the link. Here’s a clickable link: http://www.the-f-word.org
Oh, you all know who I am. I read BFD because I like smart people.
What I would like to know is what’s up with all the sweet-as-yes-pie talk collecting a little demographic data, hmmm, Mo? Do I smell a potential book deal ? … Come on, you can tell meeeeeeeeeeee ….
Book deal! Wow, don’t I wish? Nope, it’s just curiosity… and wanting people to have a place to put their links!
But if you own a publishing company, feel free to drop me a line.
Okay, this is an email from a real person/photographer/artist.
You can click on the link below to see my real work/website.
I am working on an art project that is titled “The Edge of Excess.”
I am interpreting this theme regarding of how we form our bodies – often to excess in one manner or
another.
I have photographed a very muscular person (excessive fitness)
I have photographed a woman in a very risk-a pose (sexualization of our body)
I have photographed a man who looks anorexic (excessive thin/dieting)
and now… I need one more image…. of an excessively large person.
I am not asking you specifically. I don’t even know where you are located.
However, are you or do you know anyone who is in the Columbia, MO area who might be interested in modeling?
I don’t know if there is anyone in Missouri
who reads this site, but I am finding it hard to know what venue to look
for my model. (I have put up a crags List lists and a myspace request).
If anyone here might be interested, please email me at mm(at)costleyphotography(dot)com
Sincerely,
Martha
http://www.costleyphotography.com
Let’s see. Starting with the blog, I’ve been reading it for a couple of years now; who knows how I found it in the first place. I’m a runner, but I used to be about 80 pounds heavier with all sorts of problems (knees, etc) that kept me from being atheletic. Of course, they all went away when I lost the weight – funny, that. I enjoy the commentary, the camaraderie, and the downright cantakerousness of some of the other commenters here!
I believe that you can be happy at whatever weight you happen to be. I also believe – shockingly to some – that losing weight has opened a ton of doors for me and that I’m healthier and fitter because of it. I support anything that fights the fat person = bad person image that we have in this country … but I still feel that, by and large, we have a serious weight problem.
Feel free to disagree…
BTW, Martha (above): That’s “risque,” not “risk-a,” when you’re talking about an overtly sexual pose.
Love the new site! I have been reading for a few years; learned of the site through the wonderful Robyn of bitchypoo.com.
Hopes and dreams? I hope to muddle through this life and dream of finding happiness one day. Don’t like pudding much, but do enjoy coconut cream pudding on occasion! And my favorite humming noise is, of course, the one made by hummingbirds!
Richard,
I was obviously not an English major.
Buuut, thanks for the heads up.
Martha
I’ve just stumbled across this site while looking blogs similar to my own.
I’m a dietitian, and i’m just started with my own blog in the hope of proving no nonsense dietary advice for the masses!!
Fav pudding…definitely chocolate fudge cake!!!
Hi, I’m V’ron, and just noticed you moved! Nice new design (have to get used to it). My weightloss blog is called “This Time For Sure Rocky” because after years of yo-yoing, I decided I needed to go public with this, and have a bunch of anonymous people hold me accountable.
But I love this blog simply because once you’ve been really analyzing the whole weight thing, its not about points or calories, or scales, or such. It’s about how we look at ourselves, and for good or bad, how we look at ourselves is influenced by the media portrayal of fat vs. thin, the definitions of such, etc. BFD has been instrumental in my entire educational experience.
It’s also a great community of articulate people who have made me think hard, and that’s always a good thing.
I’m K, and I’ve been reading Mo for ages, firstly through Mr Ointy, which I probably got to from Lose The Buddha or Pound (my first blog, found by Googling “weight loss”). I’ve been reading since 2003 and blogging since 2005.
I read mostly for the body-image discussions, having been one of those teenage self-fulfilling prophecies. You know – you don’t exercise because you think you are fat and everyone will point and laugh?
A few years ago I got over this, became a lot fitter, and lost some weight in the process. But in general, when I exercise, I like my body. When I don’t, I don’t. The numbers on the scale don’t have much to do with it.
Pudding? I’ve rarely met a dessert I didn’t like, but if pressed I’d probably say chocolate brandy meringue.
Hi, I’m Eliza. I’ve known Mo for many moons, and I’ve also long been a faithful reader of the other sites of Anne & Weetabix. I’ve been reading BFD since its launch. My hopes and dreams largely center around no more Republicans in the White House and the renewal of “Friday Night Lights.” I’m not a huge fan of pudding, but I do enjoy ice cream, and I did once really love Jell-o Pudding Pops. My favorite humming noise is the white noisy waterfall sound on my nighttime sound machine.
just stumbled upon you guys during one of my many blog hunts. Great great blog.. have it linked to mine so I visit often
I have pretty much been reading BFD from the beginning. I think I found it through Lose the Buddha, but I’m not entirely sure. Not really sure on the hopes and dreams. Right now, it’s to lose the remaining 50 pounds on this stubborn, lazy body of mine (I’ve lost about 50 in the past 2.5 years), and to stop thinking, “I’ll [insert activity here] when I’m thin.”
As for my favorite pudding, it’d have to be my maternal great-grandmother’s homemade banana pudding with REAL banana slices, Nilla wafers, and Cool Whip on top. Yum.
And I don’t think I want to discuss my favorite humming sound. ;)
Hi, I’m Tart. I found your blog from Too Fat For Fashion. I’ve been reading for a couple of months and have read through all the archives. Made work go by alot faster. Unfortunately I can’t eat anything with sugar in it, so pudding is pretty much out.
My honey and I just started our own blog. It’s brand new so there aren’t alot of entries yet, but we’re working on that.
http://whowearsthepants.wordpress.com
Hi there -
I don’t remember how I found BFD – but I am glad I did!!! I love your new design- great, great graphic!!!
Bitchie
i’m not sure how i found y’all — probably the marathon day of googling that helped me fill out the weight/size/appearance politics part of my blogroll — but i know that i like. hurrah!
Hello there. I’ve been a long time reader lurker type. I always enjoy.
I found BFD about 9 minutes ago … and I’m more than a little stunned that I’ve never seen it before.
I think I just bookmarked the site 9 times … and I like pudding in the morning, preferably with cookies to dip. But only once a year, otherwise it spoils the mystery.
Peace people
We love you
I don’t even know how I found you gals, but I’m glad I did. I’ve enjoyed reading the entries and posting some replies.
Favorite pudding…a rich chocolate pudding that’s cold-room temperature. Also does anyone know if Jell-o still makes pudding pops? Cause they were so yummy.
I just landed here, not sure how. But I will be back.
Pudding: Rice.
That was easy!
I can’t believe I’ve never seen this blog before! You lovelies have a great thing going! I will most definitely be back.
I found this blog yesterday by following a link to a link to a link at least six times. I cheered what I read (yes, I really did cheer!) and added it to the list of blogs I absolutely must read. I love, love, love the wit and wisdom!
Favourite pudding: plain old chocolate – with coconut shavings in it!
Favourite buzzing sound: the milk frother. It makes me giggle. And I know there’s tasty froofy coffee drinks on the way, sort of the way cats recognise the sound of the can opener. Pavlov’s coffee?
Hi,
I found this site through a link on PastaQueen’s blog and the notice about Old Navy “changing their marketing strategy to take plus sizes ‘exclusively global’ by being online only. (Just a note on that – their stuff was hard enough to size, I sure as sh#t am not going to order it to have it not fit when I get it home and have to play the return game. Or maybe I will just to mess with them.)
I just started reading this today.
My favorite pudding is a nice homemade rice pudding with some cinnamon on top.
My dream is a that a philanthropist discovers me for my potential, decides to fund my lifestyle and I can become an artist and writer and historian.
Oh, and I keep Sea Monkeys as pets.
Hello!
My name is Marcy and I work for hipsandcurves.com I’ve been reading your blog for some time now. I absolutely LOVE the new design. Keep the new posts coming – and if you are ever in the need for some plus size lingerie send me an email! marcy@hipsandcurves.com :)
Hello there,
I stumbled on this site a while back when I googled the words “fat girl beautiful” when I needed some encouragement and promptly got hooked into reading the blog regularly.
Love the new site btw…
And for ladies looking for better things then OldNavy can offer…
go to bandlu.com
I found them through BUST magazine and fell in LOVE with their product line.
Continue the good work Ladies!
Hi. I’m Dagny. I’m a bad lady.
I found your site while surfing for other plus size websites. Great place you have here! Thank you! Rebecca
I just found this through my bloglines -I’m a plus fashion blogger. This blog looks and reads really well, I’m enjoying it!
hello! How does one sign up for this site? Let me know and thanks.
Joanna
I’m pretty sure you’re already signed up, Joanna! Comment away.
I like your blog, I have one that is along the same lines but with a more urban feel.
Keep up the good work, I’ll add you to my blogroll
http://thick.thumblogger.com/
Hey there–
Stumbled across your site and think it’s a great idea to address portrayals of weight in the media and how it relates to body image.
I’m a dance-fitness instructor / celebrity choreographer in Los Angeles. I’d love to contribute to your blog in some way — perhaps my take on the celebrity diet-isms here in L.A. or how to combat that poor body image that plagues many of us. Check out my site!
Love it. Love the shoes, love the bag, love everything.
I found this site through BlogHer. It has been a great encouragement to me as I continue to deal with the post-bulimia me. Thanks for the love ladies!!!
This is my first time here, but certainly won’t be my last! Glad I stumbled upon your site.
Hi, I just came across your site and it rocks, so I’m going to add the link to my site so I can remember to look on a regular basis.
Thnaks
Keep dreaming, Fatties
Wha-huh? I’m sorry, but there must be some way to take a bit of an internetz eraser to this maroon’s comment, eh? I mean, seriously yo.
found this blog on the rotund blog site links…I love your entries! It’s like reading my own thoughts and observations. Thank you for sharing your views. Keep singing out loud and proud!
I’m new here. As in, I’ve been here all of ten seconds new. But I wanted to say hello and that this is so awesome and I can’t wait to dig deeper into this blog! :)
I found this blog via Hello I Am Fat. I started a weight loss group called Future MILFs on my blog cause I need to lose 120 pounds and don’t want to do it alone. So far lots of funny ladies are losing with me. I’m only down 20..but heck it’s a start. I like this site and will be back for sure!
I found you guys through a google search that’s slightly embarrassing… either way, I’m glad I did, because it’s so, so nice to find people who are accepting of fatness. I wish I could feel that way about my 100 pounds overweight self. I especially wish my husband could feel that way.
Hi! I’ve been lurking around this blog for the past few months. It’s one of my favorites. I love the way you guys write and thought you might like to know about a great local artist in my area (who’s a lovely “full figured” lady) Desdamona.
http://minnesota.publicradio.org/display/web/2006/06/29/desdamonaprofile/
Towards the end of this interview she has a great poem called “Too Big for My Skin” that, I thought, totally encapsulated the positive messages of this site. I am not “too fat, too skinny, too white, too black” but “I am too big for my skin.”
I love your site, I have been reading it for several months now. I’m 51, and focusing on my health (yes it means losing weight – but I am not obssessed with the final scale number). My doctor and heart doctor recommended I loose 153 lbs – I’ll be happy when I feel my best — already I can breathe better and do more. So the number isn’t my goal.
My favorite pastime is spending time with my daughter and hubby, my favorite color is purple, and I love dragons.
Early this year I started The Diet Pulpit blog
http://thedietpulpit.wordpress.com/
I started it as a way to keep myself motivated to getting healthy and then got inspired to network with more and more folks, help others keep on tract to getting healthy – by focusing on health, happiness, humor. Even though there are tips for eating healthy, some diet, the main message is Health First, not size!
Incredible Shrinking Ladies is the blog my friend and I keep together about our journey back to health (started May 2006)
http://shrinkingladies.wordpress.com/
Lady Rose
Howdy, I’m E. Black. I found you guys through the Too Fat For Fashion blog. Just started reading today . My blog is just a vat of personal stuff with tons of commentary on society’s views of everything from weight to beauty to childbearing. It’s friends only but I’m open about who adds me on LJ (as long as you aren’t a fat hater or a stalker or just a hater in general).
http://enchanted-black.livejournal.com is where to find me.
E. Black
hey, i just found this site, and i’m pretty sure i’m going to keep checking back. i’m searching for a way to make myself believe that i’m beautiful. so, i’ll keep checking back.
I have read this blog for a while and just wanted to pop in and introduce myself. This place is a great resource to have.
Just started my writing down some of my own little rants and raves thanks to you all. You ladies are all very inspiring.
Hey girlie bugs! Love, double love, your site! I appreciate the humor, and the snark and the focus on health and losing weight the RIGHT way. ;)
way to go.
I am new to this site. I recently attained 375 pounds with a 60″ waist for a large 6-2 man. As soon as I can figure out to attach a picture, I will do so. Over the last two years I moved up from 280 to 375 and am looking forward to growing larger and rounder. My goal is to be around 600 or as large as I can be and still be able to walk. Traveling has been interesting – the last flight I spilled over in to the other seat after putting on my second seat belt. Finding pants sizes over 60 in stores is also becoming a challenge. On I go. I hope this blog is a positive one for me as a fat man who likes being large and wants to get bigger.
I’ve been reading you for a little while… I found you from Miss Elizalou (http://www.elizalou.com/blog/) and I thought I’d introduce myself.
I’m 30 (ack!), recently married and my husband and I both have battled with our weight our entire lives. We do what we can to love ourselves and attempt to be healthy.
Anyway, I love this blog! Keep up the amazing work.
ps
These girls rock: http://glamazongirls.com/index.html
I’ve been quietly lurking for about a month. I don’t recall how, but I’m very happy I found you! I love the witt and the debates, it all makes for fun reading and motivation.
I have hopes of sticking with a healthy, active lifestyle for the rest of my life. I dream of fitting comfortably into a kayak and kayaking around on a crystal clear lake in Alaska with Eagles flying over head.
My favorite pudding is fat free / sugar free chocolate. mmmm! My favorite humming noise is probably my grandbaby learning to blow bubbles. She sounds like a little motor about ready to start.
Great blog! I love it! Thanks,
Kaye
Hi! I’m spacedcowgirl. I’m pretty sure I found this site through PastaQueen’s blog, which in turn I found when I turned 30 and started Weight Watchers. I’m trying to lose a total of 118 (WW goal) to 138 (personal goal) pounds and am currently 64 pounds into that. My hopes and dreams include getting the compulsive eating monkey off my back and being healthy. I’m very interested in political, social, and gender issues related to fat, and I’m thrilled that people like you guys and Kate Harding are out there, not to mention all of the great, smart diet bloggers like PastaQueen, Dietgirl, and NicoleW who also put thought into these issues and always give me something new to think about. I’m trying to get healthy, not turn into an insane calorie-counting obsessive who has forgotten everything I once knew about all the complicated factors that have gone into making me fat.
My favorite pudding doesn’t seem to exist anymore. :( It was called Cloud 10 and came in delicious chocolate, vanilla bean, rice, and dulce de leche flavors. Absolutely heavenly.
Favorite humming sound… hmm. I’m not sure I have one. Most humming noises are annoying.
Thanks for the great site!
What brought you to Big Fat Deal?
I stumbled here from somewhere….have done it a few times now. i love the fresh voice and the take charge attitude. i love the way you guys embrace the bodies you’re in…..nice for a change.
How long have you been reading? not really sure since each time has been a “stumble”
What are your hopes and dreams? oh, i have several…the ones most relevant on my blog currently are getting healthier…fitter. this includes losing “sum” weight but not all of it. i hope and dream to find a beter job..though i dont blog about that much…currently in a serious relationship with a guy who jsut finished up his PhD. nowhere to go but marriage now…..i’ve been posting more and more and bout that lately too.
What kind of pudding do you enjoy? oh! i love the Chocolate Lover’s one by…….is is Duncan Hines? thats sooo good. that pudding must have put at least 20lbs on me…(giggle)
What’s your favorite humming noise? uh….i am not sure about this…………but i do love the sound of the car alarm honk when my bf comes over….its how i know he’s only steps away from walking in my door…….
Actually, I never knew there were such things as fat activists or an official movement against size discrimination. But I’m right there with you all with my virtual picket sign. “Amen, Sistahs!” I am struggling to lose the weight, but also doing my share of occasional rants when the world deserves them.
My blog can be found at http://nataliesotherblog.blogspot.com.
what brought me here? I googled “i’m fat and it’s okay’ because this year I got sick of not wearing skirts and shorts in the summer. I was ashamed of my legs and considered myself subhuman because I’m plus size. And I’m not!!
I just got off on Youtube. This guy and girl posted a video on YouTube saying that guys should not date fat women but should be allowed to F&@K them!
This is an outrage!
Here’s the link:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=OUzvmJUNQSY
The guy can be emailed at:
skyy@skyyjohn.com
He’s an unemployed actor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and pardon my french, a foreigner!
I found my way here through a random, self-hating Google search on fat people. I immediately fell in love with the blog. I only just got here, but I’ll probably keep coming back. :)
Me? I’m, uh… Well. I don’t eat pudding of any kind, and my favourite humming noise is probably that of my trusty laptop. I dream of happiness, being able to afford Playstation 3, strange crimes and downhill skiing (for some reason), losing weight and, currently, Hatake Kakashi of the Naruto animation series. And I feel it’s relevant to add that I’m approaching 30 years of age. :D
I found this blog after searching for fat positvie information. I was so sick and tired of feeling subhuman, and I was frozen in my life for years, I have always been “fat” and teased and harrassed about it even when I was a fit and very active child. What happened was that I kept internalizing all the negative bullshit that was being pushed on me, and finally one very low and late night I punched fat positive into the search engine, I found the NAAFA site which led me over here and I have been a loyal fan ever since, that was over a year ago. I love this site, the discussions, the links, and it is a part of my day that I enjoy and set aside for myself, it is a neccessary tool in trying to erase the negative self talk that has plauged me for so long, and replace it with positive thoughts. My self-worth is no longer about “losing” or “gaining” weight for me anymore, my body is part of me, it is about caring for it, loving and nurturing myself in healthy ways. So it is true BFD is part of a nutritious breakfast :). My favorite pudding is no-name brand chocolate fudge, and my favourite humming noise is when you put a blade of grass between your thumbs and blow, it’s kind of more like a whistle I guess, but it’s fun either way. Thanks a lot, for this site, all of you beautiful people have really been a postive influence in my life, hugs and kisses for all :).
Hola! I found you from one of my fav mag’s sites, Bust. Somebody there thought we should know about you and I’m glad they did.
I’m here and I’m addicted because body image has been something that has defined me since I was about 12. Can’t stand the fact that my being a larger gal causes people to think that they can comment on it.
I love rock and roll, dirty restaurants with good food, conversation, my husband, (who’s a cook;) snappin’ photos, plantin’ flowers, manners, anything retro.
Oh yeah…I talk too much.
Hey, I just found this site and am sad that I didn’t find it sooner! I’m a beautiful fat chick and am proud of it.
Hi guys…I am a flabuless diva…ok so I am on a diet but I love my curves so wont be losing them anytime soon. I am all about getting healthy and experiencing life to the fullest. Come by my cyber home for a coffee…anytime..you might have to make it yourself though!
Finding Flabuless
:) Flabuless
I found this site by accident but then again nothing is really accident I am a fat fablous femme. I really get irritated by the thin obessed world and the nonsense us plus size divas experience but then i think about all those negative people and someday they will stand before our maker and have to give an account of how they treat others and I dont want to be those people. That makes life a bit bearable….
I found this page through a link, I think it was the Red3 blog. I’ve only really read the body positivity tips, which were really good btw. I’m just finding the fat acceptance community online, tho I’ve had my own blog for some months. It feels good to find some likeminded people, though I have a great girlfriend who loves me the way I am AND is into fat acceptance, which is more than I had hoped. If you wish to get to know me, my MySpace is http://www.myspace.com/jokerswan. I’m from Finland, Deniselle is not my real name, and I weigh about 195 lb, in case anyone cares. Hi everyone!
I’m Angelina and I stumbled on this last night in a fit of sadness and depression over my ongoing struggle with my body, shape, life and whatnot. It was a totally salve. I used to be one of those badass Queen Latifah types of fat black girls, with all the sass and smarts and snark, but then I got a little weight off me, discovered the cruelties of men and not being true to yourself (where’s that Oprah shame music when you need it???) and got fat again! I’ve spent the last couple of years feeling shame about busting out of my size 20s and isolating myself because of it. I’ve been suicidal at several points and now i’m clawing my way back to fabulousness, one well manicured nail at a time. I love this blog. I really respect the writers and message. I’m trying to think of anything else. Um, I’m a writer. I wrote an article for bitch magazine and that was fun. I just got my MFA a month ago and I still feel like a fraud, but a least I’m a fraud with an MFA. I’m shopping my novel around and I really like cupcakes.
Congrats on the MFA, Angelina! And I just saw Hairspray yesterday and it ruled. Speaking of Queen Latifah!
Hey. I found this site through a blog directory. I love to bake, my favourites are peanut butter and chocolate chip cookies. I love going to the gym so feel like a fake on a site like this but baking still comes tops.
hey yell i to found this site through ablog directry and ove it i is a great place to talk! i love to cook it is my favouite passtime though i find i hard to find healthy recipies any suggestions??
Howdy.
I found this blog because I subscribed to the Notes from the Fatosphere blogs on Kate Harding’s blog. I am learning to love myself, jiggles and all, and want all women to love themselves. I think blogs like these are great.
a google on “fat person kayak” got me here — to the woman in alaska — fat people can kayak !
just got back from a week in algonquin park kayaking in the interior — tired and bruised (getting in an out of kayak a challenge when 5 ft 6 and 235 lbs) — that stated kayaking is doable for fat girls !!! yipee!!! recommend the experience to anyone who wants to kayak but thinks they can’t because of poundage — fav humming noise is the sound of critters in the marshes and lily pads beside the shoreline and outside the tent — slainte, Lyn
My name is Jess Im a 21 year old Aussie and I weigh 144kg (312lb) and 5′11. The reason Im leaving a message is that I had a bad experiance with a doctors ignorance today (apparantly I live on fast food) although I told him over and over when I was trying to loose weight I ate mostly grilled chicken and salad or veg. (of course doctor diddnt beleive me) I feel lika an outcast of society already and this doctor made me feel like a lyer and greedy. I left that surgery Intendng to drive the car off a cliff, but I have two babies 16mnths and 4mnths and a husband and I couldnt bring myself to do it although I think about it every day, Australia is worse than america when it comes to “hating fat people”.
I have no health problems from being my size No high cholesterol no high blood pressure, no diabetes and I can walk, run, jump and mutch as a slim woman. The only health problems I had at all are fybromyalgia which I inherited from my mum and my sis has it too (my sis is very slim and a fitness instructer) and I had glandular fever a few yaers ago which still bothers me at times (I was given a LOT of steroids). My husband Eats a TON more fatty food than me (mcdonalds is heaven to him i hate it) and hes slim. I feel worthless and frumpy I dream of being a security guard but cant afford the course or the time (babies) and hubby works odd hours frm 3pm til 1am, so I couldnt get a shift that would fit our lifestyle I also used to go to the gym every second day (nope never helped me loose an ounce of weight) but the price makes that impossible these days too, as hubby has a gambling problem and has left all control of money in my hands (were in a LOT of debt so its very depressing) Im sorry this post is so long I just needed to let people know im on this earth,or id explode. you probably wont read it but thanks for letting me post it on your site.
jess
Jess, I am so sorry you had such a terrible experience with your doctor. I don’t know how the Australian health care system works, but you absolutely deserve better care than that and I hope you can believe that and seek out a new doctor. Do you have any plus-size friends who like their doctors? Also, if you’re really feeling suicidal, I would urge you to seek out a therapist immediately and get some help. It sounds like you could really use someone to talk to.
And Lil Cookie, I just wrote a whole post about going to the gym! (As in, I also go to the gym. It doesn’t disqualify you from being here. Quite the opposite.)
Hi! I just started writing a blog for work: http://www.shesheet.com and a blog for me: kristinbell.org in the last few months. I wasn’t really a blog reader until I started writing my own blog and noticing how many blogs there are out there! It is amazing! So, I’m a N00B. hehe. Love what you have going here. You are wonderful! Favorite pudding: chocolate…yumm. Favorite humming noise? hmm…The purr of my cat! :) Have a groovy day y’all! :)
Hi! ‘My name’s Sarah and I believe I got the link to this blog from Pasta Queen. I’ve been trying to lose weight over the past year using Dr. Phil’s book The Ultimate Weight Solutions as my bible-to-health-and-hotness. I’ve lost 60 pounds so far with another 40 to go to reach my first big goal and then probably another 20 from there. I’ve blogged about my entire journey so far.
I’ve only just found this blog so I’ve been reading for about one week.
My hopes and dreams are to become healthy and fit… oh and to win the lottery AND be a gameshow host… oh and an author… oh and a mom… oh and a public speaker… well I guess I have a lot of hopes and dreams.
What kind of pudding do I enjoy? I’m assuming this is British pudding meaning dessert in American english? If it’s not then I like chocolate, if it is then I am a huge fan of cheesecake but of course limit myself to one slice about every other year.
My favorite humming noise by far is the fan in my room. It puts me to sleep like no other. I also enjoy the following hums:
My car engine
My mom humming anything, it’s so much better than her singing!
my vibrator (for neck massages of course!)
So there you go. Whew that was a lot of questions!
I found your blog about a month ago and I f-ing love it.
Please check out my blog for some additional (perhaps thought provoking?) fun.
I love your blog! I relate to a lot of what you say. I am trying to escape from obesity after a decade of being HUGE. I have to get healthy for my kids sakes.
I just found the blog thru Wiki when I was doing some research on Sizeism. Seems like an interesting place, look forward to reading and on occasion, adding my 2 cents worth.
Hi Jess – I’m Australian too and I just wanted to let you know that not all doctors are idiots. I’m sure you’ll be able to find a good one if you ask around.
Adding to what Mo said about seeking out a therapist – or just talking to someone won’t judge you – you can ring Lifeline on 13 11 14. They are open 24 hours a day.
Good luck!
I found this through Weetabix/Elastic Waist. I have been reading for a couple of months. I prefer butterscotch pudding, but chocolate/vanilla swirl will do in a pinch. I do not like humming noises. Or beeping noises. Or any sort of “background” noises. Music and TV are good, though. :)
I hope and dream that I will one day win the lottery, so that I can become the creative and altruistic person I need to be without worrying about being, say, homeless…or having to depend on a man for it. Failing that, I hope to find some measure of contentment with who I am.
My blog doesn’t focus entirely on weight issues….but it does sometimes, depending on how much of a self-esteem crash I’m having. Otherwise, I rant about politics, work, and white trash.
:)
Dahlings – I can’t even REMEMBER how I found this wonderful blog, but it is a much needed pick-me-up when the rest of the world is bombarding one with negative messages about one’s body.
I’ve had this blog bookmarked for a month, when I did a little “research” to find blogs that addressed “fat” issues. My blog is a highly personal “confessional” that records my observations and experiences as a fat aging spinster.
HOORAY FOR BIG GIRLS
Hi, My name is Adrienne McCauley I love myself and when God created me he created the best. I have lost some weight but, I do it for myself. and i love chocolate pudding
HI,
My friend ( who I work with on women’s body image issues) told me about you and I am so glad she did. WOW cool site. I love the subliminal (maybe not!) chocolate color.
My name is Mary, come visit me at http://www.beautyandthebreast.org/>Beauty
I have battled with my weight since I was a teenager and was told I had hips…LIKE that was a BAD thing!!!
I has such a bad body image I thought I would be more attractive if I had bigger boobs. Unfortunately, I got implants and got VERY ill. They ruptured and I had them out, but my body is still processing 10 years of chemicals and the complications from the implants.
Now I speak out about body image as well as educate women about implants and health issues. intheknow.org
I don’t want anyone to feel the way I did.
Now I am healthier, happier with myself and my body, but it’s taken a while. I still deal with that little negative voice that gets to me sometimes.
I have 3 teenage daughters and I am horrified at what comes out of their mouths about their bodies sometimes.
Thanks for your site, and the work yor doing to unite women.
My fav. humming sound is my mate’s snoring….just kidding…he is loud and I try to pretend it’s a hum! But I DO love love LOVE warm vanilla pudding in a bowl with wax paper ( just like my Mom made) on the top. Then when it gets just a tiny layer on the top, take it out and eat it warm!!!! YUMMMMMMM!
Mary
Well, I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 months. The main reason? He said that I could never meet his parents because they would be ashamed of me and embarrassed by me. I am a tall, 5′11”, 275lb, size 22/24 redhead. I am pretty, intelligent, and smart. I can’t understand how someone that can love being in bed with me and can’t stand to be away from me can be so hurtful. He even calls our sex “hot”. I will remain his friend and have told him to find someone skinny to make him happy. He says he doubts he can find it and that I make him happy. He also said that if I was as skinny as my high school pictures (145 lbs), that he would want to have a long-term relationship and possibly marriage. Interesting how with the lights off bodies feel so good to each other, then the lights come on and egos and shallowness get in the way.
I found this site in some round-about way today. I doubt I will be thin anytime soon, so I am going to learn to love myself and celebrate my spirit. I love pudding, but I love ice cream better. Can anyone say Ben & Jerry’s “New York Super Fudge Chunk”? Yum.
Hiya, I’m Helen, and I think I came via Joy Nash’s Fat Rant Blog! I am a fat girl too.
I live in the UK, I’m 23, and I was a care worker until I moved to my current house, and I’ll be a care worker once all the agencies get back to me…
My size does occasionally upset me, (sigh) but usually I like being a fat girl; I especially love to defy culture by not dieting. Supposedly we must waste lots of time torturing ourselves with fake food just to get to that perfect weight, and I am just not interested. I have other things to be doing. I mean, I knitted a scarf today, and my housemate made us pancakes. It was a good day.
Hiya! I’m so glad I found this blog – I was actually thinking about starting a very similar one, but now I guess that would just be copycatting. :P
Thanks for having this!
Love this blog, it’s great! I’ve been reading for a couple weeks. I found it through a blogroll of another fat-blog but I’m not sure which one. My blog is http://inquisitivefattie.blogspot.com which I recently started.
I learned of your blog at the Beauty and Breast blog.
Yes, I think fat is a feminist issue. Every woman, big or small should be concerned about the images of women we see in the media. I have worked in the health and wellness field for nearly ten years and believe one of the major reasons so many women struggle with weight is because we are at odds with their bodies. It’s hard to love your body when you are bombarded by media messages that imply that you’re not enough –that you don’t fit the mold of today’s standard of beauty. I have written a book, The Heart of Living Well: Six Principles for a Life of Health, Beauty and Balance, in which I help women reclaim and redefine beauty on thier own terms. It is my hope that each and every woman will believe that she is worthy of love, health, peace and harmony. Beauty is in every cell of our being, regardless of our size, shape, or color. Beauty is within and all around us.
My blog is at http://www.heartandstylewoman.com
I look forward to reading more of your posts! Judy
I’ve created a blog, First Ourselves, to help women love their bodies, feel beautiful, and make self care a priority.
I hated my body for years, and had the history to go with it: I’ve been bulimic, a chronic dieter, an overeater, underweight, overweight, and at a normal weight.
Learning to love my body, and my body image issues, has been one of my greatest challenges, and greatest opportunities. I’m currently running a 30 days to body breakthrough experiment, culminating on Love Your Body Day (October 18) in which I use the law of attraction to transform my negative thoughts about my body:
http://www.firstourselves.com/first_ourselves/2007/09/join-me-the-thi.html
Want to join me?
Best,
Karly
I’ve been reading for a couple of months now, but for some reason, am just introducing myself. Like most of you, I’ve struggled with body image for most of my life, and I could open my own boutique with all the different sizes in my closet (6-18). I’m now back up at the larger end of that spectrum and have just discovered this whole fat acceptance movement. I have come to the point where I can no longer hate myself. I’m tired of waiting for my life to begin 50 pounds from now. I think this is a really great blog with lots of interesting discussions.
To answer the other questions, I found your blog on Bust’s website, and I like banana pudding. I’ll have to think about the humming noises.
I love this blog the concept and everything. I followed a referring link back to this blog from mine but couldn’t locate if my link was in a post or a reference. At any rate I’m hoping it doesn’t slip my mind to link you ladies!
I love this blog and being able to talk with others about these issues. I am not alone! Check out my blog on women’s issues, size acceptance issues and more. http://www.queenofviolets.com.
Wow! What an amazing and inspiring site! Kudos! What brought me here is that I am a large actress who was searching the web for roles and your site came up! So happy it did! Love your work. Hey- I also write a coumn for plusmodelmag.com called: “Adventures in Hollywood.” All about my experience as a big actress in la-la land. According to Hollywood’s standards I could lose more than TWO HUNDRED pounds and l would still be considered obese! I am trying to make it in Hollywood and not compromise my integrity. I loved your article on no large women characters on tv. It’s so true! If you get a chance please check out my website out at http://www.jenniferjonassen.com and my coulmn at http://www.plusmodelmag.com/General/plus-model-magazine-article-detail.asp?article-id=620029152
I could use all the support I can get! Thanks so much for your brilliant website-maybe one day I will have a t.v. character that I played listed on it!
:)
Found this blog about a month ago and I love it! I’m a fat Brit, my BMI’s somewhere over 30… Most of the time I am quite happy with this, though I occasionally have those scary moments when I see unflattering pictures of myself… eek!
The blog’s funny and friendly and makes me think :)
Just wanted to say hello and to state that there is no such thing as an ugly fat woman, just a lot of beauty by the pound,not just on the outside, but more importantly, on the inside also. This blog is really funny and full of insight at the same time.
I was looking for a size acceptance blog to feature on my blog, and this is it!
Best,
Rion
OMG I was having a total fat attack (you know, when suddenly the fact you’re fat hits you hard and you start to freak out a little) and, in a fit of dispare, typed ‘I’m tired of being fat, ugly, and pimply” on google and this came up. I LOVE IT!!! There’s hope, and you guys rock for prooving it.
Lots of Love, from Official Talented, Funny, and Beautiful (even if I sometimes forget it) Fat Girl,
Katheirne
I followed a link from the Figure Magazine website’s board to find you.
I’m 37, married to a man who loves curves (he’s a big guy, fearful that skinny girls break), with a daughter. I’ve had body image issues since puberty, so for most of the last 25 years, I’ve hated what I looked like. I’m tired of hating myself and trying to push myself into Madison Ave.’s mold.
My greatest source of pleasure/fun is belly dancing. Lotsa skinny girls there, too, but there’s a troupe of Black women in my area who are BBW and can out-dance a lot of those other ones. Dancing is teaching me more than just how to shimmy; I’m also learning that beauty is in all of us, and size is just another number. That said, my shimmy is still a whole lot better than my body-image. (sigh)
Its fine to accept your overweight but to stop there and think you’ve figured out how to be happy and that its the final answer I think is only part of it. It may be the starting point of accepting who you are but do you think you should stop there? Accepting the reality of being overweight and just stopping there and accepting it as being ok or normal is just another way to “feed” your addiction. It is an addiction that is trying to kill you. It is no different then a heroin addict saying ok guys I know the world has a bad view on heroin, but I am accepting the fact that I can’t quit successfully for any long period of time so I am just going to accept and flaunt my heroin addict self and be the best and happiest heroin addict I can be. Finding other heroin addicts to say hey its ok being a junkie or be ok with it, in my opinion will just keep you sick in your addiction. The only way to get through these addictions is to call the beast by its name and take the so called things that seem negative and be thankful that their out there telling us that its not cool to eat ourselves to death, its not cool to poison ourselves with chemicals that feel good. Even though you may claim that a beautiful piece of double chocolate cake would be so good, and a needle full of yellow poppy plant chemicals to the addict (recovering addict now) like myself may seem like the best things in the world, but the fact is, these things that seem oh so good are trying to kill us. If there wasen’t anything wrong with these things and other peoples families of the past who have watched their loved one die of heart disease or a heart attack, or of a drug overdose, then there would be no problem with these things. The fact is many people have died and if anything think of your family members who would be heart broken if you died because of your own doing. It is the work of evil and unless you call it by its name, you may not know that something is actually trying to kill you. Being aware is the first step to any recovery. As I see it, being overweight is a form of addiction. It is being lost in your mind. If you work on your mind, the rest will follow. I know because I was lost in my head doing the same things over and over again and once my mind was in control my body wasen’t going to take its legs and walk to my car to drive to the city to get drugs. Just as you won’t pick up a fork and start eating and eating if your mind is in control. The hard thing is stopping these same robotic patterns that we have always done. So if you want to change, work on your mind and healing the wounds, then anything is possible. I think its great to come together for support, but I think one should always ask themselves, could I be doing something better for myself? Is this what I truely want in my life? If not then go as a warrior into battle against something that wants you to have a life other then what you wish for. I wish everyone the best of luck in their seek of happiness. And if I can be clean from heroin (the other most addictive substance besides food) you too can do anything you put your mind to.
HI! I found this page while searching for sites dealing with fat activism. I just started my own blog and looking for others who are trying to make the world a little more accepting to fat men and women. I am also interested in fashion for all and art, culture, film, etc. I have enjoyed your page so far and look forward to reading it regularly!
Thanks!
anzilove
Randomly browsing through Wikipedia found me the article on Fat Acceptance. Being an insecure fat girl I read it, and at the bottom I found some wonderful links that lead me here. My entire life was full of “what beautiful hair you have,” referencing my naturally red locks, but nothing more. I recall my father, who has always been insecure about his own weight, a yo-yo dieter, commenting about how I couldn’t see my own feet when I looked down. I’ve only gained since then. I admit it. I am 20 years old, 5′9″ and 300 pounds. I am a size 24. Facts that no one knew until right now. For years I felt so ugly. Unworthy. But I’m not. I took this semester off of school to focus on myself, on bettering myself, on becoming more confident, on developing my friendships, and embracing myself. I want to give every single woman on here a hug. I read of the empowerment that you feel and know that I AM worthy. I freaking deserve to be happy. I SHOULD ask that guy out because I like him damn it. I don’t know why I’ve spent my life trying to fit into a smaller mold. Sure, I worry that the seatbelt won’t fit me on airplanes but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. Count me in ladies, I am here to stay!
hey yall trying to get a book out about dietisms that people have passed on to me I am up to 87 and am shooting for 101 can you help?????????
By the way, hi I am 7 of 9 kids hence the name. I was flitting through some research and fell upon you beautiful people with a mind set so much like my own. I love white chocolate pudding of late and my favorite humming noise is the whir that means the computer is working. lol. You know when you weigh more than 100 lbs everyone thinks they have the right and it is thier duty to tell you how to loose the weight and I have decided to put them all down and publish a book. any help you can give me is helpful.
Hello all! Aint it funny how a small click can lead you to amazing places? I found you by typing in, trying to feel sexy even when fat. I read a little story about a fat girl and couldnt believe how much it sounded like me. I am tired of being told “oh, honey, you still look good to me.” I am so excited to find you and will be back!!!!
Hi! My name is Des, I’m 19 years old and I live in Puerto Rico.
I discovered this blog one night that I was feeling really depressed about all the fat hate that was going around and one of my friends, in an effort to cheer me up, sent me a link to Joy Nash’s video “A Fat Rant”. Needless to say it made me feel much better and after clicking around the web I found this site.
I feel better about my body now than I have for a long time. I never knew that websites like this existed. It feels amazing to know that it’s ok to love my body. I’ve been on diets since I was 7(yes, 7 y/o believe it or not) and after not losing the weight my family wanted me to was left feeling miserable, alone and worthless.
You guys have helped me so much you have no idea.
hugs and kisses,
Des
I didnt know there where ppl out there feeling like me… wish i knew how to put it out as many of u…
being overweight kills me inside specially being raised in a culture suck like mine – brazil….
i use food to compensate the feelings i dont know how to feel…
i need help i know!!!
anyways just wanted to drop a line and say it is really nice to see that there ppl out there that are happy being the way they are…
maybe one day ill learn it!!!
loved the blog – dont know how to used it well though hahahaha… ill learn it eventually!!!
Hi, I’m Dawn. I’m a high school senior and I found BFD while rapidly clicking StumbleUpon for sites tagged with “body image.”
I have struggled with my weight and self-confidence since middle school. Even though now I’m the thinnest I can remember being since I hit puberty, I still have constant problems with my confidence. Over the summer, I had a huge crush on this guy who told my friends he would never go out with me because I was too insecure. I never talked to him. It was pretty ridiculous. There is an element of that situation in an uncomfortably large percentage of my relationships with people. My low confidence is visible and people think less of me because of it.
Since then I have been really trying to boost my self-esteem, because I know that no matter how much weight I lose or whatever, I will still feel “ugly” if I don’t change my attitude. BFD gives me a little boost that reminds me to like myself.
Hi there – I’m Dawn, a 37-year-old Philly gal who is a size 20-22. I don’t really care about the weight part, but I used to exercise regularly and I stopped doing anything when I got laid off last year.
I’m trying to get out and walk, but the last time I did, something threw a McDonald’s box at me. I kind of went back and hid ever since.
Of course, my boyfriend is a complete health freak/ weight lifter type. I would walk/exercise with him, but we work opposite schedules.
Anyway, it’s great to find this blog.. nice to be here..
I found your site through Woman’s Health newsletter and I love it!
Hi everyone – I’m a UK chubster who loves this blog and in fact I use it for inspiration – I wrote about that hideous Michael Karolchyk the other week. Yuk!
I also have a website called Relentlessly positive (www.relentlessly-positive.com) and I hope you’ll come and have a look, it’s not exclusively a fat acceptance type site but there are NO DIETS allowed!!!
Keep up the good work everyone, love from the UK :o)
Hi there!
I found this site in Women’s Health and am so ready to blog and chat and get busy losing weight! I had lap-band surgery 5/10/07 but do not let /anyone/ tell you that is the easy way out, it is not easy! This is a tool and its finally working for me! I’ve lost 35lb in 7mo and began exercising as of yesterday!
DId I mention i HATE exercising!? But I must! I’m going to Hawaii January ‘09 for my 40th and have 13 months to get to a size where they actually make a wetsuit that will fit me, I AM going to learn how to surf! =)
Oh, I’ve been reading and, once in a very dark blue moon, contributing to this marvelous, funky and fun website for a long time. Of course, being an older person, my memory isn’t always so terrific. So, since I’ve completely forgotten my previous info., and since I’ve bought this honking big new computer and signed up at last for DSL (yikes!), I’m just creating a totally new persona to go with my new email address. I’ve been losing this same 30 pounds for 5 years. I’ll lose a couple or five, become overwhelmed by my success, and reward myself with 3 pounds of Ghiradelli. Sigh. Never mind. My b.b. has got to lose a bit for health reasons and so this will force me to lose, as it will look pretty sad if this 5′8″ old lady eats more than the 6′4″ b.b. I do love this site and have been inspired by it many times.
I’d prefer reading in my native language, because my knowledge of your languange is no so well. But it was interesting! Look for some my links:
I found this site while googling “happy to be overweight”…I am forever reading about how depressed, sad, etc. fat people are. Well, I’m not! I do know I need to address my weight issue for certain health reasons, but I’ve never really been sad about my weight. I was underweight until about the age of 18, then normal weight until about 32….and then, the weight started coming on. I’m 48 now, and wear a size 18/20. So, I’ve seen both sides. If anything, I unfortunately still see myself as ’slim’ in the mirror, when I’m not… Dysmorphism in reverse!
As far as pudding….chocolate bread pudding with rum sauce. And I much prefer scatting to humming (think Louis Armstrong!)
hello ladies, and thank you for the reading pleasure…
Let’s see, what info did you want??
Oh yeah…You can thank your friends at Women’s Health for bringing me to you last month, I hope to someday have a job (I’m 2 years out of college and having the worst time finding a job…UGH!), husband and beautiful house somewhere in the lovely Oregon area, I prefer vanilla pudding, although I will take just about anything when it’s accompanied with cake or ice-cream and I’m not so hip on the humming, but give me a good Broadway tune or classic rock mainstay and I’ll be a happy little clam. Take care and Happy New Year.
Hey. Linked over from Ms. Nash’s blog. Oh, and I’m a guy…not too many have signed in…but that’s ok. Don’t ask me why the women’s fashion industry makes me crazy…it just does.
Favorite smell…the ocean
I’m trying to ignore the constant loud humming noise.
Keep on blogging!!!
Hey all! I am a PhD student in exercise nutrition and Baylor U in Texas. Check out my frequent blog posts including recipes, supplement reviews, and general nutrition and health tips!
Hello! My name is Cindy. I’m a professional opera singer and writer (among other things). My new blog is http://www.thenext100pounds.com. It chronicles my journey from Planet Plus (where I have resided all my life) to the unknown reaches of the Slendersphere using cognitive therapy and sound nutrition.
I found BFD while churning away on the elliptical at the gym — it was mentioned in a health mag — and have been checking in with you for several weeks now. Love BFD for sassy good sense. Keep up the good work!
Hi,
I blog over at http://www.thoughtracer.wordpress.com. I think the diet industry is a conspiracy to keep women oppressed.
The end.
Hi! I just found this blog (found the nomination for best blog at FigureMagazine.com, and I will be a regular reader from now on. I love the intelligent discussion of size issues.
What the hell, I’ll post, too! My name’s Kat, and way back when blogs were still journals, I met Mo and Weet at Journalcon in DC. Then I stopped writing online and gained back all of the weight I talked about losing. I’m getting tired of not quite fitting into my car, so I’m back reading and writing about fitness and cheese and whether the size of my ass (and my wanting to change it) means I can still be a feminist. Enjoying every letter of every word here at BFD.
What’s up all you fabulous chickies! I found this blog through Elastic Waist.
I have a blog. It’s boring. No really… it is. Well, OK, since you asked:
http://sea-hag.blogspot.com
I found this website from an email sent by a member of one of my Yahoo groups. I am a 630 pound 6′3″ 51 year old male who loves being fat and obviously I am very much that way. I was a very fat child and adolescent weighing over 200 in 4th grade and over 450 when I finished high school. After college, which I finished at about 350, I lost weight to fit in to the societal pressures and was in the mid to low 200s during my late 20s and 30s. In my early 40s I took a new job that allowed me to travel extensively for 9 years. At the same time I realized I was happiest when I was fat. The company I work for was very understanding of meal costs when I traveled since I was on the road all the time. I decided to gain weight and during the nine years added about 400 pounds by eating all my meals at all you can eat buffet restaurants. I loved gaining weight and each time I would come back to our main office I was larger than my last vist. I work for a director who was also heavy and did not mind that I was gaining. I put on about a pound a week. My last year on the road I spent in Iowa and put on about 100 pounds to reach just over 600. I was then promoted to a new role that does not require travel. My director had my work cube built for my size. She continues to be very accepting and that view is fairly well shared by our company. I enjoy eating a lot. I still walk, well really waddle, and am fairly healthy for my size.
Hello! Found your blog on abcnews.com this morning and wandered over. I have struggled with weight issues (up and down and up and down and up and . . .well, you get it) my whole life. Now I’m just working on devloping healthy habits. I’ve watched my daughters struggle with healthy self-image also and am trying to break the cycle! Love theyself! is my new battlecry and I’m digging for all information I can find to steer my girls into HEALTHY lifestyles instead of yo-yo, self-loathing lifestyles. Stay strong ladies, I’m off to read your site in full and follow some links to discover more! Katie
I also learned of your blog today on abcnews.com and decided to check it out this morning! I am a 43-year-old mom of 3 girls ranging in age from 3 years old to almost-22! I can honestly say that I’ve “been there” on both sides of this fat-acceptance issue and can understand why some skinny people are so prejudiced. I was not fat growing up, and I used to think that fat people were laughable. Thankfully I never laughed at anyone to their face (I’m not a bully) but I do remember making fun of one fat girl behind her back and writing a creative-writing story in 7th grade about a fat boy who was so fat his fat rolls filled up the hallway at school as he walked! (I can’t believe the teachers actually let me read that “children’s story” to the 1st graders, but that was the 70s, when there was even less sensitivity, I guess.) I used to think that if I ate “X” amount of food and was a normal size that people twice my size must be eating double of what I was eating! My attitude was, “How can they BE that way?!” Well, I ended up getting what was due to me as I started gaining weight in my late teens and 20s, much of it from pregnancies and that lovely birth control injection, Depo-Provera (terrible for weight gain). Some of it was overeating, but perhaps only 30%. The rest wasn’t, and I suspect that is the case for a lot of fat people, that things sort of “happened” to change their metabolism and they didn’t realize what was happening, continued to eat normally, and gained weight. Since gaining a lot, I have been up and down the scale a bit, but I find it incredibly hard to even lose it in the first place, as I get downright HUNGRY (as in actual hunger pangs, not just “cravings”) if I try to diet. It’s rough. On my 5′4-1/2″ frame I’ve been up to 235 in the past and at present I’m at 221. Now, I’m proud of my large-yet-hour-glass figure. I got remarried in my late 30s. I weigh almost as much as my husband, and he loves me the way I am – even met me and married me this way. Personally, I am physically more comfortable in the 165-185 pound range, but hey, that’s physical comfort for me that I’m talking about here, not trying to get others’ approval, and 165-185 is still not “skinny”! I don’t want to be like my sister, who lost a bunch on Atkins and now has to eat no more than 50 carbs/day to maintain (what is that? maybe two pieces of bread)? I try to eat more veggies and exercise when I can. What more should I expect? No starvation here, not going to do it. If I learned anything from the prior prejudice of my youth, then experiecning gaining weight myself, it’s that fat people are not all sitting around chowing down all the time, nor do they not care about themselves. I remember the Indian Prayer about not judging a person before walking a mile in that person’s moccasins. I think some never-been-fat people (the prejudiced ones) need to read that prayer and think about it. Glad to meet you all! (BTW, my “snickey” name does not refer to Snickers candy – it’s related to my middle daughter’s nickname. But hey, I like Snickers, too. :-) )
I should explain – I do like Snickers, but I rarely eat them. My saying I like them wasn’t a “giveaway” to the prejudiced-against-fat people. I bet many of them “like” Snickers too, LOL!
I’ve been lurking for about a month and the recent “news” about your site and other sites made me decide to de-lurk, mostly because you’ll be getting lots of trolls and I want to be a positive voice. I think what you’re doing is awesome! I’m 25 and have been self-described “chubby” my whole life, with all the self-hate and school-yard humiliation that comes with. It’s only recently that I’ve concetrated on taking care of myself and liking myself, and the FA movement blogs are a major part of me making that breakthrough. It’s nice to not be afraid to go to the gym and also not be ashamed if I order a pizza once in a while. It’s amazing what the decrease in self-loathing has done for me.
Interesting side effect,– when I embraced myself as is, I became less depressed. When I became less depressed, I stopped drinking so much. Lost about 15lbs of beer-weight and also 180lbs of raging bastard who took advantage of my low self-esteem for a long time. The FA movement has been way better for me than any diet!
this site is an enabler for fat people. creating yet another accepting society to a mass epidemic.
way to go, solidifying the no. 1 spot for the fattest country in the world.
I really enjoyed reading the blog entries. It is nice to find a site that is positive about being the size we are and not a site where one is pressured to become smaller.
More and more great entries as I keep reading. Are there other men or women on this site who are very large like me (quite a lot of me at 630) and enjoy their size or plan to remain that way?
more power to ya!
ok i am one of those not understood fat people. Me and my husband both weight about 270 since we married two years ago we do not eat any read meat at home or sweats. We do everything with chicken, turkey and fish. I am 5.8″ and he is 5′10″. We also do not use butter or salt at home. We are both paramedics and do get exericise on our jobs. Imagine four flights of stairs with 50 pounds of equipment and a 300 pound patient at the top. I also swim a lot and my husband walks alot. However I think everyone thinks we eat meat three times a day and never exerise. We get comments from family and friends about this. I have a blood pressure of 110/70 my blood sugar fasting is 92. My cholesterol in 190 and my triglcerides as 163, pretty good for a fat lady? I have never had health problems from my obesity, why does the world assume I do nothing but eat and not exerise all day?
Fuk you fat lazy ass people.. I.E 630 POUNDS?! and wants to stay that way?!?
I hope every one on this blog dies of a heart attack.
This is turning into a mental disease. Jesus H. Christ.
Poor american saps.
Snickey–
Thanks for sharing your story–it’s a really good example of how people’s opinions are not static and unchanging. I think that anyone interested in body positivity has held a number of opinions on fat at different times.
And for NOT a fat person–
My WEIGHT is doing less damage to my heart than your HATE is doing to yours.
Dear NOT a fat person,
Please shit in your fist and squeeze.
Love,
Everyone else
“this site is an enabler for fat people. creating yet another accepting society to a mass epidemic.
way to go, solidifying the no. 1 spot for the fattest country in the world.”
Tim,
Given that the rest of the world is content to treat larger people like second class citizens, I doubt one little blog is “enabling” fat people to stay that way. Genetics is more of an enabler than a blog committed to acknowledging that health at every size is a very real possibility.
And guess what? Being fat isn’t the worst thing you can be, so being the “no. 1 spot for the fattest country in the world” isn’t nearly as bad as being, in my estimation, the no. 1 spot for the most f-ed up ideas about food, sex, denial, reward, and power in the world.
Love,
not Tim
I’m so glad I stumbled upon your website. I’m a fat girl in a profession of whippet slim and pretty women. I raise money for a living and yes, the beautiful people gravitate towards this profession.
Being the only big gal at conferences makes me some what of an enigma. I’m am learning (yep, you can still learn in your 40’s) to be happy as I am. I love reading the positive comments (and the not so positive comments).
Great design, too. Love the color combo.
Hello,
I found this blog today when I was wondering why it was so bad to be just a little over-size? And this comes up, and thank you for having this site up! It has made me feel better.
For the past months, I’ve been trying to just slim myself down a bit, enough to get to a size 15. It’s funny that I consider a size 16-12 normal and the rest, “Damn, you’re a twig” (Not hating on the skinny people).
So thank you once again, if only this existed when I was in jr. high and so on. I hope every girl who feels out of place for being just a little “fat” will come upon this blog.
Love the colours and layout! :)
Hi there. I read the article on you guys in the NY Times and I felt like I needed to check it out. I’m so glad I did, because it felt so nice to read about accepting our bodies as they are and not always feeling like we need to change. I have been struggling with my weight ever since I was a little girl, and I’ve finally come to the realization (not that long ago, either) that I’m just not ever going to be a size 0. It’s not the way I’m built. This thought didn’t give me any comfort, though, because I felt like I’d always be living in a society that made me feel like crap because I wasn’t thin and therefore not “pretty.” Reading through some of the blogs I’ve come to the realization that maybe things are looking up for the plus-size image, and that slowly but surely those of us who aren’t skinny are being recognized for who we are: wonderful, voluptuous women with worth. And it doesn’t matter that we aren’t teeny. We are still amazing. So I guess what I’m trying to say is thanks for the breath of fresh air.
Hi! I just wanted to congratulate you on the wonderful interview on MandJ today!! I had to write immediately! You said everything that needed to be said. Because of you guys, the doctor on the panel was much more careful about being extreme like the extreme lady sitting next to her (against obesity). Most extreme people against obesity have not suffered weight issues as children and adults. It’s easy for them to say..it’s dangerous, lose weight, stop eating. The epidemic was created by such things as the sedentary lifestyle and processed foods ~issues we didn’t become attuned to until it was too late. This is not happening because we are fat pigs who don’t give a shit. Should we trash computers, go back to the potatoe fields and live on farms? Folks against obesity aren’t asking for that of course. They wish to segregate the “problem” people. It is much easier to attack individuals than big corporations producing processed foods (with MSG) or businesses that drain the heck out of the worker. So, I think you guys did a great job of demonstrating that we will continue to take good care of ourselves even if we don’t fit onto the BMI chart perfectly.
Hello. I am Vicki. All my life I have been overweight. I have dealt with alot of people talking to me negatively about my weight. Family members who are suppose to be supportive weren’t, even when they too were overweight. It has affected my self esteem. I have a low one. I dont see myself as pretty, but I think I am cute. I let my self esteem effect everything in my life even down to my education. I am sick of it! I know I am special,
smart,and can do anything I set my mind to. I have a long way to go to get my self-esteem up to where it should be. I don’t think I deserve much and often I sacrifice for everyone else. But I feel I deserve it now. I deserve to have the things I have denied myself. I am a big girl, and I want to be accepted for myself not my size!
First of all let me offer a sincere apologize to all of you out there who have had to endure the cruelty and insensitively of other folks who are just plan ignorant and threatened. I want to say because I have been lucky. I grew up in a family that believed the bigger your wife and children the more prospers you were. Maybe it is a cultural thing. The first man in my life told me I was beautiful when I was growing up and a chubby kid. That was my daddy. He and my mother a big woman always made sure we dressed nice and looked good. That has made me believe how beautiful I am. I have confidence that skinny women wish they could bottle and have themselves. It is all about loving yourself. Even when I lost all my hair and I am now complete bald and a size 26, I still look good. I make sure I never let myself forget that. Always remember people take there opinion of you from you. So make sure you use the Jedi mind trick and tell them how beautiful and amazing you are before they even have a chance to form there own take. I always dress sharp, smell fabulous, look divine and keep my dome shinning. I am so stunning I have men stop on the street and give me a second look. It is positive. They can tell by my stride that I am all that and being with me makes them even better. I have been accused of being narcissistic. It is true. I love myself. I think everyone should love the skin they are end.
Don’t buy into those myths about us being big and lazy. I can dance the night away and drop it like it is hot and I am almost 40. I live an active life. The doctor says I am fine. Just keep moving and watch what you eat. Even skinny folks have to do that. They just need a group to pick on. Keep smiling, keep shopping and love yourself. Don’t let other people push their insecurities off on you. That is all chubby bashing is about. People make fun of what they wish they could have sometimes. They want you to be miserable so they can make themselves feel better. Don’t buy into it. I know I don’t. I have had some fine, fit men who love a woman who loves herself no matter what size. Always put your best you forward.
I am from Ohio and just read an article in the paper about “Fat is fine for bloggers”. I went to your website out of curiosity. Read all the comments. I am now feeling alittle better about myself. I have yo yo’d with my weight all my life. I am 5′5″ and weigh 215 lbs. I just gained in the past 3 years 50 excess lbs. I feel fine and my health is still pretty good other than aches and pains in my legs and feet. I contribute that to my weight gain and me being a waitress. I have always had a complex about the way I look and have tried to cope with the world not excepting heavy people. There have been times when I have been hurt by ugly comments that people have made about me. Your site is wonderful! It has made me feel allot better about my weight. The people that have commented funnies and truths about their weight stories have made me laugh and also see truths and stories about myself! Will visit this site more often. We are all loved by God thin or fat!
Hi,
I’m from Ohio too and read the same article. I haven’t had time to read the comments yet but I’m so glad to have found this site.
Weeble
Hi,
I stumbled upon Big Fat Deal while scouring the net for sites that are “fat friendly”. I am OUTRAGED at a new “proposal” of some airlines, and want to know if any of you have heard about it actually going into effect — here it goes:
The DISGUSTING, DEMEANING, proposal is this- The airlines want to charge us “Fatties” an extra tax on top of our airfare for every pound we are “overweight” – as would be measured by their height/BMI chart as perscribed by physicians!!!! IS THAT OUTRAGEOUS OR WHAT???? If I hear anything further I WILL MOST DEFINITELY BE SPEAKING OUT ABOUT IT – I may in fact be arrested at LAX for protesting if I hear it is in effect any time soon — I AM LIVID and YOU ALL SHOULD BE TOO — BOYCOTT ANY AIRLINES WHO INSTITUTES THIS DISGUSTING new “tax” – ARE WE NOT HUMAN BEINGS? (NOT LUGGAGE!!!!
Sorry if I came off so bitter people — I just got wind of this obnoxious “tax” – and I guess I just needed to let off some steam – EXCUSE ME:)
Anyway – on a lighter note — I love “chocolate volcano cake” with hot pudding flowing out of it – it’s my favorite – though I try to limit it to birthdays and holidays.
I also dream (though it may be some time down the line) of owning a cafe that serves fabulous expresso and cannoli (Sicilian dessert) – with SEATS LARGE ENOUGH FOR MY DERRIERE!!! not “tiny cafe seats” — CIAO all:)
PG
Hi I have recently reactivated some life on my blog to discuss my approach to self acceptance, self love and losing weight without dieting.
I’ve been on this journey for awhile and am glad I’ve discovered some sites that focus on similiar things.
I discovered this blog through fatosphere as it was featured on the msn web page and in the NY times.
Take care everyone and best of luck on whatever life journey you’re on!
I have been fat my whole life. I dont think that I can remember a time when I wasnt fat. I have never had a positive self body image until now. I am still fat and feel absolutely beautiful. I am well aware of the health risks involved with being fat but I love food and am active – not lazy like society seems to think that fat people are.
I am the mother of two toddlers and I love being with them. They keep me young.
Hello everyone!
I read about all this in Bust magazine and truthfully i was terrified to even visit the site. I have been so depressed about my body. I’ve always been overweight and was raised to think that it meant i was useless and didn’t deserve to be happy. What made me decide to change my way of thinking was something i saw a few days ago. I was on my computer when i stumbled on my husbands porn stash -gasp-. Porn doesn’t bother me (hey i love it too!) but this shocked me. I was so disgusted. It was what i thought was an ugly girl. She was fat! And so am I! I thought -oh my god, my husband is only with me because he has some sort of fetish!- I was devastated. But the more i watched, the more i began to realize -wow this girl is so comfortable in her skin. Shes so confident and… beautiful.- i began to wonder why *I* didn’t feel that way. In fact i looked JUST like her in a lot of ways. The big bright eyes, the big tits, the alternative look complete with tattoos. I was realizing that my husband was looking at this girl because he was fantasizing about me! How flattering is that?! My initial disgust has, in the last few days, turned into a real effort to truly love myself and completely turn my thinking on its head. Reading about all of your stories and your confidence has really helped me get in touch with a person that I buried for a very long time but is very eager to get out and make up for a lot of lost time.
Hi.
I’ve been lurking around the “fatosphere” since reading the New York Times article. I became interested because, even though I’m not fat and am the only “not fat” woman in my family, I’ve bought into a lot of these weight scares and concerns as well – being afraid of gaining any weight because (a) I wouldn’t be as thin and therefore not have that to take pride in and (b) I have a high waist-to-hip, which is supposedly correlated with heart disease and diabetes as one gets older (besides being unsexy in a woman). When I read that “overweight” apple-shaped women had the highest risk for these things, I’ve often worried that I’m especially screwed and should get the willpower to fight any weight gain. But I’ve never had the discipline to deprive myself of pretty much anything for more than a few days, and thinking that I should discipline myself, consistent with what I’ve recently read somewhere around these blogs, tends to make me want more of what I figure I’ll eventually be deprived of – especially junk food and procrastination behaviors. “Stock up now! Hard times are coming!”
My boyfriend is also not fat, but his mother, who is fat, sometimes comments that he’s gaining weight, and he keeps thinking that he should eat low fat most of the time. But he recently discovered that he’s not feeling full unless he eats certain foods like pizza or fish and chips. He needs more fat than he’s been letting himself eat! Armed with much reading on “Junkfood Science,” I advised him to work a bit more fat into his regular diet, with things like salmon and olive oil and nuts if he wants to give a nod to “health.” (I try to eat a decent amount of “good” fat myself, though I’m not sure how good that is, ’cause my LDL was actually low when I got it tested a few years ago.)
Through these blogs, I’m hoping to learn how to worry less about myself, my life, and my well-being
I got here via Shapely Prose, following the fatosphere links. :) I don’t have a fat blog, but fat blogs are my latest online obsession (aside from Etsy.) Thanks so much for writing and fighting the good fight (you were excellent on the M&J show.)
Oh, and I don’t like pudding. But I do really like mousse.
I didn’t actually realize this intro thread was here. Woops! I’ve just been posting all willy nilly.
Anyway, hi. I’m Sarah. I found the FA movement a few months ago and I have never felt so empowered. Or so angry. LOL. There’s a lot of fat hate out there, and before I just found it kind of annoying, but now, I know it is something to be fought. And I am ready to fight. I’m learning more every day just by belonging to places like BFB (the first blog I joined), The F-Word, Shapely Prose, The Rotund, and here.
A little bit about me: I’m a writer, an artist, and a bellydancer. I live with my boyfriend and our two kids who, incidentally, both have four feet, fur, and whiskers.
I have been able to use all my talents, writing, drawing, and dancing, to combat my own self-consciousness and body hatred. I have a long way to go yet, but I’ll get there, and I will be stronger for the struggle.
I am a blog addict( among other things). I read so many blogs every day and through various link clicking I ended up here. I am really pleased with the writing and the FA centered atmosphere. I have been lurking for awhile, I am also enjoying fatshionista, the rotund and various other delish reads
I do not like pudding very much- only when it is involved with bananas and nilla wafers and coolwhip.
I am sure this is oversharing but my favorite humming noise is probably the one I make during sex- we live in a thinly walled apartment and I try not to shout too loud ;)
THANK GOD. I bookmarked you so fast I almost got a hand cramp. I stumbled on you here looking for plus size retro clothing. I got me a craving for vintage and a body for mumu’s (apparently). I found the original that linked here. I think it’s important for fat girls and boys to have such a wonderful influence that tells us we are not only “ok” but we are gorgeous and amazing damnit!
Thanks:)
OH, I forgot. Triple Chocolate from the Swiss Miss. That bitch knows pudding.
Hi! I’m Sandy from Big Beautiful U! I found your site through the search engines! Great site you have here!
Hi I’m Sassy and I found you … I don’t remember how anymore but I”m glad I did. Great site!
Hi! I got here because of my RA and a terrible project for nutrition. The project was that we had to record and analyze everything we ate for three days including nutrients eaten what deficiencies we had and what toxicities we were at risk for. Luckily, there is mypyramidtracker.gov to help out with this onerous task all you have to do is enter what you ate and then figure out what the government thinks is similar to it. Well, my RA saw me working on this and in order to show me some adipositivity introduced me to Manolos for the Big Girl which landed me here somehow.
So me, ex-jock ex-rugby player opera-singing fat girl. I’ve always been big, danced ballet and loved it until I was old enough to look around and realize that I would never be prima ballerina. Coming to the FA movement after a realization that I really hate how people look at me and sometimes treat me. I have come to terms with my Russian peasant body, but the rest of society needs to stop bugging me about it. Right now my main beef with my body revolves around my knees, I wish they didn’t predict the weather but this is what ten years of full contact sports does to a person.
As for favorite dessert… Bubbe’s honey cake
Lol. I’m the anonymous 14-year-old!! Hi miss mo pie and miss weetabix!
Just as a note I would like to say that when I read “Our fourteen-year-old” I was like OMG!! They’re making me a big part of the blog!!! (Then I proceeded to have little daydreams about a whole ‘14-year-old speaks’ section’)
Gyahaha! Silly me! XD (Bwahahah I guess I’m getting a little too cocky, huh?)
Heylo!
I’m Amber and I’ve been a lurker of the site for a while, having been too afraid to say anything since I’m shy like that. I’m 21 years old and have been overweight for a good chunk of my life and teased to the point where I had to drop out of high school and I’m currently working on getting my diploma. My favorite humming noise? Would Patrick Stumph’s (lead singer of the band Fall Out Boy) gorgeous/amazing voice count? Anyway! I’m overly overjoyed to read this site everyday and to know there are people that aren’t total a-holes out there. =)
Keep rockin’ people!
Hi Everybody!
I’m Holli and I have been lurking on this site for 2 months now. I started at Shapely Prose and just clicked on every link I could find.
I read a post that said they have never felt so empowered and never felt more angry since they found the FA movement. That about sums up my feelings exactly.
Since finding FA I have become obsessed with bodies. I spend hours on myspace just looking at women, of all shapes and sizes trying to figure out where and when the indoctrination started. How young was I when I first began to see my differences as faults? I look at these women’s arms, eyes, feet, hips, ass, tits, elbows, thighs and knees. I try to remember when I first started associating “good-sexy-beautiful-successful” with thin parts and “bad-shameful-embarassing-lazy” with fatter parts.
And do you know what is happening after all of this? The parts began are beginning to blend together. For a while it even became hard for me to tell if a particular part was fat or thin, or if the person attached the hips, thighs, ankles or ears was fat or thin. I just saw beautiful.
All of us, women existing, moving, talking, influencing, thinking, feeling, fighting, dreaming is so Goddamn beautiful.
And, now I’m crying, because I never really put this into words. I have to work at it every day. It takes effort to undo the years of indoctrination. I get angry, so angry and I want to take it out on other women. But then I remember that they too are fighting the same issues I am. Some of them don’t even know the depth of the hatred for themselves that has been ground into them from before they could even speak it. And I just want to tell them how beautiful they are.
All of you here, I saw your pictures, I see your words, you are all so freaking beautiful it is unbelievable. We just have to keep up the good fight.
its about damn time we started sticking up for big people because they are human and need to be loved just like anyone else!!! i support all appreciation towards bbw and all people, no matter how much they weigh, because its about time people start accepting themselves and realizing that they are beautiful, too!
(p.s. by the way morbidly skinny anorexic supermodels are just the “politically correct” way to try to be what’s “socially acceptable in this society” and that is just pure bullshit!
“size acceptance”
“body liberation”
“bbw appreaction”
Hey…Miss mo pie and miss weetabix I’m learning how to draw so if you want to suggest some fatosphere related something or other I’ll be happy to draw it (and I can get my friends cousin to color it!)
K bye!
Ohhh, SOOO love luv LOOOOVE this blog!
Stumbled upon it through a friend of mine.
(I’m a BFDiva who adores the fantastic fluffiness that is MOI. And VOUS!!!)
Beautiful is beautiful.
Period. And no ‘packaging’, ‘marketing’, narrow minded/unenlightened people or ‘magazine/fashion industry’ crrrrap-ola can budge me from that lovely, juicy, self-sculpted, FA-celebrating pedestal.
I revel in my Reubenesque-ness…find beauty in my Bottero-like body…have relentless daydreams of posing for L. Carter Holman or my boyfriend surprising me with a session for a custom Les Toil portrait!!!!
(Google them!! ALL these artists tastefully celebrate the FA realm of beauty!!!)
You are my heroes, my living, breathing affirmations of beauty and empowerment, MY TRIBE!!!
(Favorite dessert? Just because it’s Thursday – it’s a handful of watermelon-flavored jellybeans…..but Chocolate, My Dears,—[que angelic soundtrack here]—-Chocolate is what makes planet Earth attractive to the rest of the Universe….lol)
KEEP ON DANCING YOUR DANCE!!
Hi there. I found your blog through the Girl Wide Web at Bust Magazine. Smart, funny writing. I’m enjoying reading your work, and I’ve linked to you from my blog where I write about the invasive rhetoric of LA’s ubiquitous cosmetic surgery advertising.
http://www.adfeminem.org
Cheers!
This is really weird. I didn’t think I had a mental weight problem, but I do. Ever since I went from a size 6 to a size 8 a few years ago, I’ve felt like I’m fat. Now that I’m a size 12, I have real trouble feeling attractive. Or, I feel attractive until I glimpse a mirror. I obsess over exercising but never stick to it. I want to buy clothes that fit but I don’t do it because I keep promising myself I won’t be this weight for long, that I’m losing it soon…
I happened on your blog very accidentally but then read pages and pages of it. It helped a lot. Even though I don’t get stigmatized much (I would if I still lived in New York, believe me) I identified with everything you talked about. And your positivity made me feel wonderful. The idea of blaming poorly fitting clothes on the clothes and buying only what makes me feel spectacular is a gem I’ll keep and use. That’s just one thing I took away from my afternoon of reading.
What I think people don’t realize about the fat acceptance movement is that, just like feminism is supposed to be about everyone’s freedom, fat acceptance is really about everyone’s acceptance. That the stick-thin, mousy girl who wishes she had boobs (my former incarnation) has as much right to feel righteous in her body as the full-figured momma. I love that. I didn’t know that until today.
One last thing: I once worked for a men’s magazine, casting models. (I can’t imagine where I got my weight issues from). By far the most meltingly gorgeous woman I ever cast was a plus-sized model. She was heaven on earth. No one could hold a candle to her. Just thought I’d share.
I’m not a diva but I am fat. It’s not the fat that bothers me as much as what comes with it. Cellulite, stretch marks etc.. I can’t imagine ever being comfortable enough to let a man look at my stomach, breasts or thighs let alone touch them. I’ll keep reading here though in hopes that I will be inspired and perhaps have some epiphany like so many of you seem to have had.
Juju…. I spend as much time naked as humanly possible. I know that sounds weird, and I am NOT a nudist. I’ve always been comfortable enough to walk around naked… Back in the day, it took me a *really* a long time to trust a man enough to see me naked. But then I had one of those romance novel affairs that fizzles out so soon… A man who made me really love the ampleness of my body. Ironically, he dumped me because of my weight. But still, he gave me a great gift, and my *next* boyfriend (who later became my husband) was able to reap the benefits. As was I!
I’m a bloggin’ SAHM to two great little boys. I’ve seen my body go through alot of changes over the past few years. I actually just had a post the other day about my weight gain/loss story if anyone wants to check it out:
http://wanibug.blogspot.com/2008/03/lady-in-weighting.html
I have heard about Big Fat Deal, and think that this a pretty cool blog. I’m 24 years old and I weigh close to 300 pounds. I felt ashamed of my size, but since finding out this blog, I don’t feel so ashamed anymore. How can I join this blog?
while setting up my blogspot, i’ve been cruising around the internet, looking for blogs i’d like to keep up on… and happened upon this, among many other, glorious blog. big girl blogs make my life happier.
my bad. this is my correct blog address.
Hi – my name is Avery I am 14 years old and struggle deeply with body image issues. This year especially. I have some issues involving anorexia, bulemia and binge eating disorder and your blog inspires me to self acceptance. Thank you!
As a woman thoroughly curvy(34C-24-38) but on the thin side, I honestly don’t know where to belong. I’m certainly not overweight in the least, but I’m not a bag of bones. Too often “voluptuous” and “curvy” come to describe people who have weight related diabetes and weight-related medical problems. Voluptuous is plushy while remaining healthy. Women need to realize it is a shape, not a weight or dress size. Stop perpetuating self-hate based on terminology.
Hi! I found this site through Shapely Prose. I’ve been lurking for about a month.
I’m about 30lbs over what the BMI says should be my ‘normal’ weight. I’ve been bigger, and I’ve been smaller.
I struggle every day with my body image, and disordered eating. I love this site and others like it, because I am trying to learn how to accept myself exactly as I am. If I spent every single hour of every single day exercising and denying myself nice food, I would never, ever match the ‘ideal’ because that’s not who I am. I have a big bum, thighs and breasts – not a straight line anywhere. And that is actually fine with me – it’s the mad thinking about weight loss / getting smaller that makes me unhappy.
One of my closest friends is tall and skinny, and she is also unhappy with her body. There are so many of us women unhappy with their shape – but aren’t we all beautiful in our own way?
Anyhow, back to cheerful stuff. I love pudding, especially spotted dick. (No, this is a traditional British pudding, not a typo or vulgarity.)
My favourite humming noises are my niece humming when she’s concentrating, my boyfriend singing under his breath when he doesn’t realise I’m there, and the sound of my cats purring.
I just came across your blog and I LOVE it! My friend and I just started our own blog to keep each other encouraged in our struggles with weight loss! I’ll be checking back often!
I also just came across your blog today. I really enjoy the positive messages you all are putting forth! I especially like the 10 ways to be a body positivity advocate and the new ideas presented there. I’ll be checking back often. Thanks!
Love your blog girl! Found it through blogher.com. My hope is that we as women can start defining our own notions of beauty rather than look to something else or someone else to define it for us. I think you would love my blog, it’s called EAT A CHEESEBURGER! tiffabee.wordpress.com (oh and my favorite pudding is butterscotch…yum!)
I’m not sure how I got here but hi. I think I might have found you through a click somewhere in the internet about Emily Brill. Anyway, it’s a great site, even if it does make me want to eat a candy bar. I’ll be back and hope you’ll come see me at http://www.aftercancernowwhat.wordpress.com
The sickest thing about cancer now is that people generally gain weight during treatment now. What the *&^%$*&*&%^%#$
Hi! I found this page a long time ago and lost it, I’ve been looking for it ever since! I guess I wanted to be apart of this group so that maybe I will gain some of the confidence in myself as the other participants seem to have in themselves. I am 27, 5′4″ and almost 200 lbs.
I think my issues about my weight started when I was very young. I am one of 6 cousins in the family, but my sister and I have always been the “big” ones. Our weight was always an issue for my grandmother and aunts. We were the least liked and it was obvious. I mean we got pencils one year for Christmas while our other cousins got nice gifts. Another year my aunt made my sister and I each a jumper suit that was so big my mother and I could both fit in it together. I also got picked on a great deal at school, and I think this is the biggest difference between my sister and I. People of course made comments about her weight also, but she had some very good friends that didn’t put up with others who did that. Plus she was involved in color guard and band which involved most of the “popular” people. I on the other hand, did not get as lucky with the friend thing. In fact I ended up hanging out with her friends, which was aggravating at times because she is my baby sister, or just being by myself. I got rocks thrown at me after school when I was trying to ride my bike home during elementary school. I had kids ask me to do things, which I would do because I wanted to be their friend that bad, and then they would make fun of me for doing them. In junior high I had the first guy ever ask me to “go out with him” (aka be his girlfriend in preadolescentese) , I shyly replied that I wanted to, he then promptly turned to his friends and told them the “joke” finishing by saying “Who would want to go out with you? Fat bitch.” And after that I just quit trying.
After high school I lost 70lbs and kept it off for 4 years. Of course I did this by not eating and doing Kung Fu for 3 times a week, and jogging every day. I belonged to a group though, which was great because I started to have a few friends of my own. Everyone was so proud of me for losing weight. My grandmother bought me clothes and was actually nice to me. My kung fu instructor wanted me to help him promote his school because of my weight loss. I got my first boyfriend. However, things made a bit of a down hill turn at that point. My “boyfriend” was 20 years older than me and married. I guess somewhere in my subconsciousness I felt as though I finally looked good enough to have a boyfriend, just not good enough to have one that was actually going to be there for me. My friends caught onto what was occurring and quit talking to me, my sister got rather upset with me, and things just crumbled. Things got bad enough that I just wanted to leave, so I moved a few states away and started nursing school.
2 ½ years later I have a good group of friends and I’m almost done with nursing school, but I’ve also gained back every pound I lost. I again feel like an inadequate object of affection and unworthy of society in general. I am surprised that anyone would want to be my friend instead of using me and pretending to be my friend. I don’t like going clubbing or out with my friends because they always get hit on or have men be nice to them and I am an afterthought to most of those guys. They know they have to be nice to me if they want to get in good with my friends. It is a means to and end that I will never be the object of. Most of them have boyfriends, good boyfriends, but I HATE it when they ask me to go out with them and another couple. Then I get to sit there and be the “single” person and watch them having what I want. My baby sister got married to her high school sweetheart this summer, and my one good friend from high school is getting married to my other good friend from high school in a few weeks. I feel like I’m getting old and my chance will have passed me by, and I can’t find someone because I’m fat and odd. And I’m not fat like other big girls are. I have no breasts or ass. Clothes do not fit me and it is not because I can’t find ones that are big enough. All my weight is in my abdomen, on my back, or under my arms. This is a problem I had when I was thin also, but less fat helped me be able to buy clothes that made me look like I had a figure. Now I can’t find anything. I feel so aggravated. I can’t find hip looking clothes at department stores because I’m too big; yet I can’t find clothes at places like Lane Bryant because I’m too small. I’ve been to specialty bra and undergarment places to try and find underwear that will give me more hips and curves, but even the sales folks there have been stumped. I feel like I look like a linebacker with a huge beer belly, that happens to have a vagina. I do not feel like I look feminine at all. At least when I was thin I had the fact that I was thin going for me.
I struggle with this every single day and I think I will struggle with it for sometime to come. I know that all the flaws I see in my body are not seen by most other people, but I feel like they are glaring eye sores to everyone who looks at me. It is tiring to hate yourself. To get thin by punishing your self with starvation and intense exercise only to have your “ideal image” ripped away from you as soon as take a night off to go out to dinner with your friends. To have people sit there and tell you what you need to do like you haven’t tried everything under the sun already, and to hate yourself even more when you fail at that diet or exercise routine you were doing. I appreciate this website because the people on here give me hope that I will one day learn to look at myself and know that I am alright they way I am. In fact I want to, as a nurse, help others to feel that way also. It is especially hard in the medical field when all the doctors and other medical personnel are telling all the overweight patients that all of their medical problems are caused by their diet and lack of exercise. I have no doubt that a bad diet and lack of exercise is detrimental to one’s health. However, I would also like to bet that some one could eat well and exercise and still be overweight or obese. I would SO like for their to be a study done on that! Today practice in the medical field relies on what they call evidence-based practice. Which means that there have to be at least one, and more likely several, research studies done on a procedure/practice/medical truth with consistent results, for it to be taught and done by hospital/medical staff. So if anyone knows where I can find any studies that have been posted in medical or nursing journals that prove that people can be healthy and fat, let me know!
Hey. I’m an 18 year old girl who has EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified). My eating problems started when I was 13 and concluded that I was horrifically fat at 120 lbs and 5′. In reality I was technically at the high end of normal, although honestly somewhat chubby as I’m quite small-framed and was 13. So I went on a diet. Although I firmly believed I was being “healthier”, it was never a real diet. More like being horrified if I went over 500 calories. Through heavy restriction, plateaus, and the inevitable binging I ended up going down to 85 lbs at 5′1 almost exactly a year from the beginning of my “diet”.
Nowadays, I typically fluctuate in the 90s at 5′2.5. I go between restricting and binging, sometimes on a day to day basis. And I do truly binge – it varies, but I can consume a couple thousand calories in one sitting. I purge occasionally, but my gag reflex is horrible and dies quite easily. I tell myself I should be glad for that, but honestly… Eh. Due to my small frame, people still typically believe that I’m “naturally skinny”, even when my weight dips into the high 80s.
Although I used to ardently not want to recover at the moment (and refused to think about the future in that regards), I’ve been rethinking it in the last several days. A friend of mine passed away on April 17th after battling PPH (a rare lung disorder) for years. Her death was still rather unexpected, but she got pneumonia and her body just gave out. This has made me really consider my own life – the ED, the smoking cigarettes, the times where I spend weeks high on cough medicine because I just don’t want to deal with anything, etc. I’m slowly killing myself, while I know that my friend would have given anything for my naturally good health.
I hope that everybody is okay with me here. I logically know that I’m not overweight. But I do believe that people can be beautiful, no matter what their weight is. I wish that I could see myself that way. My mother and sister are also both technically obese (around 200 lbs at 5′2 and 5′5). I personally believe that they both struggle with compulsive over-eating, but have never spoken to them about it. They don’t technically know about my ED, so I’ve been too scared to broach the topic.
I almost forgot the questions… I found BFD through a rather random google search looking up something. Since then, a few months ago, I’ve been lurking regularly but never had the strength to post or introduce myself. As for hopes and dreams, right now I’m just hoping to graduate and get myself off to college next year. I want to eventually become an equine therapist (using horses to help people with disabilities). I particularly want to work with more psychological problems. I quite like sugar-free pudding snacks, especially the chocolate/vanilla flavor. Humming noise? I can’t quite figure that one out!
Woah, I’ve written quite a lot here. Please excuse that and feel free to not read it (if anybody actually is!). I hope that my presence here is alright. See you all around.
Winter,
I, for one, am glad you found the strength to introduce yourself here. I hope you can one day see yourself as a beautiful person, and since you have been diagnosed with an eating disorder that means you are on the right track since you are seeking professional help. You do have an illness just like your friend who had primary pulmonary hypertension (I believe that is was PPH is), while yours is self inflicted it does not mean that your struggle with it will be any easier. It just means that your long term outcome will be better if you can learn to deal with it, an option your friend did not have. I hope you choose to continue getting help and working to stay healthy.
Hi. my name is Nichole. I’m 16 and I’m from California, but a Georgia girl at heart. I found your website through a Yahoo link, and I’m falling in love with it.
I’m the biggest girl in my group of friends, despite my lack of height. I guess I’d love to say it gets hard and it’s tough and I’m so sick of looking like this and oh I wish I could just be skinny and I can never have a real realtionship because I’m not pretty enough, but I can’t. Sure, sometimes it feels like that, but the truth is, fat or not, we are all beautiful.
I mean, I want, more than anything, to be healthy. I want to be able to run a mile without passing out or throwing up, and I want to be able to stretch down to the floor during yoga (because I’m flexible enough, but not small enough). I’m so glad to have found a site full of people who want the same, to be healthy, not skinny, or thin, or tiny, or look like a Barbie doll.
Society gives us so many unrealistic ideas about the way we should look, and I’d just like to say, thank you for providing a place to break those barriers.
-Nichole
Found you through elasticwaist.com. I don’t even remember how I found that website. Off and on reading you… for a few weeks months whatever my heart desires.
Hello! I learned about FBD during research for my Intro to Women’s Studies project and I absolutely love your page! I was once 209 pounds but now, a recovered bulemic and half that size. Everyday is a new battle and a new struggle to be comfortable. I’m creating a wiki with my entire class and I was researching websites that regard the media’s influence on body image (rest assure I know a s***load about that). I never want ANYONE to end up the way I did and I wish there were better ways of preventing women from questioning their self image and critizing themselves. I honestly have to say this site put a huge smile on my face. I’m going to come here everytime I’m feeling like complete a$$! It’s great to see that there are so many women who try so hard to fight this awful opinion of themselves and that I really am not alone. This page is great! You guys are awesome!
hi. i found your blog though “lose the buddha” by erin j. shea – which i found in turn after reading the anthology “tales from the scale.” it was a heartbreaking (for me) look at fat women and their issues – because i felt like i was reading my story over and over and over.
i’m 30 going on 31, 5 feet flat, and a 180 lbs. I am appalled at how big I’ve become, tired of living like a yoyo, but i don’t quite know what to do with myself. i would rather poke my eyes out with a branding iron than shop for clothes. i hate looking in the mirror. i feel ugly and unloved.
i’m looking to change that, and it is inspiring to see people who are happy about themselves no matter what size they are. i am hoping that this same elan will rub off on me eventually.
though right now, i’m going to try to yoyo back to a healthier weight for me, i want to do it for the right reasons this time – so that i can stay there. :)
is there a forum somewhere where the community converges? thanks for this blog!
susie
My Life as a Yoyo
http://evilizasevildoz.livejournal.com/242471.html
This is my response to the Sweet Valley High rerelease. I am not sure anyone will read it, but I made it public for anyone who wanted to have a discussion.
My name is Liz, I have been fighting weight problems since I was very very young. Partially in part to my having an eating disorder in my teens, and partially to a family obsessed with weight. I am still trying to be healthy these days but sort of no longer care about how I look. It’s how i feel. I have been reading the blog for some time now, but wasn’t sure how to introduce myself. This place is amazing, even just for the interesting viewpoints of so many very different people from different lifestyles. Congratulations on promoting healthy thinking. So few people bother to try these days. Cheers!
Hi I found you because of a review that you had done about one of my favorite authors, Celia Kyle. Being a Fluffy female, from a long line of well padded women, my sisters and i prefer to read about women who are other than a size 2. It’s led me to a lot of e- book authors. You should also try reviewing Camille Anthony’s Werewolf Journals, some very interesting plus size loving there. Also Tuesday Morrigan and Marrilyn Lee who write about full figured women. I’ll be dropping in often because it’s good to find a site that recognises that not everyone was meant to be thin. Have a great day!!
What brought you to Big Fat Deal?
>>several other blogs in the lovely blogosphere!
How long have you been reading?
>>several months, i think….
What are your hopes and dreams?
>>truth, justice and a pair of jeans that actually fit my ass without that horrid extra fabric under the curve of my cheeks!
What kind of pudding do you enjoy?
>>puddin? usually chocolate, like me!
What’s your favorite humming noise?
>>now, THAT’S a loaded question, LOL!
Hi Big Fat Deal
How are you,
What brought you to Big Fat Deal?
Supporting positive body image
I would like to point your attention to the
Mozaïk~Curves project.
The subject of roundness and of slenderness could not be more actual.
Nowadays, several women have difficulty appreciating their own body image.
However, The Human Mozaïk chose to sing the praises of curves and of round
bodies by inviting women from across Canada aged from 18 to 50 years old to
lend their forms to semi-nude photography and to unique artistic creations
inspired by their curves. Each model?s curves and roundures were interpreted
by different artists according to their respective styles, techniques and
medium.
The Mozaïk~Curves project is also a collection of testimonies, poems and
affirmations. The texts are written by the models, courageous women who
become natural, artistic, proud, beautiful and intelligent. This is an
original, colourful and inspiring project shedding a positive look on
women?s curves and roundness!
http://www.artmozaik.com/Curves.html
We are looking for new submission. Here we share positive body images of our curves and our bodies of “real women”.
Please tell us what you think,
Regards
Human Mozaïk
http://www.artmozaik.com/
mozaik@artmozaik.com
Hi Mo & other BFD lovelies,
I discovered this amazing blog just a little while ago and am well and truly hooked! Thank you!
I saw an article that I thought you might be interested in:
http://lifeandhealth.guardian.co.uk/experts/hadleyfreeman/story/0,,2282529,00.html
I guess I thought it was refreshing that a mainstream fashion writer had quite a body positive message!
Keep up the *fabulous* work!
You have an amazing blog. I stumbled here from the Elastic Waist site, which I stumbled upon from Shine, and I don’t know how I stumbled there. I’m a fat person trapped in an anorexic body and mind and I’m struggling to find a body image. I think that looks sort of weird, but I know what I mean…
Reading all of you is starting to get through to me in a way that writing it out for my own self has not. I’m nearing 40 and am desperately seeking acceptance and health, and not necessarily in that order. I’m getting the health part. I’d love to find acceptance. I’m glad you’re all out there. So many times I read your entries and think “BTDT”.
Thanks for doing what you do.
I just found this blog recently. I’ve just started writing about my own journey from fat to thin at http://www.whenimthin.com. I have a lot of issues to sort out, and I sort them out mostly on the blog. I’ve been overweight since I was a teenager, but this is the first concentrated effort I’ve made to really get thin and fit.
Mostly I’m looking to join a community. I want to read people who will make me laugh and people who will make me think.
Hi all, I just stumbled on this blog and I’m so glad I did. I’m a definitely a bigger girl over here, and I want to be ok with it, but my overall food issues keep me from feeling good about myself. But damn it, I’m trying!
I’ve just started a blog so I can start to look at and and try to work my way through all of it and I would love all y’alls support. It’s http://confessionsofadoritoaddict.blogspot.com/
And I’m more of a salty girl when it comes to desserts, but nothing beats a light and fluffy chocolate mousse… yum!
Hi,
My husband was talking with Ian last night, and heard about your blog. So cool! Perhaps your readers would be interested in this new music video called “Love Cream Pie.” It’s a grrl-power romp for grrls of all ages and sizes.
We just finished it!
You can see it at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zdOEIufCXHE
New to your site. Thought I would say hi. My name is Kristin H. “The charts” describe me as fat. You know. The “weight/BMI charts” in the doctor’s office. My friends don’t consider me fat. At least not to my face. I have no idea what I am. I have never known a realistic weight of any kind because I have always tried to manipulate it in some manner.
When I stopped screwing around with pills, starvation, obsessive exercising, and crazy dieting, where I ended up was 50 pounds heavier than what the “charts” told me I should be. So whatever.
I really love to eat. And I really love Lane Bryant.
Hi all!! My name is Abby, but you can call me Abbasmurf (weird childhood nickname). I’m 5′8″ and about 245 pounds of fun!! The CDC’s BMI chart says I’m…*gasp*…SEVERELY OBESE. I don’t get it. I can still see my feet and fit in seats, yet my case is severe? I love by big butt and ample bust!! I also love to eat and if people have a problem with that, then they better run before I eat them too!! (that means you MeMe Roth!!)
I’m sick of dieting and exercising like crazy. Plus, I bought a new HDTV and a really expensive cable package, and I want to get my money’s worth, dammit. Exercising after work would cut into my TV viewing time. I also have a bunch of fabulous clothing that wouldn’t fit me if I went on a lost weight.
Anyway…nice to meet everyone!! I’m loving this blog so far.
Oops!! I meant to say “if I went on a diet” at the end.
I absolutely agree Abbasmurf. I’ve been up and down for years. I’m not gonna lie; I love when my stomach’s flat and I’m in size 10 jeans, but I have really enjoyed food since abdominal surgery for Crohn’s in 2006 (before which I was thin and miserably in pain), and I am happy. I try to take a walk now and then so I’m not wheezing too much when I climb stairs, but I HATE working out and I LOVE bread, so if that means I weigh 220 and wear size 16, that’s totally fine.
By the way Mo, I loved meeting you this weekend. Your boobs ROCKED in that dress!
And Weet too, I just realized this was a co-blog!
How did I end up here…
Well, it pretty much began when I decided back in May it was time to lose weight. I was around 311lbs. I began changing what I eat and exercising. But I found myself falling off my diet too, out of frustration. I’m 286lbs now. But I still do not feel happy.
I just need to get this out. Because I don’t think anyone else is going to understand.
My husband loves me as I am. Every inch of me. But his mom is a dieting guru, works for weight watchers, and has zero tolerance for others around her who are overweight. Even though she was fat all of her life. Anyway, After I became pregnant and had a baby, my weight went up more. But back then I really did not care. I was so happy. I was even in love with my own body for awhile, until his mom stepped in and somehow just started making me feel like a loser. I know, I know. No one can MAKE me feel like a loser but she’s worn me down.
Dieting makes me depressed. Even if I’m eating enough, it just makes me detached. My husband told me last week, “You don’t even smile and laugh anymore since you started this diet.”
I just want to love my body again. I want to be able to deflect the negative energy and the stares I get. I don’t feel so strong in my own skin. And I’m a 40 year old woman.
I have no desire to get skinny. I just want to be happy. Can I find a happy medium?
I am who I am, and… I just want to be a healthy big woman. A beautiful woman.
My blood pressure is great. All my blood work recently came back fine.
I just desire to find peace inside again, and not let anyone take it from me.
I’m really impressed with this blog. It has kind of ignited an old spark inside of me.
I miss myself… my happy self, alot.
Thank you for just ….being here out there in the universe.
Tabby
Hi! My name is Ali! I found this blog through the link on pastaqueen’s blog.
I have struggled with my body my entire life. At 14 I began suffering from anorexia and got down to that size zero we hear so much about. It almost ruined my life.
After that I began excessive emotional eating and my weight went all the way up to 225. I still remember the moment when I saw that number on the scale. It was horrific to me.
After a few years, I am down to a more normal size for my body type and have most importantly learned that my relationship with food and my body was what almost did me in.
I still struggle to this day with my body image and making sure that I don’t get too much exercise or eat too little, but it’s gotten so much better, and it’s nice to meet some like minded people.
I was looking around the net because i realized i’ve been recently classified as a Plus-Sized girl. I’ve always had self-image issues. Being Co Dependent made that harder && I gained most of my weight during an emotionally abusive relationship with a BPD. Alot to go through for a 17 year old girl on top of batting away pictures screaming that i’m not good enough. But after reading a few blogs like this one i’m slowly loving myself more && more each day. The best therapy for me was realizing how gorgeous alot of plus sized women are && pointing out all the truly wonderful things about myself. [best done while naked hahahaha but it really does work]
This blog however stood out from most, the other ones i saw were like “skinny sucks, i got pooch deal with it or i’ll smother you with it in your sleeeep” but this one is widely accepting && promotes self love in general not just biased love. Thank You.
Hi. I used Stumble Upon to find this site. Let me tell you, this and other sites along a similar vein have made me view myself and others in a different light. I think that changing my attitude about my weight will be a process, but reading about fat acceptance has started a fire in me. I want to be an activist for fat acceptance. I have placed limitations on myself for so long because of what the scale says. No more!
Hi Im living Tanzania in East Africa, I like big fat American Women to share my dreams, my hobes I like swimming, marathon, reading and watching TV.
Hey! I wanted to let you know I’ve been reading for quite some time but never got around to ever leaving a comment. I’m a 20-year-old who is living in Alaska and currently studying sexual/gender pyschology. Body issues are a huge part of my interests as well! I’ve struggled with body issues my entire life and it’s only been within the past few months that I’ve become truly and overwhelmingly happy with myself. I’m finally glad to be who I am and glad to see body-positive messages on the internet. No matter what size, I’ll still be me- and that’s the most important thing. I love you guys and your wit/honesty. Keep it up.
I just wanted to say that I saw you in an interview on (I think) the Fox channel on fat acceptance – on you tube. I thought you were both great but the interview was very badly done. The two other ‘experts’ were rubbish.
I’m Nik. I forgot how I found BFD, I think through somebody’s blog roll. I just started my own blog about re-losing 45 of the 130 pounds I originally lost.
I came across your blog and immediately bookmarked it. I am a personal trainer. But I care more about how strong you are vs. how skinny you are. I have muscles AND bra fat. I can run a sub-6 minute mile and I have a butt that jiggles when I run. And I’m darn proud of all of that! If you are ever looking for fitness tips from a straight-shooter, stop by my blog anytime. You are hilarious! Great work. Angel
Hi, I just wanted to tell you this site has been inspiring. I ahve been trying for years to lose weight. There is such an emphasis on weight loss and being thin that it is overwhelming me. I have been on and off dietas my whole life. I just lost 27 pounds with quick weight loss and gained 10 of it back. I want to just start loving my body but the word fat always playing over nad over. Hwat do you do to combat it?
Hi all,
I’ve never been thin. I’ve always been called fat- for years I thought I was too disgusting for anyone to touch me. I shrank from hugs and hid behind atrocious clothing because I thought I had to do so. Then my eyes were opened by some fabulous people, men mostly out there in the world. I still don’t think I’m beautiful and still don’t feel sexy but I can appreciate how others could think so…. this is a step. Now that I’ve found you all online- I hope I can get over that hump and begin to believe that I’m beautiful not just in the fact that people can find me beautiful.
Anyway, I have a blog: http://sassyclassyfat.blogspot.com/
Come visit :) PP
Mo Pie and Weetabix- may I link to your blog from mine :)?
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways – Chardonnay in one hand – chocolate in the other – body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ‘WOO HOO, What a Ride’
At Bigger Fatter Blog we include all views. We don’t censor!
hi!
I stumbled upon this site through StumbleUpon! and I have a feeling I’m going to become a regular. :P I love the concept of BFD. Love love love it.
My name’s Amanda, or Mander, and my favorite pudding is Kozy Shack Rice Pudding. :) Nice to meet yous.
Heya!
I can’t remember how I found your site…but it was a link from a link. I think I may have found the site awhile ago but I really started reading a few days ago and saved the URL to my favorites.
My greatest hope and dream is to live happily ever after…either by myself or with the man I am completely and utterly in love with.
Tapioca pudding rocks and has been my most favoritest pudding (right above Butterscotch) for years and years… since I was a little Zesty.
and my favorite humming noise is the theme to The Addams Family. I know…it’s not humming but it’s close enough :þ
I found yout site through Steph @ Back in Skinny Jeans. I will be attending the meet up this weekend in Chicago and look forward to meeting you and the rest of the crew.
What a wonderful site. Loving one’s self is so essential in living life to its fullest. Part of my mission in my own blog is to help pass on this message, and open our eyes to accepting and loving yourself first and foremost.
Take care and see you soon.
Sheila
http://www.livewell360.com
I found yout site through Steph @ Back in Skinny Jeans. I will be attending the meet up this weekend in Chicago and look forward to meeting you and the rest of the crew.
What a wonderful site. Loving one’s self is so essential in living life to its fullest. Part of my mission in my own blog is to help pass on this message, and open our eyes to accepting and loving yourself first and foremost.
Take care and see you soon.
Sheila
http://www.livewell360.com
I have four young children and I don’t have a blog of my own for times sake. I happened across this site tonight and I’ve really enjoyed it, so much so, that I’ve spent a lot of my sleeping time here! I look forward to coming back.
I am not over weight but I will say that no matter what size we are – we all have our problems. I don’t look in the mirror and like what I see. It is unfortuneate that most all women are like this. We are programmed not to like what we see. I’m not complaining that “boo hoo, I’m skinny and it sucks,” I’m just saying that losing weight and getting thin is not the cure for self esteem problems. We all have to learn to love ourselves for who we are and not what we look like, myself included. I’m not a physically fit person but I feel if I was I might be happier not to mention healthier. I think it’s healthy = happy not skinny = happy.
To answer your questions : My dream is to create a wonderful home environment for my kids and husband. It may sound a little old fashioned but isn’t that what feminism is all about – the freedom for us females to choose what we want. After college, this is what I wanted. Yea, for me!
My fave pudding is Kozy Shack Rice Pudding and I’m not sure about my fav humming sound. I am sure that I love this site, though. Thank you for an entertaining evening!
Hi Monique:
Just wanted to send you a note to say how great it was to meet you and the other wonderful bloggers at the Quaker event. I hope had a great time, learned lots, had great food and accomodations, and made it home dafe and sound! My only regret is that we didn’t get much of a change to get to know each other better this weekend.
You blog is wonderful and such a great resource to your readers. Keep up the great work!!
Oh yeah… my favorite pudding would be bread with rum sauce. In fact, if I were on death row (god forbid!) and I was given a choice of a final meal, it would probably be a big piece of pecan pie and an even bigger piece of bread pudding. YUM!
I really like this blog… I found like I find most blogs through another blog, spefically Pace and Kyeli’s blog http://paceandkyeli.com/
I’m a big girl, struggle with image and self, ego and superego, just like everyone else.
I like Indian rice pudding the best… although I’m always in search of the elusive, perfect bananna and Nilla wafer combo.
Humming… did you know Llamas and Alpacas hum? It pretty weird.
Greetings!
I’m a 40-something Big Bloke at 120kg. Had survived one heart attack, have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, bad back and diabetes. Very unfit since my youngest moved up out of primary school and doesn’t need a walking escort twice daily. Not that I was ever very active, in fact I’ve always been a lazy fat slob.
Found you while surfing around trying to find a decent office chair that I could use comfortably for extended periods without requiring me to sell a kidney. No such luck yet! Why does furniture double in price when you go from 99 to 100kg?
I’m generally OK in my self-image. I know I’m a fatty, and don’t much care what anyone thinks about it. I am trying to shed a bit of weight and build some fitness for health reasons, as I want to be survive long enough to turn into a twinkly, mischevious old man. Any weight loss is MY choice for MY reasons. NOT because Ryan Air has designed their airplaine seats for anorexic midgets.
Favourite pudding? Hmmm one of the great British suet-based ones, I think… spotted dick, maybe? With LOADS of custard, thank you very much.
I’m a little backwards. I commented on an article before I came here. I’ve been following this blog for a few months now and I’m finally ready to say hello!
I’ve always loved myself as a “fat chick,” but this year is the first time I’ve ever been exposed to the FA community…
And to say the least…I’m loving it!
Hi, um… can anybody out their help me? I’m 14 & my weight is like 160-170 lbs, and I’m short. So, I’m really chubby, & I don’t know what to do. I have a boyfriend named Nick, & he’s like the sweetest guy out their,but each time he tells me I’m beautiful I can’t believe him. I want to,but I just can’t. I can feel beautiful on my own, ya know when nobody’s around, but when I go out, I just want to hide myself. Please, I’m out of answers. Can anybody give me any advice?
I love this site. I’ve been reading it regularly for several months now.
I only found the fatosphere a year ago and I am so relieved to have found websites such as this one.
Keep up the good work!!
Oh My God!! SO happy I found this website! I have been dealing with my weight issues and body issues for so long and some days are better than other days but it’s so hard being surrounded by a society that makes you feel like you are actually more and more invisible the larger you are!! Seems like the upside down world.
I’ve just come across your site and wanted to say it’s wonderful. I love my body, and when I tell other women that, I get looks of disbelief and pity, as if they’re saying “doesn’t she realise she’s not a size 2?”
Of course I realise that – I’m not deluded. But I am healthy, I can run and jump and walk. I’m not thin, but I’m not overweight either. I am aware of the flaws of my body, just as I am aware of the flaws in my personality, but there are no morals in weight and eating – it is not “bad” to eat three cream cakes after dinner, yet I hear women saying they’re “naughty” for doing so and feel “guilty” afterwards, instead of focusing on the health aspect of what they are doing. I want women to be positive in everything they do and not to judge themselves for being human.
I love sticky toffee pudding, and my favourite humming noise is my cat yawning and purring at the same time.
PastaQueen referred me to you because I asked her for the best Fat Acceptance sites.
My focus for the past 2 1/2 years is helping young women with eating disorders, and I have started to realize that there is a very, fine line between “disordered eating” and an eating disorder.
Plus, the fat hate is untolerable. I’m thin, former model, live in one of the most overweight states in the country WI, and I just don’t get the hate. Fat hatred is another discrimination, and I think there needs to be more thin people speaking out about it.
Great blog, I will be a regular!
mamaV
I ended up here from Shapely Prose’ post on Oprah. I’m in dire need of some body-loving fat-accepting reading material, so you’re a godsend.
hoolaaaa….
falina just check in!!!
great to be here.
like everybody else, almost everyday ppl keep saying me to loose some weight, extra extra extra..thank u for ur concern.
few mths back a guy make fun at me at KFC!
heyy…i m a superplus diva..of course ppl will talk bout me..
anyway, that cashier gal treated me nicely.
i accept who i am, just sometimes quite dissapointed with ppl around me and sometimes to myself..hmmmm..
Great blog and i have been looking this kind of blog.
luv & kisses
-falina
New blogger here trying a new challenge, I’ve lost weight doing cardio and low cal and became a thin-fat and now I’m blogging about my experiences with weights and healthy eating with no cardio whatsoever. My blog is http://www.justsaynotocardiogirl.blogspot.com, come check me out!
Stumbled across this when looking for more smart ladies to hear from. Love the blog! Trying to get mine off the ground as well. It’s kind of a wise-ass approach to diet products & tips.
http://diet-drama.blogspot.com/
I’ll be reading yours daily – love the site & the design is sweet!
I thought I would introduce myself, as I realized I have already posted on your amazing blog!
My name is Marie Denee and I am a Curvy.Confident.Chic. woman. As I have strated my quest to search for sites that celebrate and support the curvier plus size divas, I came across your site. I must say that I fell in love! Great work Ladies.
After perusing the web, I felt inspired to start my own blog to bring high-end fashion to the discerning curvy (plus size) shopper. Who says that because we have curves we cannot wear designer clothes!
I have linked you to my blog. Whenever you get the chance, pop on over!
Marie Denee
The Curvy Fashionista
http://thecurvyfashionista-mariedenee.blogspot.com/
Hi there. I just came over from Elastic Waist. It’s a shame that such a great site had to end but I am really excited to explore another.
My websites are:
ballnchain.wordpress.com
That is my fun one that has I believe 7 years of archives
marriedwithoutchildren.today.com
Is my new adventure in blogging about my marriage and not having kids.
Hi there everyone– I’m a 34 year old SAHM of two small girls (almost 5 and 6 months) who’s been lurking here for the past several months. I think I found this site by doing a Google search on “size acceptance” but I wouldn’t swear to it.
Having daughters makes me very determined to be well armed in helping to deflect negative self image issues that could (and probably will) come up in the future. My dream is for them to be happy in their own skin, whatever size they end up being, and not to dwell on the issue so much.
What made me feel fully confident in my body was giving birth for the first time. It was like “Eff washboard abs–this body gives life! this body rocks!” My beautiful baby girls are a product of that body– I can’t hate it anymore than I hate them. Plus my husband (and a few others!) think I’m hella sexy. And I actually have hips now–which I love.
The thing is, I’m not even fat. I’m 5′ 7″ and weigh about 160. Yet my mother and sister are constantly “suggesting” I should lose weight and/or get a breast reduction—I’m a 36F. I’m obese by mainstream media standards, but by real people standards? I’m practically a skinny chick. And if my boobs were causing me pain, that would be one thing. But they don’t…and damn it I love em!
To answer the rest of the questions; humming noises make me go into seizure like twitching fits and my favorite flavor of pudding is pistachio.
I just stumbled across your blog via Fat Girl on a Date. I’m a graphic artist living in SoCal, and I used to live on a goat farm. I was thin and pretty and all that when I was in high school, but I hated my body. Hated it. Now I’m overweight (5′8″, 246 pounds and shrinking!) but much more confident in my body and the way I feel. What I’ve been reading? Right now some stories by Herman Melville. Favorite pudding? Tough call… I haven;t met one I didn’t like yet!
For the life of me, I cannot find a contact link for mo pie or a place that would be appropriate for me to post this, so I guess here will just have to do.
I strongly felt the need to bring this to your attention before January was over:
NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION:
‘Twas the month after Christmas, and all through the house
Nothing would fit me, not even a blouse.
The cookies I’d nibbled, the eggnog I’d taste
At the holiday parties had gone to my waist.
When I got on the scales there arose such a number!
When I walked to the store (less a walk than a lumber).
I’d remember the marvellous meals I’d prepared;
The gravies and sauces and beef nicely rared,
The wine and the rum balls, the bread and the cheese
And the way I’d never said, ‘No thank you, please.’
As I dressed myself in my husband’s old shirt
And prepared once again to do battle with dirt -
I said to myself, as I only can
‘You can’t spend a winter disguised as a man!’
So – away with the last of the sour cream dip, Get rid of the fruit cake, every cracker and chip
Every last bit of food that I like must be banished
‘Till all the additional ounces have vanished.
I won’t have a cookie – not even a lick.
I’ll want only to chew on a long celery stick.
I won’t have hot biscuits, or corn bread, or pie, I’ll munch on a carrot and quietly cry.
I’m hungry, I’m lonesome, and life is a bore
But isn’t that what January is for?
Unable to giggle, no longer a riot.
Happy New Year to all and to all a good diet!
Ladies, I just wanted to let you know that BFD has become part of my “reality check” system. For over a quarter of my lifetime I have been struggling with weight issues and ultimately an eating disorder. I’m still battling those issues, but I’m starting to take responsibility for making myself feel good about MY body. Your blog is a daily dose of reality about weight and body issues that helps remind me that I’m ok the way I am. The fact that you’re witty and creative is just a bonus. Thanks!
Hello! ^_^
I found “Big Fat Deal” because I must write an essay on Hate Groups for my Victimology class.
Since I am a straight white Christian female, it’s kind of hard to be hated for the “usual” reasons.
FAT HATERS, however…. *shudder*
Yes, I’m overweight – but I DO NOT deserve to be persecuted because of it! Nobody deserves to be persecuted for any reason.
I hope to be able to somehow work this blog into my paper as it is a well-written, wonderful source of information!
Personally: Yes, I’m attempting to lose weight, but I’m doing so for health reasons. I need to lose weight or my heart is going to fail. So, I’m struggling to keep my portions in check, eat healthier foods, and get off my duff once in a while. ^_~
Thank you for being such eloquent, knowledgeable speakers on the subject of being beautiful!
Hi :D
i just wanted to say that i love this website it really does keep me sane!
I sing opera and i have heard time and time again, nice voice but to heavy for the part.
I am 5′9 and about 150 pounds, and i am definantly considered way overweight in the opera world.
But honestly i love my body, and I wish people could see past the fact that im a curvy girl!
I love Big Fat Deal, its always so witty and edgy and so REAL! what a concept!
Kepp doing what your doing
:D
Hi! So, I just went to wordpress and saw on the mainpage a blog about forever 21 now carrying plus size clothing, and I ended up checking out some friends of that person’s and their friends and thus, ended up here.
I’ve just started reading and it’s pretty great so far!
I started my own blog a few months ago, and have been tracking my own weight loss goals and achievements, as well as my failures. It never hurts to network :)
I’m the manager of my 13 year old son’s rock band, we started playing together in fourth grade as a response to bullying. We rock! Unfortunately, the bullying hasn’t stopped in Middle School and a lot of it is about the kid’s in our band’s weight. Our son included. I need help, I know he’s beautiful and strong, but I’m diabetic and I don’t want to see him with this chronic disease. We exercise and eat sensibly and I try to encourage him to love his body and take good care of it. Still my own body image and faults are what has got us where we are, and I’m discouraged. Calgon take me away!
hi!
i found you through an email from BUST touting your goodness. (and the link through their Girl Wide Web).
i am a f/f s/f choc pudding girl.
my favourite humming sound is the dryer because it means i did something productive (plus i like the smell of bounce).
I am not sure who pointed me in your direction but I am glad I found you.
I found this site by googleing “i’ve never been kissed”. I read “im 21 and never been kissed” and you guys seem very supportive, so i hope you can help me. Here is my story. Im 20, fat, and ugly. I have always been overweight and have had to deal with that. However, i never thought i was ugly until now. I have big friends and even my sister is fat. They all have or have had romantic experiences, so i have come the conclusion that i am ugly. I have never been kissed, had a boyfriend, or even been on a date. Guys dont even take a second look at me. I find my self crying almost every night. Everyone that i know has a boyfriend or has had one, so i cant talk to anybody about this. Its so emberrasing, and i hate when my friends and family ask me if i have or have had a boyfriend. I feel so bad because i always lie to them. I tell them that i have had a boyfriend. I mean what else am i suppose to tell them. Im i suppose to spill out my guts and tell them that i have never even been kissed. I feel so alone and sad sometimes. My biggest fear is that im never going to find someone, and im just gonna be alone forever. its ok if no one responds to me i just wanted to get this out of my system.
Bretoria,
Everyone has a different pace and things happen differently for each person. So if you haven’t had a boyfriend or been kissed at 20, that just means it is taking a little longer for you than for other people, but that doesn’t mean you have anything to worry about. Be confident about yourself, hold your head up high, be a friendly and smiley person and the experiences will come.
Hello, I am Joan. I am a 32 year old nursing student with 2 kids. I am 5′6″ and weigh about 335 pounds. I have been obese my whole life, but only ’super morbidly obese’ for about 10 years. I have struggled with bulimia and compulsive overeating for many years. I have my own blog http://diaryofaredhead.blogspot.com which is as it states, my diary (and you guessed it, I have red hair!).
I found this sight kind of by accident. I was on a website for eating disorders and got into a posting argument, because someone said that they didn’t want to go to the therapist that was assigned to them because the therapist is obese – how could she possibly help. I wrote that I thought that it would piss me off if someone wouldn’t take me seriously because of my weight (given that I am going to be a nurse) and that I can do my job just as well as anybody else can. I also said that you can be obese and be healthy – well, the website moderators shut down the post at that point and said that heroine addicts and people who eat rocks might think they are healthy but they aren’t.
Someone on there agreed with me and emailed me the Feed Me! blog sight, and that got me to Harding’s website, and now here!
My therapist (who happens to be obese) is very happy about my newfound awareness that I don’t have to hate my body the way that it currently is. I have to remind myself of that everday, sometimes hourly (especially when I am sitting in an uncomfortable chair or getting in my car, or tying my shoelaces!)
I love chocolate pudding, and I love hearing children laugh
http://www.thelovemagazine.co.uk/
Beth Ditto is such a rock star!! If anybody can get their hands on this brand spankin’ new magazine, it is a must have.
I love the way your blog explores “fatism”. It is nice for people to be open about this.
cheers
I came upon this website “Big Fat Deal” while searching on google for bathing suits for skinny girls..But I like it. Its sorta like a place for girls and women of all sizes and shaps and colors to become one. Its a change from all the other websites people create these days. Love the Layout.=) I’ll continue to check up on this website..=D
Hi BFDers!
I think I might have followed a link from Bust, but I really don’t know, and it was only a few weeks ago.
Glad I found you! You remind me of several smart & awesome friends who are fat activists/performers/educators, so I feel at home.
I now have a craving for Banana Pudding, though I haven’t eaten it in years.
Hopes & dreams? To sustain the happy, creative life I’m living – and pay down the debt accumulated starting up my business.
Now I’m going to read some more. Mmmmmmmm…..
xo
Hi, I stumbled on to this blog via thefrisky.com. I like the positivity here. I’m a single mom, just getting back into my life after a divorce.
Hi, I found this site by accident, or is there such a thing as an accident? I am a college student, I paint, sculpt, show horses, teach people how to ride and compete with horses, and I hate my body. My hopes and dreams are to accept my body for what it is.
Hi there,
I found this website through the blog Shapely Prose.
I appreciate how your blog deals with body image issues specifically in the media. I think that pop culture is really the lens through which we judge so much of our society and ourselves, so to really break it down and analyze it gives us more power than we ever thought we had.
I also really appreciate how you focus on how both men and women are affected by weight issues.
Many of the posts here challenge my assumptions about body image, discrimination, and “fatism.” Thanks for that.
Hi all, wonderful site. Thank you very much. Clever, intellegent writing, good times.
Hello ladies (or women, BBWs, fat chicks, whatever),
Long time lurker who found your site through Shapely Prose.
Love your posts!
Connie
Love the blog all….I’m Amanda and I’m a big girl who LOVES who she is. In my “crowd” I’m known as the funny one. I am often crass so I have to hang around people who do not take offense easily.
I hope to one day be a be a writer…be it a successful blog, novel…whatever.
Thanks for wanting to represent the big girls of the world!!
Love this site! I was a pretty happy fat chick, with a great husband and family. I’ve lost a bunch of weight recently, and it’s been stunning and appalling to see the dramatic difference in how I’m treated.
Here’s a post on it:
http://write-sizing.blogspot.com/2008/09/differences-between-fat-and-chubby.html
BTW, I have you miscategorized as a “diet blog” on my site. I am going to change that.
I’m really enjoying this site and can’t thank you enough for the work you put into it. I came to FA in a backdoor sort of way… I’ve been heavy all my life, but lucky enough to be fairly shielded from pop culture, so I never had a big problem with it. I did what I wanted and if someone thought I couldn’t or shouldn’t because I was too fat, I looked at them like they had 6 heads. (Seriously, if I was “too fat” to ride a bike century (100 miles) don’t you think I would have noticed back around mile 70 or so? Do you really think this is a conversation to have at mile 80?? If you don’t like looking at my lycra covered ass, then pass me… go ahead, I dare ya!) So, I went along and everything was great. I have friends, a great husband, a great job. It all worked really well for a long time.
Then, like Kathleen in the previous comment (unless someone else sneaks in between), I lost weight. In my case it was due to illness and meds, so will likely be temporary. (As opposed to diet and exercise which I’m suuuuuure would last fo’evah! ;) And the sudden change in the behavior of those around me has completely blown my mind! I would never have believed that I was suffering any sort of ‘discrimination’ due to being heavy. And if you’d tried to tell me I was I would have told you you were nuts (even now I’m loathe to use the word, because my experience hardly rates on the ‘discrimination scale’). But why now does there seem to be an epidemic of smiling going on? Store clerks smile at me. People on the street smile at me (I don’t live in the south, so it’s not ‘normal’ behavior). Hell, the officer that gave me a ticket the other day smiled at me! (didn’t get me out of the ticket, clearly I’m not that skinny yet ;). I tell you, it’s freakin’ me out.
This whole thing has really opened my eyes and the discussions here are a big part of my new education.
Now I’m off to go smile at some fat people. Maybe even offer them some pudding.
I have been reading Big Fat Deal for a long time. I cannot remember exactly how I found you, but through BFD I was introduced to the whole Fat Acceptance movement for the first time.
My friend Sylvia and I recently started our own blog.
zaftigchicks.wordpress.com
My favorite pudding is Jello Dark Chocolate Mint. YUM!
My friend Bianca introduced me to the ‘Fat Awareness’ movement, as I have been fat my whole life, but always embarrassed about it and in denial.
Thanks to all who contribute to this site and make it more than “OK” to be fat!
Visit us at http://zaftigchicks.wordpress.com/, cuz we’re fat & funny!
Love this site! The whole weight loss/diet/obesity epidemic is out of control. I do have to say that it did get me thinking, and as a result I have returned to college to finish my education as an anthropologist, and it also gave me my discipline focus, Food Culture. So much of our time and energy revolves around food. I find it facinating. And again, love this site, and love the peeps who make it happen!
You guys are wonderful!!!!! I love your blog and your page. I myself am a BBW and love my life and I think it is wonderful that you are the very same way and promote that people should love themselves!!!
Anywho, I am a photographer. I love having models of all shapes and sizes, and showing people that everyone is beautiful no matter their shape and size and whatever else they might think makes them not so.
Keep right on doing what you are doing!!! Keep on smiling.
Denise
Hi girls! I’ve been reading your blog for a while now (about 2 months) and I really like it!
I’m on my way to losing weight and couldn’t appreciate your website more.
I’m glad that someone else feels that overweight women can be sexy too!
Sarah
Hello,
I’m new to the blogging thing and am looking for inspiration from others. I’m one of those guys who appreciates big women and I hope to be a staunch defender in the blogosphere. Glad to find your site!
Peace,
Shannon
I’m a skinny, aging male nerd (40s). I have been a skinny nerd for most of my life. During childhood, I was drugged, and I was eating a fourth meal of junk food at a group therapy session. I became fatter until my family accused me of overeating, and I was ordered to forego one of my four meals. I complied, and began jogging (what else could I do?), and then the dose of the drug I was taking was reduced. Sometimes I skipped the lunch-time dose at school, which was placed in my lunch-pail. In six months I became skinny. Will-power had nothing to do with it, and still doesn’t, to this day.
Now I can eat what I want, when I want, within certain limits, mainly poverty. Staying skinny is effortless. When I exercise, it’s mainly for fear of becoming weak and vulnerable to physical injury. But as I age, I may start gaining weight, or my weight may remain constant while muscle and bone are replaced with fat, or I may waste away. I may get some dreadful disease, and be put on medications (assuming I get some financial assistance) that cause me to gain weight.
When I go to see a doctor (should I be so fortunate as to be allowed that), I fear that anti-fat prejudice and hysteria, and the maniac drive to cut costs for the sake of fascist austerity, may make him a quack! I know that being thin doesn’t mean I can’t have hardening of the arteries or heart disease. I want to be stress-tested! If my heart or arteries have a problem, I’d like to know that before I exercise! And if I should gain weight, and then get sick, I don’t want the doctor to say “you need to lose weight”, because that’s quackery! Body fat does not cause illness, and being fat is not an illness!
In short, I’m for fat liberation because I want to live to a ripe old age and I want the true causes and remedies for illness to be discovered.
I design, manufacture and retail women’s plus size clothing and I’m here to get involved. I can’t think of a better way to understand who I design for than to jump right in the middle of their conversation…I’m just here to learn.
I found this site through searching for “fat girl blog”
I just started my own blog. I want to connect with people who understand what it’s like being overweight, plus I have a few other issues that I will talk about through my blog in due time.
I found this sight while searching antm.
Bassicly I’m a former thin girl who everyone thought was destined to be a model. But then I became a teen and recieved a pear bone structure.
You guys rock!! You totally inspired me to start my own blog. Thank you so much for being here!
I stumbled upon this page while looking through sites about eating disorders. I have been using SU for more than a year, stumbling eating-disorder sites and never once have I found one that dealt with compulsive eating (which I suffer from) and being fat. Part of recovery for that type of thing is accepting yourself the way you are, and to stop trying to “diet” yourself into “happiness”. So this is a big surprise to me. I found a place that people come to express self-love, instead of idolization, and inclusiveness, instead of exclusivity. I am in love with your site, which has reminded me what self esteem feels like. Just a few blog entries in, I’m in love. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your flickr page. I’ve added a pic of my son and I already. http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2645/3832004333_b1e4875c74.jpg
I will be reading again soon!
Good day all
Dam shes stunning wish i looked like her when i was….. BIG but i got a great story to share..
I was in South America for 2 years and I got the tape worm (by accident). Dam i lost weight quick it helped me speed my metabolism up. It was great (a little energy draining).At some point i thought i had contracted HIV ( i met up with my old boyfriend there) cause of all the weight loss. Then suddenly I went to the Doc he told me I was negative and did a scan dam “it was BIG”
He immediatly prescribed medicine, but i never took it I wanted to loose another 5 pounds, did it in 6 days and BAM “it” was a gonna.
Any one interested in speaking to me about it can gladly contact me
Mwah
Sarah
A friend linked to this blog after some ignorant ass made a nasty comment about “fat lazy people” in a mutual friend’s journal. I am new to the world of online community for fat positive/fat acceptance, but I’ve been a big girl a long time.
I ran across your blog and I absolutely LOVE it! Thanks for devoting the best news, info, tips and a positive spin on loving our full-figured bodies. I can appreciate all you have to offer the readers.
I think I’ve run across the best dating site for those women and men who have ‘a little more to offer’. Check out http://www.mypluslove.com. It’s the best dating connection for plus size people! We all want to be accepted just the way we are and that’s the beauty of looking for love in all the ‘right’ places. It comes highly recommended and has a great reputation for being a happy searching experience.
Found site by accident, just passing through.
Always heavy but parents made sure I did my share of working around the house while growing up. Played sports and stayed active so never was harassed in school. Twice lost very large amounts of weight through odd-ball diets but each time regained the weight. Finally decided never to diet again and accept whatever weight I ended up at. About 11 years ago was diagnosed as Type II diabetic but still didn’t take it very seriously. Never was a big eater, skipped breakfast and lunch and drank black coffee instead. My problem was sodas, candies, cookies and snacking cakes. Eventually lost my taste for sodas because they were finally “Too sweet” for me and got to where one candy or a few cookies a day were more than enough for me. I started eating a small breakfast which apparently fired up my metabolism and with all the changes, I’ve now lost 122 pounds in 11 years which is less than one pound a month when you think about it. Lucky for me it’s been a lifestyle change and I can now eat anything I want, any time I want and am still losing weight. (Of course what I want now is different than before. Always liked salads and eat more now) Been backing off my diabetic medicines and if I can lose a few more pounds I will no longer be diabetic.
Hi, my name is Amy and I’m fifteen years old. I may be in the wrong place, but I have never really had a problem with weight. Infact, I’m really skinny. I just have another type of insecurity. I think I look 7 years old. It may not sound that bad, but highschool girls won’t accept a baby face :(. I don’t think I’m ugly or anything, I think I look like a rather attractive 7 year old. Anyway, despite this blog being about self-confidence for heavier people, you have made me feel better too. Thank You so much BBWS :D !!!!!!!!
I love this site and all it has to offer to us plus figured lovelies. I just have to say ‘thank you’ for helping to provide current information and a positive approach to living in a fuller world. I just launched my new blog this week and I’m hoping we can form a solid partnership to keep the plus size community a happy, healthy, confident place to live.
Hi!
I found you as a link on a site I was looking through and now I’m hooked! I’m a sucker for dark chocolate pudding and I love the humming noise a plane makes as you sit there with excitement over the impending journey ahead.
I’ve recently started a blog on corsets and lingerie and I’m looking forward to sharing with this wonderful community.
cheers
E
My name is Jennifer, I’m 21 and from the UK.
I stumbled across your fatastic site by pure luck.
I had typed into Google, ‘ sequin dress plus size’ and a few pages through i gave up, then saw your blog, randomly, as the words ‘plus size’ have been used a lot.
I think your blog is indeed brilliant.
I wish, so hard, that i had the confidence to love myself, i blame all my misfortunes on my weight.
All failed relationships wouldn’t of happened if I’d been thin.
I wish that i could look in the mirror and not feel nauseas.
I wish that when i walked into a club people looked at me because of my fabulososity instead of my fatosity.
I wish that I could walk down the street without my iPod in and my head down.
I wish that if some one called me a nasty name it wouldn’t result in starvation and bouts of bulimia.
I wish i loved myself enough to realise i deserved better than him.
I wish that when i think of turning my life around my first (and only) hurdle wouldn’t be my weight.
I wish i could eat out without thinking every one was judging me for actually having the cheek to eat.
I wish i ordered the burger with cheese instead of the chicken salad.
I wish i could still go to dance class without the overwhelming fear my wobbly bits will indeed wobble.
I wish i could find a decent website for curvy girls……
Because contrary to popular belief, even though i am chunky i like to go out, i like to be center of attention, i like to look good, i like to shop, I like sex and the city and god dam it i like to dance.
Keep up the good work.
You made me smile
x
Hi! My name’s Hannah, and I’m 19 years old. I came across this site in my Women’s Studies textbook. I’m from South West Michigan, and attend community college for Social Work. I’m a curvy girl and I LOVE IT! I’m trying out for a plus size modeling contest this month, through Catherine’s plus size stores.
I love yoga, reading, writing, and above all: art. I find the bodies of well-rounded woman to be indeed art itself, a real thing of beauty.
This site seems quite interesting and I plan on becoming more familiar with it in the near future!
-Hannah Rae
Hello everyone! I call myself Pixie! I am short, cute, and round. My main beef is that while I am somewhat okay with my weight, that it is so hard to find any cute clothes for someone my size that does not look like it was sewn from old circus tents by blind clowns in dark rooms. It’s like these people who run the clothing industry want us to feel bad about ourselves or something. On the up side, it makes me want to learn how to sew so I am not at the mercy of these discriminating designers. I consider myself to be an activist for all kinds of equality and awesomeness.
I love your site! After too many years of yo-yo dieting I finally came to understand about accepting yourself for who you are right now is the secret to a happy life! I will never be very thin, but am working towards reaching a healthy weight. As a CEO of a business classified in the fashion arena, I cannot tell you how many times I have been told that my body did not represent the “right” image by people who had even hired me to speak at their conventions? Duh…What does brain power have to do with fat cells?
Anyway, I have started a blog showing women how to tweak their clothing to accent the positives.
Does you site accept contributing articles? If you have had an experience like mine, I would love to hear from you. Please email me at jwood@fashionfitformula.com
Hi I’m Melanthios! I found this blog through fullfigureplus, which I found through a google search for pictures to use for a feature I put on my personal blog, called ‘Day-Brighteners’, where I post photos I consider pinup-worthy.
I’m not a bbw or a bhm, but I’m a boy that looks like a playboy bunny girl, so I have my own beef with society–especially the larger trans community, that is supposed to be so supportive! Recently I decided to just be myself and stop hiding like I’d been told I had to.
HI I AM A SIZE 0 AND IM 14 BUT MY FRIENDS TELL ME OH MY GOSH YOUR SO SKINNY BUT NOW IM STARTING TO FEEL LIKE IM FAT IM THINKING EITHER OF GOING ANOREXIC OR BELIMEC BUT NOT TELLING ANYONE WHAT SHOULD I DO IVE BEEN A XS AND A SMALL FOREVER AND I WANT TO KEEP IT THAT WAY
Wanted to introduce myself and say we should all love each other and accept ourselves for who we are…
I had Weight Loss Surgery almost 6 yrs ago and from a personal viewpoint I wouldn’t do it again…Let’s just say I was healthier when I was fat…Now I’m just sick and skinny…Pathetic actually…LOL…
Thanks
Hello everyone! I found this site looking for information on obesity and pregnancy. I am obese and a new diagnosed diabetic. My husband and I are desperately wanting children, but in our 2 years of marriage I haven’t been able to conceive. I am a registered nurse and I am aware of what is said about pregnancy and obesity….not a good match! But that still doesn’t alter the fact that some woman are able to conceive and have healthy children without complications. We have no way of knowing how any pregnancy with go. If anyone has a story to share or can give me any hopeful information, cause there doesn’t seem to be any out there. My husband and I are currently changing our life style and incorporating a good diet with exercise, but sometimes I think I will never get there. Thanks for reading and please feel free to respond! Waiting for baby!
Have you been tested for PCOS, Kelli? Contrary to what the doctors are saying nowadays, obesity in itself does not make you infertile…
Just wanted to pop in & say “hi”. You guys make me feel at home. :)
Kelli – I was 36 years old & a size 32 when I got pregnant. It *can* happen, and I sincerely hope it does for you, too. I know how heartbreaking it is to want a baby so bad you can barely function. It took us 7 years to have our little guy; but after all that time, my pregnancy was pretty uneventful (except for a cranky cervix & a bout with kidney stones early on – blech!).
Come on over & say hi! I’m at http://www.ChubbyMummy.com.
Hugs & positive thoughts for you, sweetie.
Hi everyone, my name is Sherly you can pronounce it like Shirley. I used to be size 6 or 8 before I got married and come to U.S to live. Since I got pregnant and gave birth, my weight has been going up to the roof. I am 4′10″ and 145 lbs. I have been trying hard to diet and exercise. Joined weight watchers, yes they helped me to go down about 5 lbs from 150 lbs. However, after constant hunger that I feel all the time throughout my days and nights, I quit. I tried to exercise on elliptical only to find that I injuring both of my feet. Tried the exercise plan of walking at least 10,000 steps a day also didn’t work out so well. I got tired and not losing any weight.
I feel so depressed whenever I go anywhere because anytime I look into my closet, nothing seems to fit me. My jeans don’t serve me well on a fluctuating weight (sometimes I weight 140 then the next few days back on 145 again).
I dreaded the moments I go shopping for clothes. When I am there (department stores) I find some nice clothing, either it is way to expensive, no size for me or just simply ugly designs.
I came across this site by accident (searching for tips to dress for chubby women like me).
Nice to be in a place where I don’t feel like the only person “different” in the room. I am very conscious of my weight and come to a point where I realize I probably would never go back to size 8 again.
Hey I’m Bliss….weird name I know! But I actually stumbled across BFD looking for ideas on how to dress for pear shaped bodies. This website is just super fantastic!!!! I absolutely love it!!!!! There are so many great topics and I love reading all of the comments and getting everyones perspective. This summer I’m going to try and drop hopefully 7 pant sizes. I wanna be like a 7/8 and right now I’m at 20, gross. I just know this site will help.
Peace, Love & Bliss ^_^
Hi, I’m anne from australia. I just found this site today when I was looking for songs for big girls. It looks like a lovely place and I will definitely be popping back here!
I’ve gotten bigger over the past years with lots of negative comments, especially from my family. I have some big friends though, and a lovely chubby hubby who loves my body just as it is. I’m working on being healthier, but I have given up on trying to conform to anyone else’s ideas of beauty. I really love how big girls (and guys) look now and I am enjoying being a bbw.
Hi! I just stumbled across this site after searching for Gabourey Sidibe (who I think is awesome!). I am a big girl, and I always have been. I currently weigh around 400lbs, but I would like to lose a little as I have just been diagnosed with pre-diabetes.
Sometimes I feel like I am the most beautiful girl in the world, others I think that I am not. I have been married a year, and my husband loves me just the way I am (he can’t seem to get enough!). It is good to see a blog that inspires girls like me. I am going to keep visiting and read what you all have to say.
I would like to compliment you for the attempts you have hit in releasing this read. I am anticipating the same nice work from you again too.
Hi there – Michele Coppola from Portland, Oregon, here. Just found your blog on Blogher, and I’m impressed – great design!
I also write about big fat issues in pop culture, and am currently writing a semi-autobiographical novel about an unashamed fat woman working in the radio business, called Fat Girl DJ.
I’ll pass along things I find (and I’m finding quite a bit these days – thanks to Kevin Smith, fat is the new black) and I’ll check back often!
Oh – and choclate pudding is my favorite – combine that with a kazoo and you’ve got a full night’s entertainment as far as I’m concerned!
Hi.. love the site. I found it through a google search of the Kevin Smith SW issue and I love what you ladies are doing here. Just wish there was something like this when I was younger, would have helped me not be so bitter before I met my husband. But then trading insults with the low brow, fat haters in high school did help sharpen the wit a bit. Looking forward to reading all the great things here.*smiles*
I have been reading for awhile, but this morning, when catching up on my backlog of unread blogs, thought I should finally introduce myself. I’ve spent most of my life dealing with body image issues, both my own and those of my students.
I illustrate and write with the purpose of creating a positive, light-hearted approach to the difficult topics of negative body image and size acceptance.
hopes & dreams that all of the different voices and ways women are expressing our misery/anger/rebellion against this image-driven, body-hating culture will someday result in a healthier, happier emotional life for girls & women.
Favorite pudding? real banana custard pudding (made with whole milk & eggs) with vanilla wafers lining the bowl, topped with baked meringue. served warm of course!