The idea of height insecurity was touched on in the comments of a recent post, and I thought it was worthy of some more discussion. Below are comments from Arlene, MarqueeMoon, and Beth.
You know, everyone is always going on and on and on about how models are so impossibly skinny and set an impossible standard for the rest of us women and shouldn’t all models weigh the same as normal people and stop warping our minds in terms of what we feel we’re supposed to look like to be considered attractive? But nobody ever mentions anything about height. Yeah, I’m never going to be 102 pounds, but I’m also never going to be 5?10?
Exactly…I’m barely over 100 lbs, but I’m also only 5?3. I’m skinny as fuck and my weight doesn’t worry me- it’s my height I obsess over. I feel unattractive most of the time because I am not 5?11 and leggy like a model.
Ha. The height thing is so true and it is the main way that Barbie dolls fucked up my head — I never really expected to be wasp-waisted with huge boobs, but damn it, I wanted to be six feet tall. I still don’t quite feel like a grown-up because I’m not as proportionately tall as Barbie.
I’m 5’9″ myself, so I’ve never felt the pressure to be tall or for that matter, any validation because I’m tall. I have always envied shorter fat women who have the “short and cute” thing going on, because they’re still petite, still “smaller” on some level. For many years I was obsessed with being “smaller” than the men I dated, because “women are supposed to be smaller” (not very feminist of me, I know). I’ve dated a lot of tall guys, and my husband is 6’3″, so… there’s that.
There’s also this: when my friend at work complains about being “a midget” I think she can’t possibly be serious, because she’s not only petite height-wise, but thin as well as beautiful, so where’s the problem? But now I realize she may genuinely be insecure about her height, and I find that very interesting. I’ve really been dismissive (in my head) of what it turns out is a genuine insecurity that I have never really given much thought to!
So where do you stand? Are you tall, short, thin, round? Are you insecure about your height? Do we need to start a height acceptance movement? (I think I feel a tagline coming on.)
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