Teghan sent along this link to an article on AskMen.com (and believe me, I feel gross about even giving them attention). It’s a list of “Top 10 Subtle Ways To Tell Her She’s Getting Fat.” Well already, it’s a charming list. Feel free to spare yourself the pain to your eyeballs, since I will tell […]

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I received this letter from Sara, and immediately asked if I could post it here and get your feedback. Hello Ms. Pie, I am having a bit of a dilemma. I am about to lose my virginity (at 22) to a man who I really love. That’s not the problem. The problem is that I […]

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I’m addicted to SecretTweet, the Twitter version of Post Secret, where people submit their secrets and they’re posted anonymously. Often there are weight-related ones that come up, and I think of you guys. So I thought I would collect a few here. Some of them are hopeful: My boyfriend weighs three times what I do, […]

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Originally uploaded by mo pie I got an e-mail recently from a plus-size sex worker who keeps a blog called For Lovers of Curves. I’m going to put most of this post behind a cut; although I don’t think it’s super NSFW, you never know! Anyway, her bio is:

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Originally uploaded by mo pie Allow me to introduce you to the Chubby Maid Café, an establishment in Japan, started by a woman who worked at a “regular maid café” until she realized all the other women who worked there were much thinner than she was. In researching what a “maid café” is, I discovered […]

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I’m happy today. Very very happy. I could be happier, but right now, I’ll take this amount of happy. And because I’m so happy, I absolutely loved this clip from a cable access show called “Goddesses” and because I love you too, I’m sharing it. Consider it a follow up to the jawdropper that fat […]

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Fat chicks have more sex than skinny chicks. Sorry, skinny ladies, but it’s science. The story is kind of troubling, though, when you start to look at it up close. The results seem to contradict stereotypes that overweight and obese women have less sex. If anything, the researchers said, the opposite seems to be true. […]

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I ran across an advice column today in my Google alerts that managed to make me indignant on three totally different levels, one at a time. Allow me to take you along on my journey! It really starts with the first paragraph of the question. My boyfriend Chris is 6 foot, 7 inches. I’m 5-foot, […]

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This post is brilliant and I’m sorry I didn’t think of it first: a look at the bodies of the new Beverly Hills 90210 cast compared to the previous cast. It’s like a comparison between the original cast of The Real World and the most recent cast. Thinner, more highlighted, more generic. It’s an interesting […]

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It’s true that culturally, the responsibility for having an adequately-sized sexual organ is all on the guy, but a growing movement is noticing that hey, it’s not like a vagina only comes in petite. One girl’s hooha might be snug while another girl might get labeled as “cavernous” by guys in private. After all, it […]

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We all know that there is no such thing as an “ideal beauty,” right? And that we women shouldn’t define ourselves or our self-worth according to what men find sexy, right? It is with this disclaimer in place, then, that I tell you the preferred body type for men, according to this survey (link NSFW) […]

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So, that was BlogHer! A very interesting, overwhelming experience. People were so friendly and awesome, I felt I could strike up a conversation with anyone at any time—and I did a lot of that. There were also lots of mommybloggers everywhere, so much so that it didn’t feel quite like my scene a lot of […]

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Celia Kyle writes sexy-sexy romance novels featuring plus-sized heroines. Commenter mccn volunteered to do a totally honest review of one of Celia’s books, as I thought some of you might be interested. Enjoy! The best sex comes with humour. Whether it’s being able to share a laugh at the noises bodies make when they stick […]

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The Star Jones divorce news reminded me that the divorce rate is supposedly much higher for weight-loss surgery patients. I was idly pondering this and ran across this post at A Smaller Target, where Espy says the divorce rate is 60-80% and speculates on some of the reasons for this. Part of the reason is […]

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First, there was the 14-year-old who wanted to know how to feel beautiful. Then, the 16-year-old athlete dealing with bulimia. Here’s another e-mail from a young woman (this time she’s 21) looking for some support and help from Big Fat Deal. Bolding mine. So I really don’t know how to start this e-mail. I go […]

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