BFDiva Laurie sent me a very exciting email recently: she’s been chosen to be on TLC’s Say Yes to the Dress: Big Bliss. It is a spinoff of their Say Yes to the Dress series, and it’s about, as you may guess, shopping for a wedding dress. The Big Bliss spinoff focuses on plus-sized brides. […]

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Since we were just talking about “lose weight for your wedding” pressure, this post by Silvana of Tiger Beatdown really resonated. I was pretty fine with my body. Fine with being a fat bride. Fine with the fact that I was wearing a strapless dress which showed off my, yes, arms — which are considered […]

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Earlier this week, a plea for advice turned up in the comments. It directed us to this Dear Sugar column, where a man with “physical deformities and joint abnormalities” wrote in asking for advice: My problem—and my problem with most advice-outlets—is that there’s not much of a resource for people like me. In movies, ugly […]

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On Twitter, Jen_Lee alerted me to this Ask Metafilter post entitled “I want to be a brain in a jar.” The letter-writer is married to a guy who says he doesn’t want to have with her because she’s fat (among other charming qualities). And it gets worse: they are (read: he is) poly*, and the […]

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Cubicalgirl in the comments alerted us to the existence of this shirt, saying: It’s got the universal man/woman icons on it, only the woman is bigger and it says “Team Player” underneath, the implication being that the guy wearing the shirt will “take one for the team” and chat up the fat friend so his […]

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We recently talked about how relatively minor incidents can sometimes feel much more significant than they really are. There are a lot of thought-provoking stories in the comments and I urge you to check out the comments thread if you haven’t had a chance lately. I was reminded of that conversation today when I was […]

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One of our most commented posts ever is the “how do strangers treat you?” post linked in the sidebar. It’s been two years, and we keep getting responses that are so thoughtful and represent such a range of experience. I wanted to post some of the recent ones. First, Becky is mocked in front of […]

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It’s Feel Good Friday, so how about some topless plus-size models? Follow this link! NSFW! (And thanks to Laurie for the link!) For its June 2010 issue, French Marie Claire has gone curvy with editorials featuring plus-size models in lingerie and swimsuits à la française–that’s right, only bottoms, no tops! Of course, these are all […]

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Cindy in the comments alerted us to a couple of posts on SF Gate that I thought were worthy of their own post. First, an article with the headline Fat people deny their [sic] plus size: In the same way as anorexics may have a distorted self-perception of being fat, some overweight and obese people […]

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On Heavy Girls and Sexy Times, by Silvana, at Tiger Beatdown. 2. Here is what you learn very early, as a young woman prone to fatness, even before puberty: My body is bad. My body is disgusting. My body is something for me to fight against. My body will not cooperate with my desire to […]

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I got an email this morning about a controversy brewing at ABC, who is refusing to air a lingerie ad for Lane Bryant that features a plus-sized model. Specifically, “a pleasantly plump model [who] gracefully shows off her curves before the camera in a slew of sexy poses.” (Because she’s sexy she gets to be […]

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As our Dating While Fat conversation continues, I feel I was remiss in not include a link to this video. Woo!

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An excellent post about being fat and dating at The Rotund, where a reader wrote in, “So, how do we open ourselves up to almost certain rejection pointed directly at weight, without sliding backward on the FA?” Marianne makes a bunch of great points, so I recommend reading the whole thing: 1. The best place […]

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I do link roundups from time to time, to try and cover links people send me or things I might otherwise miss. I was thinking of making it a regular feature, especially given how much I enjoy the Morning Shots at Monkey See and Fugs and Pieces at Go Fug Yourself. But I have a […]

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So, there’s a dating website called beautifulpeople.com, which describes itself as an “elite” website for “exclusively beautiful” people. This state of beautifulness is apparently determined by a HotOrNot-style online vote. To become [members], applicants are required to be voted in by existing members of the opposite sex. Members rate all new applicants over a 48 […]

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I was catching up on my blog reading this weekend and found two posts I thought were especially worth passing along. First, I really enjoyed Kate’s post, “We Already Know We’re Fat“: “This so-called epidemic is not made up of theoretical fucking people who are just as fat as you can possibly imagine. It’s made […]

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I’m writing this post in the wee hours of Tuesday morning, after a long and taxing Monday that those of you who follow me on Twitter are sick of hearing about, I’m sure. So my brain is broken, and instead of a real post, I give you… the five Google Alert e-mails that I clicked […]

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ugly girlfriend adsOriginally uploaded by mo pie BFD reader Kellie alerted us to a series of ads from Bacardi, which suggests that the perfect accessory for summer is an “ugly girlfriend.” As Kellie pointed out, “ugly” seems to be synonymous with plus-sized; of five girls pictured, three are plus-sized. AgencySpy talked about the text of […]

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"not so little red riding hood"Originally uploaded by mo pie Artist Dina Goldstein is doing a provocative photography project called Fallen Princesses. Of this project, she says: These works place Fairy Tale characters in modern day scenarios. In all of the images the Princess is placed in an environment that articulates her conflict. The ‘…happily […]

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Anyone who knows me knows what this post really is. It’s a flimsy excuse to mention Adam Lambert, my favorite American Idol contestant ever; sorry Clay, Kelly, Daughtry, whomever. (Adam Lambert, I make such a good best-girlfriend-of-a-gay-dude* ever; seriously, call me. I have references.) *Avoiding the potentially inflammatory terminology here! Anyway I LOVE HIM, is […]

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Sorry for the scarcity of posts this week; life seems to have gotten in the way! I hope we will be back at full-steam soon. In the meantime, I wanted to draw your attention to this comment, from someone who needs advice, and signs herself “Hates Herself.” He knew what I was before he told […]

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I’ve been struck down with some kind of death illness for the past few days. You’d think that being curled up on my couch for 72 hours would mean I could manage a blog post or two, but it hasn’t seemed that way. I’m hoping to be back in action tomorrow, but in the meantime, […]

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More Hollywood news! It’s Hollywood Monday! There’s a reality show in development at Fox that will basically be a fat version of The Bachelor. It’s called More to Love. For six years it’s been skinny-minis and good-looking bachelors, and that’s not what the dating world looks like,” Fox president of alternative Mike Darnell said. “Why […]

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I’m not sure if Twitter’s Steve Buscemi is the real Steve Buscemi. But whether he is or not, I enjoyed this Tweet from him today, which I was pointed to by Nonk. has always loved overweight women and pre-marriage was never ashamed of dating fat girls. Don’t hide her–she’s beautiful. Immediately I had to go […]

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It is Feel Good Friday and it’s my thirty-fourth birthday today! How perfect, then, that I have two feel-good e-mails to share. Reader Katie forwarded me an e-mail from the wonderful BUST magazine, which featured a little blurb about Big Fat Deal. One thing they said really jumped out at me: The best part of […]

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