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Update To Fat Bridesmaid Story

February 5th, 2010

I’m sorry I haven’t posted anything since last Friday (it’s been a crazy week), but here’s a follow up that I was happy to read this morning:

So Carolyn, about an hour after your chat last week I called up my nasty bridezilla friend (the one who dropped another bridesmaid for being too fat) and told her that I wouldn’t be in her wedding. She asked me why and I told her that I thought her treatment of B was beyond the pale and that I can’t stand somewhere in support of it. So she got supremely angry (I believe the exact quote was “are you [expletive deleted] kidding me? Who the [bleep] are you to judge me?”) and told me in no uncertain terms why I was a bad friend. I learned that I was the third bridesmaid to drop out! She said she was trying to provide B a reason to lose weight. So I said, “so you’re a humanitarian?” which I probably shouldn’t have, though at first she didn’t catch that I was not being sincere. We ended the conversation super-acrimoniously.

“So on Sunday my mom calls me – A’s mom had called her to tell her that I was being flaky by dropping out of the wedding. Are we 6? I told my mom that A was a psycho hosebeast and my mom agreed, and then told me to remember to take the high road. So I sent her mom a check to cover the cost of my dress, and I sent a letter telling her that I value our friendship but can’t stand by her when I think she’s making bad choices that she will regret. And then at home, I cackled with glee when I heard from C that A is telling everyone that I ruined her big day and organized a bridesmaid revolt. I guess the other two who dropped before me made excuses, whereas I told her straight up. Is it bad for me to not feel any remorse that 3 of her 4 bridesmaids, and two groomsmen, dropped out (fourth bridesmaid is bride’s sister)? Because I feel really good.

Awesome.

Posted by mo pie

Filed under: Advocacy, Feel Good Friday, Tidbit

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19 Responses to Update To Fat Bridesmaid Story

  1. Connie, on February 5th, 2010 at 12:06 pm Said:

    Awesome, indeed.

  2. Maxine Dangerous, on February 5th, 2010 at 12:32 pm Said:

    YES! VICTORY! Go on, alphabet-initialed warriors! :D

  3. Ashley, on February 5th, 2010 at 1:17 pm Said:

    Good for her, that’s great!

  4. Sparkle Pants, on February 5th, 2010 at 2:02 pm Said:

    Not gonna lie. I totally laughed.

  5. WendyRG, on February 5th, 2010 at 2:14 pm Said:

    Truly fantastic!

  6. Garnet, on February 5th, 2010 at 2:16 pm Said:

    Oh my gosh. A sounds way too immature to be getting married. She sounds way too immature to be a fully functioning adult at all.

  7. MEP, on February 5th, 2010 at 2:21 pm Said:

    I really like the part where bridezilla had her mom call the bridesmaid’s mom. Maybe the groom will come to his senses and drop out too.

  8. Bree, on February 5th, 2010 at 6:22 pm Said:

    You’d think Bridezilla would take a hint when her wedding party starts dropping quicker than the camp counselors at Crystal Lake, but when you’re that image-obsessed, you just can’t see or think straight. I really shouldn’t laugh because I know weddings are very stressful but the bride could have not gotten into this mess if she would have not cared that a fat woman was one of the bridesmaids!

  9. Emmie, on February 6th, 2010 at 1:05 am Said:

    So awesome. Stupid bridezilla got what she deserved!

  10. SeaShore, on February 6th, 2010 at 5:04 am Said:

    That rocks!

  11. miss kitten, on February 6th, 2010 at 12:38 pm Said:

    the most IMPORTANT thing, in my mind, is how good the “too fat” bridesmaid has to feel, in being validated as a person who deserves to be treated well. having friends beside you is a really good thing. yay, and go EVERYONE who is holding this bridezilla up to the light and saying “your actions STINK.”

    …..and it makes me REALLY glad that TheEngineer and i got married at the courthouse in texarkana, arkansas. ;)

  12. Elena, on February 6th, 2010 at 1:23 pm Said:

    I am SO happy that went down the way it did. I LOLed at “Hosebeast”

  13. Alyssa, on February 6th, 2010 at 8:41 pm Said:

    YAY!!!!!!

  14. Weighting Around, on February 7th, 2010 at 7:45 am Said:

    Sounds like the makings of a TV show! I sure am on your side!

  15. Sarah, on February 7th, 2010 at 9:16 am Said:

    This is great! Wish more people are like her, sticking up for their principles.

  16. Liza, on February 7th, 2010 at 11:44 am Said:

    Well-placed use of the phrase “psycho hosebeast” (of course, Wayne’s World references are ALWAYS appropriate). Plus, like miss kitten said, I am happy for the fat bridesmaid that got dumped. It has to feel good knowing that there are people who have your back, even if they aren’t actually your friend.

    I hope that the bride realizes it was her behavior that caused people to leave her wedding party and that she maybe learned something from it. I don’t have high hopes about that part, but a girl can dream.

  17. Charlotte, on February 8th, 2010 at 8:58 pm Said:

    Wow, that bride is unbelievable!

    And “hosebeast” is my new favorite insult.

  18. Jenny Islander, on February 10th, 2010 at 9:49 pm Said:

    I think the fat bridesmaid, her friend, and any other ex-bridal-party member who would like to attend should have a private party on the wedding date. They can wear comfortable clothes, play their favorite music, eat something sloppy with their fingers (I’m thinking gigantic skewers of grilled vegetables, followed by chili dip with chips), and share this for dessert:

    http://whatever.scalzi.com/2006/09/26/how-to-make-a-schadenfreude-pie/

  19. Robyn, on February 11th, 2010 at 12:37 pm Said:

    It’s nice to hear a happy ending, and I hope the “fat bridesmaid” realizes how valuable her true friends are.

    It’s probably too much to hope that the bride realizes how appalling her behavior was and accepts responsibility with sincere apologies all around.

    And I gotta say…if I were the groom, I’d be having some serious second thoughts here.

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