"Save The Drama For Your MamaV": The Saga Continues
Not to beat a dead horse, but Jelly’s response is up, and it’s really great (and exhaustive, and worth reading).
When dealing with a painful, volatile subject you can be guaranteed that I won’t be the last one to leave a comment that gets your hackles up. Part of the ‘beauty’ of patriarchy and objectification of women is that it pits us against one another, makes us think that we are always in competition with other women, and teaches us to measure our self-esteem by how much better we think we are than the ugly girl. I am not envious of you, nor do I want to look like you. I want to be myself, to be able to love that person, and to be treated with the dignity deserving of an equal human being. I thought your blog would be a community where I could overcome my inner and outer oppression. I hope it one day becomes such a place!
Thanks for the heads up here, Jelly! And thanks for starting a very important conversation.
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Let’s give Jelly Heather’s concept.
And all her bloggers too.
IMO, Jelly is the Real Deal.
Jelly is my new hero.
For some reason, I had assumed Jelly was sort of a troll, and had flounced. There are blogs I can’t comment on, and rarely visit, because the things I’d read there would whip me into a blind rage and I’d start posting inflammatory, largely incomprehensible things (which I believed in deeply but couldn’t adequately articulate), feel guilty or overwhelmed with hopelessness, and skulk away. I figured the same sort of thing was going on with Jelly, and that there would be no follow-up.
That response is amazing. I am in awe. I would never have expected Jelly to come back and post a cogent, insightful essay of a response addressing many of the problems with mamaV’s response while remaining sensitive to mamaV’s perspective. I am inspired by Jelly’s thoroughness, thoughtfulness, and by her patience with the WATRD blog.
I like and appreciate your blog. :)
I give Jelly mad props for persisting, and for composing an
intelligent, eloquent and balanced comment. Heather, aka
mamaV, continues to show her incompetence by evading
commenters like Jelly, because she doesn’t have the skills
to respond as intelligently.
I do have to say that it isn’t just the White women who are
clueless. The sisters don’t really get it, either. That said,
Claire is the only one who actually *does* seem to get it.