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"Top 10 Subtle Ways To Tell Her She's Getting Fat"

March 19th, 2009

Teghan sent along this link to an article on AskMen.com (and believe me, I feel gross about even giving them attention). It’s a list of “Top 10 Subtle Ways To Tell Her She’s Getting Fat.” Well already, it’s a charming list. Feel free to spare yourself the pain to your eyeballs, since I will tell […]

Filed under: Fatism, Feminism, Magazines, Sex & Romance | 62 Comments »

Self-Conscious During Sex

March 5th, 2009

I received this letter from Sara, and immediately asked if I could post it here and get your feedback. Hello Ms. Pie, I am having a bit of a dilemma. I am about to lose my virginity (at 22) to a man who I really love. That’s not the problem. The problem is that I […]

Filed under: Fat Positive, Humor, NSFW, Question, Sex & Romance, Video, WLS | 48 Comments »

SecretTweet: Weight Edition

February 6th, 2009

I’m addicted to SecretTweet, the Twitter version of Post Secret, where people submit their secrets and they’re posted anonymously. Often there are weight-related ones that come up, and I think of you guys. So I thought I would collect a few here. Some of them are hopeful: My boyfriend weighs three times what I do, […]

Filed under: Fat Positive, Fatism, Feel Good Friday, Media, Meta, Sex & Romance, Tidbit, Weight Loss, WLS | 7 Comments »

Secret Diary Of A BBW Callgirl

February 5th, 2009

Originally uploaded by mo pie I got an e-mail recently from a plus-size sex worker who keeps a blog called For Lovers of Curves. I’m going to put most of this post behind a cut; although I don’t think it’s super NSFW, you never know! Anyway, her bio is:

Filed under: Advertising, Fat Positive, Fatism, Feminism, NSFW, Personal, Sex & Romance, Work | 8 Comments »

The Chubby Maid Cafe

January 21st, 2009

Originally uploaded by mo pie Allow me to introduce you to the Chubby Maid Café, an establishment in Japan, started by a woman who worked at a “regular maid café” until she realized all the other women who worked there were much thinner than she was. In researching what a “maid café” is, I discovered […]

Filed under: Advocacy, Feminism, International, Magazines, Sex & Romance, Work | 5 Comments »

Somehow I think "around the clock" wasn't the original lyric

November 5th, 2008

I’m happy today. Very very happy. I could be happier, but right now, I’ll take this amount of happy. And because I’m so happy, I absolutely loved this clip from a cable access show called “Goddesses” and because I love you too, I’m sharing it. Consider it a follow up to the jawdropper that fat […]

Filed under: NSFW, Sex & Romance, Video | 12 Comments »

It Never Stopped Me From Gettin' Busy

October 31st, 2008

Fat chicks have more sex than skinny chicks. Sorry, skinny ladies, but it’s science. The story is kind of troubling, though, when you start to look at it up close. The results seem to contradict stereotypes that overweight and obese women have less sex. If anything, the researchers said, the opposite seems to be true. […]

Filed under: Exercise, Fat Positive, Feel Good Friday, Feminism, Science, Sex & Romance | 41 Comments »

An Emotional Journey In Three Acts

September 24th, 2008

I ran across an advice column today in my Google alerts that managed to make me indignant on three totally different levels, one at a time. Allow me to take you along on my journey! It really starts with the first paragraph of the question. My boyfriend Chris is 6 foot, 7 inches. I’m 5-foot, […]

Filed under: Fatism, Humor, Media, Sex & Romance | 30 Comments »

Beverly Hills 9021-Oh

August 28th, 2008

This post is brilliant and I’m sorry I didn’t think of it first: a look at the bodies of the new Beverly Hills 90210 cast compared to the previous cast. It’s like a comparison between the original cast of The Real World and the most recent cast. Thinner, more highlighted, more generic. It’s an interesting […]

Filed under: Sex & Romance, TV | 16 Comments »

This Entire Post Is Probably TMI

August 11th, 2008

It’s true that culturally, the responsibility for having an adequately-sized sexual organ is all on the guy, but a growing movement is noticing that hey, it’s not like a vagina only comes in petite. One girl’s hooha might be snug while another girl might get labeled as “cavernous” by guys in private. After all, it […]

Filed under: Fat Positive, NSFW, Question, Sex & Romance | 53 Comments »

A Perfect Ten: Does Your Partner Love Your Body?

July 23rd, 2008

We all know that there is no such thing as an “ideal beauty,” right? And that we women shouldn’t define ourselves or our self-worth according to what men find sexy, right? It is with this disclaimer in place, then, that I tell you the preferred body type for men, according to this survey (link NSFW) […]

Filed under: Feminism, International, Magazines, NSFW, Personal, Question, Sex & Romance | 37 Comments »

BFD BlogHer Meetup Report

July 20th, 2008

So, that was BlogHer! A very interesting, overwhelming experience. People were so friendly and awesome, I felt I could strike up a conversation with anyone at any time—and I did a lot of that. There were also lots of mommybloggers everywhere, so much so that it didn’t feel quite like my scene a lot of […]

Filed under: BlogHer08, Feminism, Gossip, Meta, NSFW, Sex & Romance | 21 Comments »

Erotic Book Review

May 6th, 2008

Celia Kyle writes sexy-sexy romance novels featuring plus-sized heroines. Commenter mccn volunteered to do a totally honest review of one of Celia’s books, as I thought some of you might be interested. Enjoy! The best sex comes with humour. Whether it’s being able to share a laugh at the noises bodies make when they stick […]

Filed under: Books, Guest Post, Meta, NSFW, Review, Sex & Romance | 10 Comments »

WLS & Divorce

April 30th, 2008

The Star Jones divorce news reminded me that the divorce rate is supposedly much higher for weight-loss surgery patients. I was idly pondering this and ran across this post at A Smaller Target, where Espy says the divorce rate is 60-80% and speculates on some of the reasons for this. Part of the reason is […]

Filed under: Celebrities, Sex & Romance, Star Jones, WLS | 22 Comments »

21 And Never Been Kissed

April 11th, 2008

First, there was the 14-year-old who wanted to know how to feel beautiful. Then, the 16-year-old athlete dealing with bulimia. Here’s another e-mail from a young woman (this time she’s 21) looking for some support and help from Big Fat Deal. Bolding mine. So I really don’t know how to start this e-mail. I go […]

Filed under: Advocacy, Personal, Sex & Romance | 74 Comments »

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