Comments on: Bride Dumps Fat Bridesmaid Who Will “Ruin The Pictures”

By: Casey

Casey — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 18:52:59 +0000

Why didn’t you ever say anything?

By: Big Fat Deal » “My BFF Is Too Fat To Be My Matron Of Honor”

Big Fat Deal » “My BFF Is Too Fat To Be My Matron Of Honor” — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:39:58 +0000

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By: E

Fri, 10 Dec 2010 16:39:12 +0000

Honestly I wouldn’t either.

By: mo pie

mo pie — Sun, 30 May 2010 19:59:15 +0000

Here’s another bride who is considering excluding her future sister-in-law for being fat:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/a-wedding-planner-and-a-fat-bridesmaid

Also here is a really vain question: All of my friends are gorgeous, but my future SIL has already stated her expetancy of being in the wedding party. My bridesmaids are sizes 4, 6, 10,10 and I’m an 8. My future SIL is about a size 18-22. I’m afraid she will mess up my photos. Is this too vain and should I just get over it and put her in the wedding?

Some people tell her she’s being selfish and stick up for fat people, others (some who are sadly self-loathing) tell her she’s right, and fat people are ugly and unhealthy. So read the comments with caution!

I just really don’t get it. Is it worth ruining your relationship with a MEMBER OF YOUR FAMILY and hurting feelings just out of misplaced vanity? About your WEDDING PICTURES?

By: Shay

Shay — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 03:59:43 +0000

Broanna, you have a point – everyone does have the right to decide how their wedding pictures look. But if you care more about that than your personal relationships, then there is a problem. And if you look at your wedding pictures and instead of feeling content that you shared that day with the people you love all you care about is so-and-so’s tummy pudge in her dress? If you’re that supericial? Yeah, dude, sorry, but you’re the one with the issues.

By: Broanna Cool

Broanna Cool — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:52:12 +0000

You’re kidding, right? Everybody has the right to decide how their wedding pictures and scene would look. It only happens once for christs sake. B knows she’s fat, and even agreed to lose weight. If you didn’t want your 80 lb 5’9 friend to be in your wedding party and pictures you have a choice to say so. And why are you looking into such domestic problems? Is this site a pity party?
Also to your other entry, the public knows most fat people are not gluttons. But they also know there is NO WAY you can exersize 2-3 times a week (as recomended by doctors!) and eat the right amount of calories. You may seem healthy now but it will catch up and you may even die from a horrible preventable death.

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 02:06:07 +0000

This exact thing happened to me but it is my brothers wedding.

By: Holly

Holly — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:13:03 +0000

“I’d like you to be a bridesmaid in my wedding!”
“ZOMG really?!?!”
*hugs hugs, cry cry*
“But…only if you lose 25 pounds first.”

Um what? Yeah that person would no longer be my friend. I would not wait until 2 months before the wedding for the friend to THEN tell me that my unsuccessful attempts at weight loss were not adequate for me to continue to be her bridesmaid. I would have told her to shove it when she told me it was “required” in the first place.

But I must be crazy…pictures are so much more important than the people you supposedly care about’s feelings! When my best friend got married, I was the maid of honor in a size 24 bridesmaids dress. 2 other bridesmaids were in size 12 and size 4, and the last one was 7 months pregnant and had to wear a different dress because of it. OH THE HORROR! But my friend cared more about having her dear friends at her side instead of her wedding pictures, that you will look at how many times in your life?

By: mo pie

mo pie — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:16:01 +0000

Oh my god Lisa, that’s unbelievable! Like the maid of honor had to be someone who was his physical type because he knew even then he was shopping around for a Plan B. Man. I can’t believe she’d give into that in any scenario.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:41:12 +0000

Hi! This story is probably true.My best friend got married back in 1988 & I thought I was to be her matron of honor. I was wrong. The guy she married said I was fat & he didn’t want me in the wedding.Needless to say , she is no longer married to him , as the friend he wanted for the maid of honor , he was caught cheating with.I’m 5ft. 7 inches tall & weighed around 185 -200 then. We have not been in touch much since & can’t believe she did this to me, as we were closer than sisters. It still hurts me to this day.