I got this comment recently, and thought it deserved a post. As a large breasted woman, I’ve always had that “well at least I have big boobs” fallback when I feel insecure. (Which is obviously problematic because why are large breasts good in the first place? Because of our stupid, idealistic beauty standards where you have to be skinny but have huge tits so men will want to have sex with you. On how many levels does that fail? Let us count the ways.) But before we get to that conversation, here is the post:
Hey you guys! Not sure where to post this, but I need some BFD help right now. I have a problem that I just can’t seem to solve on my own.
I’m a chubby, pear-shaped woman, and I’m very happy with my size. But, while I wear a size 10/12 in jeans, my bras size is a mere 34A.
I’m okay with my tiny breasts, personally. In fact, I think they’re super cute, and as it happens, my boyfriend agrees. I’m just so worried that other people will judge me because of my figure, or that they will think I am ugly, un-sexy, and un-womanly.
How can I learn to feel confident about my small chest? How do I deal with feeling that others might think I’m slightly freakish, or that I look like a child?
I know you guys are a wonderfully body-positive community, and I’m hoping you have some words of wisdom for me.
I know that it’s not only size 10/12 women who are pear shaped and have small breasts, and I’m interested to hear the thoughts of the BFD community on this one.
Also, while we’re at it, I think we should click to fund free mammograms at the National Breast Cancer Foundation. A click on that site, which is absolutely free, “helps fund free mammograms for women in need—low-income, inner-city and minority women whose awareness of breast cancer and opportunity for help is often limited.” A good cause if there ever was one.
BFD powers, activate!
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