Here, from Sarah in the previous post, is a comment worth commenting on. (She’s talking about a scene in Drop Dead Diva that depicts our fat leading character binging on donuts and cream cheese):
Iâ€™m not bothered by the overeating though. I am 100% on the FA bandwagon, and I know fat can be caused by many things, but the knee jerk negative reaction to depictions of fat people in TV or movies who overeat ignores the fact that plenty of fat people DO overeat. I am one of them!
Granted, even when I ate healthfully and worked out a lot more than I do now, I was not thin, thatâ€™s just not my genes. But my current size 24 is absolutely caused by the fact that Iâ€™ve been avoiding exercise and eating WAY too much for the last year or so. So, maybe the Jane character is supposed to be like meâ€“she eats when sheâ€™s stressed, struggles with massive cravings all the time (I tend to drool over donuts too, what can I say), and has a tendency to binge. Thereâ€™s nothing wrong with it.
Actually, I am sometimes put off by comments on some FA blogs that are always offended by implications in the media that overeating causes fat. Sometimesâ€¦it just does, doesnâ€™t it? I know itâ€™s not the ONLY cause, but our tendency to fly off the handle about it sometimes makes me feel ashamed that I am one of those â€œbad fattiesâ€ who really DOES eat an entire pint of ice cream in one sitting, or an entire pizza, etc.
I would never, however, eat squirt cheese straight from the can. Ewâ€¦everyone knows it requires wheat thins! ;-)
Oh, and when I say â€œthereâ€™s nothing wrong with it,â€ I am not saying that Iâ€m not aware that my eating is disorderedâ€¦.I obviously struggle with bingeing issues that I have yet to deal with. I just meant thereâ€™s nothing wrong (in my opinion) with portraying those very real issues in a TV showâ€¦.especially one that has a chance to be so fat positive!
And M. Jinxx adds:
Sarah, I am TOTALLY with you on that point.
In fact , before I got to your comment, I was reading the others and I had the same impression and was going to mention it but you beat me to the punch. I have PCOS and have for years and I also come from a big family, so I will never be tiny, but my recent jump to a 24 from my usual 18-20 is completely because of overeating and lack of quality exercise.
What about people like us, with disordered eating ( I am also a binger and an emotional eater ) who really are fat(ter) because of overeating?
It is a bit disheartening to belong to the â€œbad fattieâ€ group.
I wonder if the issues with the media portrayal are that it’s not being depicted as disordered eating, but merely playing into the “fat people are greedy” and “just put down the donuts” stereotypes. I recently ate a handful of Oreos at a family party, and I thought to myself, self, people are going to think you and all other fat people are fat because you can’t stop eating Oreos. And then I felt guilty about the Oreos anyway, not just residual good food bad food guilt, but also that I had let down my cause by playing into the stereotype. (This kind of crap is what leads people to binge in secret; I’m just saying.)
But what do you think–if we deny this reality, does this just alienate people who recognize themselves in characters who binge or stress eat? Do we want binge eaters to get help for themselves, or for the cause of fat acceptance, or both? And given, for example, the portrayal of Miranda on Sex and the City eating cake out of the garbage can, where does “normal” end and “disordered” begin? Do we all, at one point or another, fat or thin, sometimes pick up the donut, so to speak?
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