Comments on: Skinny Girl Asks "Is My Body Beautiful Too?"

By: Eve

Eve — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 08:48:50 +0000

I’ve been skinny my entire life. I’m 24 years old, 5’7″ and weight 100 pounds. I don’t gain any weight no matter what I eat. I have some limitations as to what I can eat due to food allergies, but trust me, if I could eat those things — I would. I don’t have an eating disorder but constantly get asked if I do. I get told the same thing about men not liking “skinny women.” [Not that I care because I wouldn't really be attracted to a man who was that shallow to begin with~]

I was mercilessly teased in school to the point where I didn’t want to go to public school and was home schooled all throughout high school. I still feel insecure about wearing shorts or skirts because of my weight. I hate wearing bikinis or swim suits too. My family is always teasing me with the “eat a hamburger” comment as well. It gets really tiresome and frustrating because I didn’t ask to be this way and I have no control over it either. It’s hard to find clothing that fit because I am tall but don’t have the width to match.

I find so many girls on Tumblr who are overweight constantly posting pictures of skinny girls like myself as wanting that body; trust me, you don’t.

What I have learned from all of this is that as long as I am healthy, as long as I am eating well, and as long as I don’t lose weight – I shouldn’t let anyone’s opinion bother me. It’s very hard to do because people are very, very cruel. There is a lot of campaigns out there telling curvy women to love themselves but absolutely no love for naturally skinny women. I get sick to my stomach when all the media does is hate skinny women and make it sound like it is somehow bad to be so thin. I’m sorry, but some of us don’t starve ourselves and yet we weigh what we do.

By: ...

... — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 01:20:34 +0000

Ashley I know exactly what you mean, I am 5’7 and 115lbs and I work as an ocean lifeguard. When people come to the beach they usually ask me if I am in training, or if I was there visiting my brother or sister. people are always so surprised when I tell them what I do and I get alot of comments along the lines of “you can lift someone out of the water?” or “I wouldnt trust you to save me, you could never do it.” I feel like I can never complain about it though because people feel like I am rubbing it in their faces that I am skinny.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 05:15:43 +0000

I can relate to all of these posts above. I am 20 yrs. old, and at 5’6” I weigh anywhere from 95-100 lbs. No more, no less. I am studying towards my passion for law and law enforcement to eventually become a police officer. When I tell people this, the first thing out of their mouth is…”you..a police officer?!” followed by a laugh and a comment about my slender frame. I am struggling to gain weight healthfully, while building muscle and endurance, just as some may be struggling with the opposite. I have consulted my doctor, the library, and the internet with nothing short of barely any information on how to gain weight for someone with a metabolism like my own. I don’t think people can see how crushing ANY type of comment about a woman’s size can be, and some may be less reluctant to critisize a thin individual because it is socially “acceptable”, and considered “the body every one wants today!” Thank you for sharing this e-mail as it shows a different angle to the judgement people have upon others’ bodies.

By: shruti

shruti — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:34:38 +0000

i know exactly what you mean! i have been skinny my whole life…no matter how much i eat(and i eat a lot) i never put on weight. but that does’nt matter to me because i am fine being rail thin, having only a hint of curves. but what kills me, is being reminded of my imerfections everyday. my my mom, my friends, my peers and even randon strangers. nobody understands. if i ever complain about being skinny i get nastly look from other girls who think im trying to rub it into their faces. sometimes i feel im the punching bag for those who put on weight. they hate me for how i look, but at the same time say thigs like, ‘oh my god! you have NO thighs!’, or,’the 1st time i saw you, i thught you had anorexia’. i cry so often…i feel so alone. its like i am being punished for just being me. and its true..guys do make fun of me. and girls make sure they point out, how they are appreciated by guys…and im not. sometimes i feel like shouting at everyone, for defining me as the skinny girl and nothing more. for talking about how some actress looks ugly because she is skinny in front of me.most of all, i hate knowing that the whole world thinks they have the right to judge me… . i am waiting to find a friend who i can talk about my problems with, to find a guy who will tell me that i look beautiful and mean it.

By: sarah

sarah — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 13:53:40 +0000

In reply to Kats comment, In my experience as a skinny girl real world society doesnt accept me. I get comments all the time about how i should eat a hamburger or am told that “guys dont find skinny girls attractive” and when i try to tell people that these comments hurt they tell me that they are just worried about me or wish they had my problem but i doubt they’d be saying that if they knew what it was like, there are no support groups unless you actually have an eating disorder which is apparently a given if your a skinny girl, all the foods in the shops are geared to those to loose weight no special gym groups no jenny craig for those who want to gain and no sympathy, you dont get people telling an over weight person that they should put down the hamburger or that they are looking really fat, and if people do say it its considered rude but its totally fine to make fun of a skinny person where ever when ever. when i go out the comments are about my weight and its never positive, no one notices my personality or the clothes im wearing or the way ive done my hair im just skinny and thats all i am and thats apparently a very bad thing.

By: Jessie

Jessie — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 19:04:21 +0000

I just read her post, and I teared up a little bit reading it. I can relate completely!

I am 15 years old and weigh 100lbs (on a good day) and I am a sophomore in high school. Almost every day I get called skinny, or asked if I have an eating disorder. I don’t. When my mother was in high school, she graduated weighing 95 lbs. So I know it must be genetic. In 7th grade, I took an acting class, and in front of the whole class, my teacher asked me if I was anorexic or bulimic. I said no, and ran out of the class room crying, and spent the rest of the day locked in the school bathroom, crying in a stall. Now, 3 years since that, I still cry myself to sleep almost every week because of what people say to me.
I just want hope and understanding from others, and to know that I am not the only one in this situation.
Thank you for hearing my story, and understanding that I have no control over this.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:31:48 +0000

Don’t worry about looking like a boy. Skinny petite girls look like really hot girls, not boys. That’s like saying that fat guys look like women. I think you sound beautiful. I’m a nice cute guy and I am extremely turned on by thin “ruler” shaped girls. And I know a lot of other guys are too. Girls that are built like you have very beautiful bodies. Look at all those beautiful sexy figure skaters, like Sasha Cohen. They have “boyish” bodies and are some of the sexiest girls I’ve ever seen and it is because of their bodies.

By: reisen

reisen — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:51:13 +0000

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By: Chad

Chad — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 03:46:44 +0000

Not all guys are into curves and big boobs – maybe they’re just the ones who are louder about it. I personally find smaller women to be way HOT (and usually taken). Hold your head up, smile, look guys in the eye, and let your real self come out. The right guy will come along!

By: syerena

syerena — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 13:11:25 +0000

Dear all, i enjoy reading all ur comments n thoughts…
and Alyssa… when reading ur story it felt like i’m the one writing it because i have the same situation with u. I feel i will never find love because i know that most guys love woman with curvy, i think i would like that too if i’m a man…
my friends also usually make fun with me, like asking if i eat or not… of course i do! its just happen that i was born naturally thin with very high metabolisme… but now i’m happier with myself, buy beautiful dresses n i can be beautiful!… SO CAN YOU!!! so what if i can’t find love… i can be single n happy rather being single n sad…. its our life n its our choice…
I LOVE MYSELF