Comments on: A Perfect Ten: Does Your Partner Love Your Body?

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By: Morag

Morag — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 11:32:40 +0000

I think, from observation of subtle admiration not leering, that my husband’s physical ideal would be short, small-breasted platinum blondes with boyish figures. I’ve never looked like this and I know he deeply loves me. He fell in love with me, my brain, my conversation, my capabilities, and therefore I am attractive to him.

I do find my husband incredibly handsome, but this may be just because I fell in love with him. I have been in relationships before with people that physically were far from my ideal, and it doesn’t really matter. Its the same with friends, if you like someone, you tend to admire the way they look and dress because you generally feel warm to them.

I once knew a man whose appreciation of redheads almost amounted to a fetish. His deeply beloved wife has black hair – but she is the whole person he fell in love with.

By: Micki Chevalier

Micki Chevalier — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 17:49:01 +0000

Sorry, I meant tell him to go for it. Need coffee NOW.

By: Micki Chevalier

Micki Chevalier — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 17:48:01 +0000

Who knows? Who cares? If a man wants someone younger, thinner, blonder, richer, or whatever, tell me to go for it. Find someone who loves you the way you are.

By: Liza

Liza — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 04:22:23 +0000

mosessupposes, how does your boyfriend feel about human cloning? lol

By: Kyo

Kyo — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 10:40:17 +0000

Most guys probably don’t understand or have a good understanding of women’s sizes and weight. Even I don’t understand how sizes work very well, women’s or men’s (because somehow you can have a 38 inch waist and wear men’s size 34 pants).

My boyfriend once said that we’d be the same level of fatness if I weighed 140 pounds (I’m 5’3″). He thinks he’s 30 to 40 pounds overweight when at most he’s probably only got an extra 15 pounds on him.

My weight has fluctuated a lot since I’ve met him and the only time he had a problem with it was when it put me into depression. My fat didn’t bother him, he just wanted me to be happy.

By: sunshine

sunshine — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 06:38:34 +0000

poorly designed survey!!

dont take this stuff too seriously. this is just feelings from some guys about their women putting on weight…but fact of the matter is that most men dont even leave b/c of that. they get fat too or lazy or lonely so that dont leave the relationship. or maybe the realize that size DOESNT matter if you love that person. bahhh!

if the guy leaves you b/c of your weight gain, he wasnt that good of a man in the first place. those type of people are the scum of the earth!

By: mosessupposes

mosessupposes — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 05:47:45 +0000

I can’t begin to describe how surprised I was when I first started dating my boyfriend and he obviously found me very sexy. Now I’m 50 pounds heavier, about a size 24, and his attraction hasn’t diminished. He sympathizes with me if I complain about my weight gain, but only because of the way it makes me feel – he won’t stand for me criticizing my body. In the meantime, he’s lost about 50 pounds himself.

When I think about surveys like this, I’m amazed that people like my boyfriend even exist. But they do.

By: Lillian Mitchell

Lillian Mitchell — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 22:08:01 +0000

I’ve started exercising last fall and lost a few sizes since. My bf liked my body when it wasn’t toned and he likes it now toned. He says that he wants me to continue to exercise because he likes how I feel toned better. I know if I couldn’t exercise or decided to stop that he would still think I’m sexy.

By: K

Thu, 24 Jul 2008 21:48:53 +0000

I have to say I think clothing sizes are essentially meaningless as indicators of body type, for much the reasons iva says.

Also, guys _don’t_ know what girl sizes mean. I have a friend who used to work in clothing retail, and she used to tell me that after Christmas a lot of women would come in with clothing to exchange that was the wrong size (and not necessarily too small, either).

I don’t think it’s wilful ignorance; I wouldn’t always pick out the right size of clothing for my husband either.

We’ve been together for nearly 10 years. I’m another supposedly-average UK size 16; my husband is skinny. He’s seen me both fatter and (slightly) thinner and apparently didn’t notice the difference. Not every man is particularly bothered by a bit of fluctuation.