The Star Jones divorce news reminded me that the divorce rate is supposedly much higher for weight-loss surgery patients. I was idly pondering this and ran across this post at A Smaller Target, where Espy says the divorce rate is 60-80% and speculates on some of the reasons for this.
Part of the reason is that some obese people “settle.” They may marry someone less for love / passion and more because they don’t want to be alone. They put up with emotional and / or physical abuse, financial irresponsibility, infidelity and the like because they don’t think they deserve / can find anything better. Then they lose weight and suddenly realize they can. The irony is they probably always could have.
She also cites jealousy, codependence, and sexual experimentation as possible reasons. (Of course in Star’s case, rumor has it that she’s not the one experimenting, if you know what I’m saying. Although she is allegedly dating Miami Heat player Dwayne Wade.)
I’m glad that the quote above touches on the idea of low self-esteem—of course, WLS is not the only or even the best solution to this problem—and that just because someone is obese, they should never feel like they have to “settle.” I also know people who have had WLS or who have gained or lost a lot of weight and whose partners stick by them. I don’t know that I have any answers, but I do find the whole phenomenon—and Espy’s list—interesting.
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