There’s a conversation going on in the comments about whether some people look better when they’re heavier. The discussion started with Rhonwyn’s comment right here:
[w]hile I’m on the subject of Queen Latifah and losing weight: do any of you think some people just look better when they’re heavier? I hardly recognized Star Jones after her bariatric surgery. She was beautiful as a larger woman, but now I don’t think so.
Or am I just prejudiced against fat people who lose weight?
I agree with you. I think it has to do with each person’s weight setpoint. I look at the face. If it looks healthy, then I tend to assume that the person it’s on is also healthy, regardless of weight. Look at the Shapelings in Kate’s BMI project. Their faces glow with health and radiate beauty, whether they’re “underweight” or “morbidly obese”.
I also believe some women look better heavier, and Star Jones is one of them. After she had her WLS, her face got so gaunt. She didn’t look healthy. Carnie Wilson looked great when she was big too. Renee Zellwegger is another that looks a lot pretter with meat on her bones. She just doesn’t have the facial structure and features to pull off extremely thin. I don’t know if she uses Botox (I suspect it), but when she drops weight for roles, her face looks so unnatural. Not everyone is supposed to be a walking skeleton.
I don’t see anything wrong with Queen Latifah wanting to lose weight. It’s her decision. Maybe she feels that she’ll be more comfortable if she loses a few pounds.
If she’s beautiful as a larger women, she’ll still be beautiful as a smaller person. I mean, beauty comes from the inside, right?
It’s a slippery slope; can we judge people for being “too skinny” and then complain when people judge us for being “too fat”? And yet I still share some of these opinions. I think Renee Zelwegger does look better when she’s not at her thinnest. I think Star Jones did look weird when she lost all that weight. Can we have different rules for celebrities who are straining to fit the Hollywood ideal? Probably not.
And then there’s a model named Geo Burke. She used to be a size 18 (“hard to believe”!) and now she’s a size 14 (a “positive role model”!) At her current size, her agent is happy to represent her as a plus-size model, and she says: “Hopefully I can show people that you don’t have to be skinny to be beautiful.”
What would happen if she were a size 16? Or a size 20? Or a size 12? (Remember that Sarah the “plus size model” got kicked off of America’s Next Top Model for losing weight, and therefore being in between “normal” and “plus size.”)
It seems like in the case of Geo Banks, or Star Jones, or possibly even people we know, we quietly decide there’s a perfect weight just for them—not too fat, not too skinny, but just right. Is this connected to health? To aspiration? To how attractive they are to us? To how hot or cold the porridge is? Is anyone entitled to determine what the “just right” point is for someone else? Is Star Jones entitled to look like a llama if she wants to, and are we obligated to keep our mouths shut about it? Personally, I’m confused, and I want to know. What do you think?
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