Comments on: OMGWTFBBW!!

By: C

Wed, 26 Aug 2009 23:25:32 +0000

BBW to me is any woman who is beautiful, but also ‘bigger’/'heavier’. She doesn’t let her weight or size, which is above society’s crazy standard, stop her from living her life, or knowing that she’s beautiful. She’s fine with the size she is, and carries herself with self-respect, class, and elegance. More importantly, she’s NOT trying to lose weight, DOES NOT place a condition on her appearance, knows she’s JUST as fabulous as the ‘smaller’ women, and ISN’T down on herself.

By: Bree

Bree — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 12:26:05 +0000

It’s been documented for several years that the “average” American woman is a size 14/16, which used to be a regular large size back many moons ago, now it’s plus size. I was at one point a size 13 and considered myself average.

Now I’m a big fat size 26/28 (sometimes a 24 depending on where I shop). You can look at me and say “hell yeah, she’s fat.” I used to get offended with that term, but now I embrace it. It’s who I am. I never referred to myself as a BBW. I always called myself big.

As for the list, many on there are not actual BBW. They’re beautiful, they’re women, but they’re not fat.

By: Richard

Richard — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 18:12:45 +0000

I think that most people, honestly, think of someone as “fat” if they’re heavier than they themselves are. “normal” is where they want to be, and “skinny” is anything below that. That’s the only set of metrics I’ve been able to figure out.

Oh, and earlier, Cindy mentioned, “Seeing as how it’s well-documented that the AVERAGE American woman is about a size 14/16…” Is this the case? I’m just curious, because I hadn’t heard it before (and it seems a little off to me, but like I said, I haven’t seen the research).

By: Celia Kyle

Celia Kyle — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 10:58:19 +0000

Am I a BBW and when did I start thinking of myself that way? When my sizes started ending in the word “teen”. Even more so when they began including “twenty”.

Does your dress size contain the word “teen”? No? You’re not a BBW then, honey. You’re normal. Enjoy it, embrace it and love yourself for who you are. “Teen” or not.

Of course, even this definition needs work due to vanity sizing.

By: Sass

Sass — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 03:28:55 +0000

I find the whole BBW movement and the associated fetish communities to be troublesome for a lot of reasons… It’s a useful descriptor but I wrote a whole post a couple of months ago about making the switch from self-identifying as “BBW” to the less-euphemistic “fat” a few months ago. One thing to note it that making that switch (away from the euphemism) is an absolute nail in the coffin of an online dating profile.

And I still don’t get people who are trying to reclaim “curvy” as exclusive to small, tiny-waisted women with T&A. Like, “I’m curvy but in the Scarlett Johansson way” seems to be this anti-fatty posturing. But then you’ll see someone else say they like a “curvy woman” and clearly mean fat.

I, for one, am all for eschewing all fat euphemisms to stop these arguments of fat people trying to “trick” other people into thinking they aren’t fat. Don’t you see how wrong it is to steal key adjectives like “curvy” from more deserving, culturally desirable women!?

By: CindyS

CindyS — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 02:49:45 +0000

Here’s a fun piece a friend alerted me to on YouTube. Now THIS is a BBW. (No fear, it’s body-positive. Also really, really cute).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iE5Zytj45fI

By: SP

SP — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 00:21:46 +0000

If Jamie Lee Curtis is a BBW, the term is meaningless — the first B is nothing more than a stutter.

Also…you know, maybe J. Anthony has connections I don’t comprehend, but how exactly does he know whether Sophia Loren and Jamie Lee Curtis are proud of who they are? Has he met them? Is he their really close friend? (And where do I get that gig?)
Also, how does he know who is and is not ashamed of her body? And wasn’t Marilyn pretty much the opposite of confident, by all reports? …Were there women who got disqualified on grounds of insufficient real-ness?

By: Bri

Bri — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 23:46:58 +0000

Thanks for the mention Mo! That list of women still irritates me when I think about it!

Personally I find the term BBW patronising but prior to my fat becoming politicised (for me) I didn’t mind it so much. Now I just say I am FAT, beforehand I couldn’t bring myself to say the F word. See what the fat blogs have done to me! ; )

As for who it applies to, well no one cos I hate the term! lol. Seriously though, I have trouble considering anyone under a size 20 to be fat. I know that isn’t a popular view and that the BMI would say otherwise but my personal concept of fat is size 20 and over. Size 18 maybe. But I just have trouble classing women as fat when they are a size 16 or less *shrug*

Of course I am not going to argue with them about it, and I am not going to say they shouldnt be in FA because they have ever right to and if they see themselves as fat then ok. It’s just that *I* don’t (and who cares what I think?! lol)

By: mary contrary

mary contrary — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 23:34:48 +0000

…don’t you have to be big to be a big beautiful woman? bbw does not stand for real woman. that should be pretty obvious. cut and dry. we can’t have anything good.

By: geek

geek — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 23:18:23 +0000

I think it is appropriate to call yourself a BBW if you would say it in the personals when advertising yourself, and your date wouldn’t call you a liar.

BTW Your google ads, eek. “Fat? You Have Parasites” Egad!