Comments on: "The Beautiful People Are The Skinny People"

By: Tom Hesley

Tom Hesley — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 03:11:46 +0000

There are always exceptions to every rule. But as a general RULE, women with BMIs of close to 20 attract me the most often and profoundly.

Now I’ve said NOTHING about what women should or should not do. If they’d prefer to be curvy, then more power to them. I just happen to prefer the thin side.

If you think I’m shallow for that, then let’s hear what you find attractive. I guarantee you that no matter what you say, I can make a solid case for you being shallow for that preference. Liking thin women is on the whole, no more or less shallow than appreciating someone smart, rich, curvy, innocent, whatever.

By: Netta

Netta — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 23:47:11 +0000

umm… a bmi of 20 is almost the lowest healthy bmi there is. up to 25 and you’re gold, is what the bmi says, but maybe you know better? since you claim to be speaking for health and not beauty?
by the way, have you heard of muscle? it tends to weigh more than fat, and so gives you a higher bmi… but maybe women aren’t supposed to have muscle either (to be a bmi of 20), because everyone knows it’s unattrac.. uh, unhealthy.

By: Fat sick and tired wishingtobefatandhappy

Fat sick and tired wishingtobefatandhappy — Thu, 10 Feb 2011 02:52:47 +0000

I have mixed emotions over my “fattness I don’t mean to be the devils advocate here,but I wiegh just a little over 400 lbs. and I feel like shit physically speaking due to my high blood preesure and out of control diabetes and unable to get around without being in tremendous physical pain(back, leg,feet\ankle pain, not to mention all the yeast and skin infections I get due to being a diabetic and chafting due to my fat flabby flesh rubbing against itself and I,m not even in my 40′s yet!! I am extremely unhappy due to my physical ailments, all though I am greatful for all the FA’s here and in the world, because no one really knows what it is to be descriminated against other than other fat women such as myself.
To the 14 year old girl and others, try to be both accepting of your body size and be fit and healthy. But a word of warning please don’t become like me! I don’t mean to be any of your worst nightmare here,but I can’t deny the reality that has become me!How did I come to this? I always seem to be asking lately. I’m physically unable to do most exercises and those I do do are extremely difficult that I just can’t seem to bare them but only in a extremely short amount of time and makes me fell I’m wasting my time,this may sound like an excuse but it truely isn’t. I try but I keep packing on the weight at astronomical pace in an extremely short period of time. I put on over 215 lbs. in less than 4 years
I sometimes feel I’m loving my fat self to death. People treat those such as myself as invaluable and inhuman as if I’m not worth knowing due to my size, like Shrek said in “Shrek” who said to Donkey, “People judge me before they even know me”. And to here those in the media\fashion world refer to as “less is more” if that is the case I guess it is true by their standards that they also believe that “more is less”,especially when it comes to the female body and form. I heard some anoexic people say they starve themselves so they can disappear, well I feel like saying to them start eating like me and according to society you wll disappear! Because you will blend into the background,because no one rerally notices or cares about the fat chick unless she is the but of their crude insensitve jokes like the fat lady in a freak show only to be gawked at and shamed and still put on thet sterotypical “jolly” fat face,like it doesn’t hurt like Hell!!
My husband calls me his “fat sexy baby” But I don’t feel sexy or think that myself, not that I don’t try. I just wouldn’t mind being fat except for my out of control health issues and got nothing against those that are fat and fit no matter your plus size and,I’ll never be a size 0,2,4,6,8,10, or even a 12 again, even if I do some how miraculously lose 100,s of lbs.! I just want to be fat and healthy,and not the nightmare I now find myself desprately trying to wake from. I’m afraid I’m going to need major medical help with my weight or I’m going to die very soon due to my existing out of control health issues. I guess “one size (doesn’t really) fit all”,believe me it really should be, “one size fits most”and it’s Hell when nothing fits!

By: Rich

Rich — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 05:29:40 +0000

My sister was in the same boat at 14. my mom hired her a nutritionist and she helped her with food choices and life choices…

By: Quicksilver

Quicksilver — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 07:04:53 +0000

I’m going to take a slightly different tack here.

There’s a book “Feeling Good”, and while it is very flawed, it has an excellent, powerful message: it is possible to look at yourself with complete honesty, appreciate yourself, and make a good life.

You have some flaws. We all do. Maybe you are overweight. Maybe you are NOT beautiful. Maybe you are a plain Jane. You know what? That’s okay. You don’t have to be beautiful and skinny to have a fulfilling life and find love. Yes, some people will judge you for not fitting into their physical ideal. BUT, and here’s the key, not everyone will.

You don’t have to be special in ANY WAY to enjoy all that life has to offer. You will have a life with ups and downs, just like everyone else.

Hope that helps. I highly recommend that book.

By: natalia

natalia — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 06:08:39 +0000

I was one of those 14 year old girls who suddenly `blossomed’ into a medium-built, stocky kind of teenager during puberty. I was constantly shamed & beaten for this by my mother, ridiculed by my brothers, boys & teachers at school, and by society at large.

I did everything to try to lose weight, from counting every calorie, exercising like a fanatic, throwing up, & chain smoking but as soon as I gave up whatever harmful behaviour that was making me thin, I went back to being stocky.

And in spite of all this, I have always attracted men to me- whether I was quite fat or just medium- and I have never been short of boyfriends who cared for me. I’ve had more wonderful lovers than I care to admit, and have been happily married for 7 years.

Why? Well, I think the secret that many misogynists try to keep from us is that good men love us for the way we make them feel, for who we are, for the interests we share in common, the way we laugh and smile, and there is a special place in their hearts for women who are honest and do not manipulate them.

I guess what I’m saying is just be the best human being you can be, and you will never be unloved. Also, try your best to cut out anyone in your life who tries to shame you for the superficial things. They are not your friend, and they will interfere with you reaching your potential.

By: Teresa

Teresa — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 23:19:48 +0000

Rachel,

I don’t want to deny that you have had a very negative experience with feeling valued, but it really isn’t the case that “Even women who fit the fascist beauty standards imposed on us feel miserable and worthless.” I fit the standards and I love myself and my talents. (I’m thin, hourglass figure, and I’m even naturally blonde.) I always have. Since I was a little girl, I’ve known I have great things to contribute to the world. I am finally old enough to seriously get started on my career. I’ve been waiting for ten years for this moment in my life! FINALLY all my analytical abilities, language skills, and leadership skills are going to be appreciated!

My mother and father are feminists, and perhaps this is a large part, if not the only factor, in why I never put my self-esteem stock in my looks. Looks fade, 30 years of excellent career doesn’t. I never wondered if I’d be loved. I wonder if I can make CEO, or if I’m going to have to settle for VP.

The reason I’m posting this comment is to point to what I think is the solution: daughters raised in a household where their skills – not looks – are what garners praise from parents must surely be buffered from this self-hate you have endured. It goes back to feminism basics: don’t let men define you. Pleasing men is optional. Believe it, live it, communicate it to your daughter by what you say and do.

I’m sure someone will find this offensive in how “arrogant” I come off, bragging about my abilities and ambitions in a space where most people are commenting about their personal misery. I have found that my raw ambition doesn’t always go over well, with either men or women. As it were, pleasing other women is also optional. I am who I am, and I like myself this way. If you can’t take the positive message of that patriarchy CAN be resisted from this comment, then you will likely think I’m a bitch. Apologies to you if so; but I’m still gunning for CEO.

Teresa

By: Tom Hesley

Tom Hesley — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 15:04:35 +0000

Yes, I’ve seen starving people and I never claimed that a person in such a clinically verified state is healthier than a heavy person. You’re putting words in my mouth that were not uttered by me. THIN does NOT equate to starvation, as so many on here seem to suggest or imply that it does. Thin is healthy. But starvation is not. By THIN, I’m referring to people with BMIs of around 20, give or take a few points depending on the body type. Much less or more than that, and overall health appears to decline.

By: Tom Hesley

Tom Hesley — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 14:59:56 +0000

No, not EVERY one who is thin, is healthy. But statistically, more then are healthier than the heavy — what do you think the growing epidemic of childhood obesity comes from? Pleae do not accuse me of generalizations I did not make. We’re dealing in shades of gray here. That is to say that not everyone who is thin is healthier than everyone who is fat. Again, I never claimed such nonsense. Further, if you think that there is no link between obesity and poor health, then you’ve had your head stuck in the sand for decades.

By: Cie Cheesemeister

Cie Cheesemeister — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 19:19:47 +0000

At fourteen I had body dysmorphic disorder. I started sticking my finger down my throat after eating. And the truth is, I was skinny. I’m far from skinny now but I think I’m actually healthier. Don’t worry about weight loss, concentrate on being healthy and active instead. Do the things you love. Then you will shine!