Comments on: Are You Insecure About Your Height?

By: intebaratjock

intebaratjock — Wed, 16 Mar 2011 00:12:57 +0000

I thought about the sentence “A lot of guys seem to think that dating a tall woman is somehow emasculating.”
I think that men who are insecure, and men who feel that they are not very “manly” are those who are intimidated bu tall women.

By: ceceblushes

ceceblushes — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 16:02:32 +0000

I remember standing at the bus stop with my mother for my first day of school. Next to us was a woman of asian descent (I think she was Korean, but I am not sure) and at 6 years old I was 4’6″ tall and 83 lbs., nearly as tall and as heavy as she was. I’ve had insecurities about my height and feet length for as long as I can remember. I envied girls who could sit in chairs and have their feet not touch the floor. I wanted to be the girl who had to get on tip toes — or better yet, call someone like me– to reach things. For years I felt like being shorter than I am was somehow more “normal”, and normalcy was something I strived for since I always was taller, darker, had bigger feet, thicker hair or something else that made me different from other young girls. I wished I could be the girl who got picked up and tossed in the pool, but being taller and bigger than most guys my age, it was probably too intimidating a thing to even think of doing. I used to abhor wearing high heels; partly because wearing a size 11/12 there was absolutely nothing cute that I could get that was within my mother’s (or later my own) price range. I couldn’t– and still can’t– go to a normal store in the mall and buy anything that my girlfriends buy be it clothes or shoes.

Now, I still have some issues, but I have come to embrace my height. I am a big girl, six feet four in my favorite heels and nearly 300 lbs. I’ve got a brickhouse figure with large thighs and a big butt and I love it all. Sometimes, yeah I wish my thighs were a tad bit smaller and my waist was what it used to be when I was 17… when I was so preoccupied with the stigma of being a big girl that I didn’t notice how beautiful and statuesque I really was, and am. As for the boys, I certainly realize that most of them who picked on my were only voicing their own insecurities because of how I towered over them. I love a tall tall man, because there is nothing better than hugging someone and having my face sit on their chest rather than over his shoulder. But the tall men in my area seem to go for girls who are 5’5″ and below, and the only men that seem to be interested in me are the ones 5’6″ and below who have a fetish for climbing large things. Ain’t that bout a bitch? Oh well. Now, especially being the weight I am and carrying it all in my hips, I wouldn’t trade my height for most anything at all.

By: S_Morlowe

S_Morlowe — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 21:10:40 +0000

I tend to vacillate a lot between wanting to be taller and being happy with my height. I’m 19, 5’3″, and a UK size 12 (I think I’m about a US 8-10).
-Sometimes I feel like I’d be taken a bit more seriously if I was taller. That people wouldn’t assume I’m like 3 years younger than I am. Mostly, I just make sure any meetings I’m in are seated, so that’s not too bad.
-I love when my feet don’t touch the floor on public transport. This happens quite a bit, but I can swing my legs and pretend I’m living in a giant’s world. Crazy, and ridiculously immature, but it puts a smile on my face!
-I feel invisible sometimes when I’m going out because I can’t walk in heels, and most of my female friends are a good 4 inches taller than me to start with…then they all have heels… and I end up feeling like the little cousin following them around. They get a lot more attention from both guys and girls.
-I like that my height is pretty much average: I rarely tower over anyone, or feel dwarfed by anyone, which makes me feel like I blend better (*feel like- I’m still quite socially awkward :P).

By: afrokittay

afrokittay — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 01:04:12 +0000

I’m six foot two, (six foot six im my favorite heels) Never wanted to be shorter, just wanted a smaller head. The thing that annoys me about my height has always been the way certain(usually insecure and male folks respond to it. I often get questions regarding my sexuality and even my gender. My favorite ignorant comment: Oh she’s entirely too big to be a girl” yawn.

By: Elayne

Elayne — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 16:47:42 +0000

I’m 5’10″ & I was already 5’9″ by the time I was 14, my mom & my sister are three to four inches shorter & my dad & brother maybe 2 to 3 inches taller. So I am the black sheep in that respect.
One thing I do like is being close to men in height, that part is cool. But I HATE being taller than other women.

By: Twix

Twix — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 05:07:49 +0000

me – 5’10 1/2″ 350lbs
him – 5′ 5″ 125lbs
5 kids, bgggb, in varying heights and weights
I think we are the extreme opposite of what most would find normal simple because I’m the bigger taller one. It’s a challenge to go out confidentally but I do. It’s not uncommon for us to be stared at or pointed to. And even stopped if we have the kids with us.

By: Diana

Diana — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 15:43:32 +0000

I’m 5’9″ and it usually sucks. I’m taller than almost all of my friends, even when they’re wearing heels and I’m in socks.
I did online dating for sometime and met quite a few guys who said they were 5’10 or 11″ and were shorter than me. Sweet. My bf is about 6’1″ and I’m only 4″ shorter than he is. I love feeling like a freak.

On top of that, I’m one of those girls who actually DO have a large frame. They do exist. I wear a size 12W womens shoe, sometimes just 12 but can’t find much in my style or price range other than orthopedic granny shoes, diabetic shoes, hooker heels or dyable bridal wear. No cute strappy summer sandals for me! I can’t wear standard jewelry because the bracelets either wont clasp shut, or wont fit over my giant man hands and/or wrists. Yes, man hands. I wear a mens size large glove. Womens gloves don’t fit past my first set of knuckles. I can’t even FORCE them on. No cute winter gloves for me!

As a result, I don’t get to feel very girly very often. I’m just short enough that “tall” pants are too long but they don’t make plus size tall stuff at a decent price anyway. But I’m also 25 and don’t want to dress like an old lady. I can’t wear pretty shoes (mens sandals are my staple), most jewelry, anything cute and in season.

The only redeeming thing? I’m strong and with decent stamina. If you ever need any heavy lifting, I’m your go-to guy. So much for being feminine.

By: Gabby

Gabby — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:36:55 +0000

I’m 6 ft tall and I, well, hate it. Not because of clothes, but because people act like I have a horn sticking out of my forehead. “How tall are you!?” “Do you play basketball!?” I always thinking that, if I say my height, what does that change? Will it make me less mythical?

I wouldn’t go up to someone really short and ask them, or someone really skinny or really large. There are tall people in the world, dammit, so I don’t want to be treated like a weirdo because I’m tall.

And yes I do want to date a guy taller than me. I want to go home to someone I can look up to after 19 years of looking down to everyone. (All of my friends are on the short side. First friend in college is barely 5ft, and we make quite an entrance. Great people, but I wanna look up!)

However, my animation class has a lot of tall people. :D Makes me feel comfortable. I also like to stand close to the basketball girls to feel “normal” for just a little bit.

By: Bliss Harmony

Bliss Harmony — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 07:45:32 +0000

I’m 5’5 and I wouldn’t say I’m insecure about my height. Sure sometimes I wish I were taller but who doesn’t? The only times I really have problems are getting pants, (don’t get me started on capris) reaching things on high shelves and when my little brother (who is 6 foot something) uses my head as an arm rest…..grrrr lol

By: CurvyChica

CurvyChica — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:29:34 +0000

Whoa, this whole discussion was really eye-opening for me. I had no idea so many people felt insecure about their height.

I’m only 5’1″, and wear a size 10 petite. The only time my height worries me is when I need something from a high shelf, or when I go shopping. It’s so darn hard to find clothes! (Although it actually, seems to have gotten easier in the last few years. Maybe that’s just me?)

Physical inconveniences aside, I’ve never had a problem with being short, or received negative comments about my size.

I do think it would be a good thing if we could expand our standard of beauty a bit, vis-a-vis height. It would be nice if short, beautiful actors, models, and dancers could easily find work…