Of course I bought BUST, with Beth Ditto on the cover and Big Fat Deal on page 18. How could I resist? The first thing I flipped to… well, was page 18. The second thing I flipped to was the interview with Beth.
I absolutely loved the photos accompanying the article, and I especially loved something she said, which reminded me of something that happened to me very recently. I will explain! Here’s the quote:
What advice can you give plus-size gals…who want to dress like rock stars but don’t know how?
This is the number one thing: just because something makes you look thinner, that doesn’t mean it’s a good outfit. That is the key in life for fat girls. For example, I love tent dresses. I think they’re the best things ever, and I’ve always been obsessed with them because I was obsessed with Mama Cass as a kid.
This struck a huge chord with me, because of what happened to me last week. I went to work wearing a new sweater. The thing is, this sweater is not “flattering” to my body shape. It is not “slimming,” as so many of my clothing items are. I wear a lot of black, I live in jeans, I own a lot of things that I feel are comfortable and flattering. But this sweater, not so much.
The thing is, though, I love the sweater. It has skulls on it. And although I considered returning it, although I considered leaving it in my closet, I decided, what the hell. So what if busty + sweater vest = bad idea? So what if I looked fatter than I am? Is that the worst thing in the world? I would put my money where my blog is. I would wear it.
And I swear to god, every time I left my desk and wandered the halls, or walked down the stairs, a different person complimented me on my sweater. Strangers on the street complimented me. The barista at Starbucks complimented me. The guy who always looks at my boobs actually came into our cube to mention that he had noticed the sweater (read: my boobs) as I walked by. It is a cool sweater, and a semi-crazy sweater, and people enjoy it. And it isn’t the most flattering item of clothing in the world. and NOBODY GIVES A DAMN.
I know, I know. This might not feel like a revelation to you. But for me, it opened up a lot of possibilities in the world of fashion. You mean… I don’t have to follow all the “What Not To Wear” advice about how to dress for my size? You mean I can wear whatever the fuck I feel like? You mean I can dress even more insanely than I already do? Really?
So, I don’t know. Maybe you already know this and it isn’t news to you. But Beth Ditto points it out in BUST, and I discovered it myself last week, and I figured out I’d pass it along. I’m sure some of you have excellent outfits that you wear, even if they’re not the most flattering items in your closet. You guys have the confidence and charm to pull them off, right? If not, I highly suggest going out and finding your own fabulous clothing item to wear. In fact, consider it an assignment–or a dare. Put it on and rock the hell out of it. Let us know how it goes.
(Photo snagged from Fatgrrl, as seen in BUST. )
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