I thought this post from signalfire was very provocative, and I thought I’d turn the spotlight on it and see what you all think.
I’m really fascinated by fat acceptance weblogs. I’m not fat, and I’ve never been fat…
I live in a culture that’s very preoccupied with fat, and I feel some of the effects of that, but I’m not fat, so I don’t feel all of them. So when a friend who’s fat talks about being judged for it, or wanting to lose weight, and I say “yeah, I know what you mean,” they’re like “No you don’t”… I think what I should say is, “That must be really hard,” but I’m afraid that sounds too much like “Wow, your lot in life sure must be difficult, fat person,” like I’m affirming that they’re fat (because even if you say you’re fat, does that mean you’re cool with other people saying it? I can never tell), and like I’m pitying them for it, which I don’t think should be the way it works.
Bodies, owning one, living in one, it’s such a strange thing. Food, understanding it, relating to it, choosing it, also strange. Trying to figure out the healthiest way to treat the whole subject…that sort of becomes a moral issue, “good foods” and “bad foods,” “good bodies” and “bad bodies.” And I guess I sort of spy on the fat acceptance movement because there’s not a lot of other places where that issue seems to come up.
The whole post is interesting. She talks about “spying” on the fat acceptance weblogs, as if she doesn’t belong here–although my goal is to make this site about body positivity and talking about all these of interesting issues more than “yay fat people,” it does have the word “fat” in the title and the fat mudflap girl and all that. And yet, I’m sure many of you don’t identify as “fat” and yet hang out here anyway. Right? I hope?
I guess I’m wondering–not only about signalfire’s question above (bolding mine, by the way) but also, how do we make people who aren’t fat feel like they’re our people too?
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