Fight the good fight no matter where you find yourself.

If I have to look a certain way to please a man then hell I guess I’ll stay single. I’m happy that way any how, less stress and less worrying about living up to someone’s craptastic standards.

And as for that thing about fat chicks with small tits…I want to bust the mofo who said that shit because I have small boobs and I haven’t had any complaints!

Or even better – what if they ended up old AND fat?

Bwah-hah-hah!

And I hope that anyone who spends so much time hating another group, whether it’s fat people or the elderly, will get a taste of karma. As bad as fat hatred is, the elder hate really bugs me. Don’t those idjits realize that one day THEY will be old?

Word. Look at the vitriol directed towards, for example, women who shave their heads. Some men think that it’s our duty to make ourselves attractive to them and they become very hostile towards any woman who doesn’t go along with that.

I’m not trying to minimize the difficulties in finding clothes, clubs, etc. for fat men; but not recognizing the misogynistic aspect of some of these groups, comments, etc. is a mistake, I think. The rise of women-centered fat acceptance chat rooms, night clubs, etc., is a direct response to the very vocal, very direct, and incredibly prevalent attitudes toward fat women in our culture, not a reflection of increased acceptance by that culture. Fat women have had to create their own culture of acceptance.

Now, in all fairness, I’m sure that the isolation many fat men may feel, (lacking the culture/social network that fat women have created) is awful, and I don’t want to minimize the pain of that. But in the context of the FaceBook discussion and its application to the culture at large, I completely disagree that fat hatred is entirely genderless.

I think this is NOT true. I think fat people of both genders have a really tough row to hoe, but I think that specific issues for fat women are tied up in other people, or patriarchal society, or whatever you want to call it, feeling like they can and should be able to control women’s bodies and dictate what they should look like, occupy women with “busy work” like trying to diet and exercise into a size 4 and keep their bodies hair-free, etc. etc.

This isn’t really about my own experience as a fat woman because I haven’t personally run into much discrimination or obstacles related to my weight since grade school. But I think that gender issues just make being fat even more of a minefield for women. I’m really not trying to say “women have it worse” because that’s almost beside the point (for example, based on your post I’d say you probably actually have it worse than me in terms of facing discrimination as you navigate through society at this point in time); what I mean is that in my personal opinion it is impossible to deny that there is a gender component to fat hatred. It’s about men wanting women’s bodies to conform to certain standards, not wanting women to “take up space,” and a million other issues I don’t even understand. But it is very real.

Hate groups in general: do these people have any kind of life that they spend their time actively hating groups of people? It’s kind of sad, that the only way they can seem to prop themselve up is to hate.

It seems FaceBook is no different – anything anti-fat is condoned because everyone knows fat people just need a bit of social stigmatization to get off their fat asses and lose weight, right.

Sigh. I’m glad I don’t use it. I’m too old for this kind of high school bullshit.