You probably know some former fat people—people who have lost a lot of weight and have kept it off. Some of them have seemingly lost a lot of empathy for other fat people. This woman, for instance, has called a stranger “lardass” and secretly judges her fat friends:
I find that I sometimes have to watch what I say around her. She will complain that she’s not meeting any men or getting the kind of attention she wants from men. I’d say that’s no big mystery! But I can’t tell her that.
When you think about it, controlling what you eat is all about no, I can’t, I shouldn’t. You’re denying your appetite, something that is physically and emotionally difficult to do. You could say exercise is as difficult, but when you take the leap and make a commitment to move, you experience positive messages. Exercise is all about “I can,” about proving to yourself that you have abilities and talents you never dreamed you had…And starting your whole journey that way puts you in a powerful position.
However, Delaney also talks about the fear that kept her “stuck” when she was fat, how much she hated being fat and “pitiful,” and how fat women think their “proper place is in front of the TV or at the stove” instead of at the gym.
So I don’t know. Are former fat people always in the position of either hating fat people or trying to help them “see the light” and become thin people? Is it just part of the process of weight loss, to judge the people who are where you once were? Are we all just quietly judging each other anyway? Is there anything we can do to change it? Should we?
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